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    5 Things to do Before You Leave Your 9-to-5

     

    I know it. I’ve been there.

    Slumped on the bathroom floor, crying so hard that no sound was coming out of my mouth. Tears burning my swelling eyes. Pain in the pit of my stomach. Crying out, “Why?!?!”

    The phrase, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” popped into my head. And I shouted to God, “I can’t handle ANY MORE!!!!!”

    This is the state my corporate job put me into. Cortisol pulsing through me. Mental and physical anguish tearing me apart.

    EVERY SINGLE DAY I wanted to quit. Just leave. Walk away and never look back.

    But I didn’t.

    I knew that if I didn’t have a strategy in place for my online coaching business, I would fail as an entrepreneur and be in an even worse place in my life than I was working my corporate job.

    And because I want YOU to success in your business, I’m sharing with you the 5 things you need to do before you leave your 9-to-5 job.

     

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    1.      Start Your Coaching Business

    Quite likely, you have already felt your passion calling you…pulling on you…pushing you. Maybe fear gremlins have got you and you’re worried you don’t know what to do. Or maybe, you’re hearing an old belief in your head that’s telling you, “You’re not good enough.” And think, “But I’m not ready yet.”

    Here’s what I want you to do…START.

    You ARE good enough and you will figure out what to do.

    Starting your online coaching business now will help you build the foundation of your business so when you ARE ready to leave your day job, you already have things well under way.

    If you’re feeling uncertain about your abilities, start out by coaching for free! Doing this will build your confidence and help you create a structure for your coaching program. Start with a 3-month period and see how it goes. Your clients will be thrilled and they may even turn into paying clients!!! Plus, this will give you a feel for the work you believe you want to do and solidify whether or not it IS truly what you want to do. Practicing your skills through free coaching will help improve your confidence and make you feel more empowered in your abilities as a coach.

    If you work in an office, working your online business from home will be quite a change. Yes, working from home comes with some nice perks, like working in your jammies if you want and doing laundry during the day. It also comes with freedom and flexibility that are very tempting to slip into becoming unmotivated and maybe even lazy. Being able to work from home and be your own boss, building a successful business, takes discipline and self-motivation.

    And remember, being an entrepreneur is not a get-rich-quick kind of thing. When you make the decision to run an online business, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. You need to be committed for the long haul. Building the kind of business and life you want is an investment of time, money, effort, and energy. So, starting your “side hustle” while you’re still working your day job will give you a good taste of what’s to come. Because success does NOT happen overnight.

     

    2.     Get Your Finances in Order

    If you’ve been following me for a while, you know about the financial mess I made (and why) of my life in my youth AND how I’ve managed to pay off two huge loans and my credit card. You can check out THIS BLOG to read more about it. This life experience is what helped me realize the importance of getting your finances in order BEFORE you leave your corporate job.

    You want to create a profit and loss statement where you detail everything you’re spending on your business and everything you’re making from your business. Create a budget for yourself of where you want to invest your money. Think about things like hiring a coach, attending networking events, buying tools and systems to support your business, get a separate cell phone for your business (versus your corporate job).

    I always recommend starting three different accounts at your bank: 1) emergency fund, 2) short term fund, and 3) long term fund. At BARE MINIMUM, you want to create the emergency fund. This account will be where you build your nest-egg of at least 6 months’ worth of money that will allow you pay all of your minimum living expenses for those months when your income from your business dips. Because, you know, when you leave that steady paycheck behind, your income will likely vacillate, especially in the first few years.

    Use your corporate paycheck to 1) fund your business in the beginning and 2) create an emergency fund. Not making enough money in your business is one of the biggest things that can cause you to want to quit. Take steps NOW to alleviate the stress of not having enough money to pay your bills by building a stash of money.

     

    3.     Hire a Coach

    Because the online world and becoming an entrepreneur is so vastly different from working in corporate America, you won’t know what you’re doing in the beginning. And that’s okay, none of us did! 😊 As you’re thinking about your finances and setting yourself a budget for where your money is going, I highly recommend you work in money to hire a coach.

    A coach will help you learn what you need to know in order to build your successful, profitable business. I urge you to take your time in hiring a coach. This person is someone you want to follow for a while to get a feel for her, what she offers, her work ethic, her vibe, the results she’s gotten for her clients, and more. She is someone you want to resonate with, who you trust, and who you KNOW will help you propel forward in your business. You will be paying her money to do her job…make sure she’s the right person for you.

     

    4.     Create a Business Plan

    Your “side hustle” is a business. You want to treat it like one.

    Create a business plan. Be sure to include your…

    ·         “Why” behind your business.

    ·         Mission, vision, goals.

    ·         Ideal client / target market. What her pain points are. How you solve them.

    ·         Action plan for bringing income into your business: all the things you plan to offer (one-on-one coaching, group coaching, courses, books, retreats, webinars, podcasts, etc.), including their prices.

    ·         Best projections of your profit and loss statement, including budgeting for hiring a coach, hiring a virtual assistant (VA), attending events or masterminds, paying for systems, etc.

    ·         Strategy to make it all happen.

    Remember, your business is a long-term plan for your life, not a fantasy of fast, easy money. In the beginning, it’s a lot of work and will take dedication. Once you find your groove, you’ll begin to create the balance you so desire in your life.

     

    5.     Reprogram Your Mindset for Success

    I’ve saved this one for last because it is the MOST IMPORTANT.

    You did all the “right” things, what you were “supposed to do.” You went to college, got a “safe and secure” 9-to-5 job in corporate America with a 401K, pension, and benefits, maybe you even got your MBA like I did. You ALSO, ended up miserable, stressed out, unhealthy, having NO balance in life, and no social life because all you do is work your tail off to make someone you don’t even know rich.

    Finally, you started to wonder, “Is this really it? This is what I have to look forward to for the rest of my life?” Through the anxiety that has you feeling overwhelmed and suffocated every…single…day, you felt a pull to do something more with your life. You had a desire to truly help people and do work that is meaningful and valuable, to make an impact on this world.

    And so, you started your business. Like most of us, you likely started out as a solopreneur…you know, you are the CEO of your business…and you’re the assistant, and the technology person creating your website, and figuring out social media, and creating content for your clients, and trying to figure out how to be a master at marketing, and building relationships, and perfecting your selling skills…you’re doing it ALL.

    And yet…your business isn’t flourishing. The clients are non-existent…and so is your income. All you’re doing is investing with no return on your investment. You start to doubt yourself, your fear gremlins are biting at you, you wonder if everyone was right, that “you’re not good enough” and “you’ll never make a living being a coach.” You feel deflated, defeated, and you want to give up.

    Your fabulous business that you created to help others create the lives of their dreams while creating the life of your dreams feels like it’s slipping away.

    IT DOESN’T HAVE TO!!!

    What I learned on my own journey is that the mindset of a successful woman in corporate America is VERY different than the mindset of a successful female entrepreneur. Without creating a mindset ready to propel into growth and success, the rest simply doesn’t matter.

    Get yourself on the right path NOW and start reprogramming your mindset to serve you instead of hold you back. And if you’re struggling, mindset and empowerment are my specialty; reach out to me HERE and let’s chat about the possibility of working together so we can get you on your way to building that fabulous business you desire and you’re worthy of!

     

    And you can finally escape your 9-to-5 prison!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. Are you playing small as an entrepreneur? Read 3 Ways to Know if You’re Playing Small as an Entrepreneur.

     

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    You’ve had enough and you’re fed up with your 9-to-5 job. You are tired of working your tail off to make someone other than you rich.

     

    You have a burning desire to do work that is meaningful and valuable and make an impact on this world. You know you are meant for more in this life and you’re determined to go after it.

     

    You know you want to be your own boss and have the freedom to make your own schedule and call the shots. And you are soooo you ready to open yourself up to unlimited financial freedom.

     

    So, you made the decision to escape your dreaded 9-to-5 prison and become an online entrepreneur. You’ve been very successful in your corporate job and you know you have what it takes to run a successful coaching business.

     

    Sadly, your business isn’t taking off. And you can’t figure out WHY!

     

    You may be asking yourself a question like I asked myself…“I’m a smart person. I graduated cum laude, I have my MBA, I’ve been working at my current job in a Fortune 100 company for 16 years. WHY am I having such a hard time getting my business off the ground?!?!”

     

    RELATED: Corporate America to Entrepreneur

     

    Quite likely, you’re playing small as an entrepreneur and you don’t even realize it.

     

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    Here Are Three Ways to Know if You’re Playing Small as an Entrepreneur

     

    1)       SELF-SABOTAGE

    A lot of times, when we make the transition from the corporate world to the online world, we feel like imposters. By that I mean that we often feel like either we don’t know what we’re doing or people will think we don’t know what we’re doing. We have certain skill sets and knowledge that helped us to do our 9-to-5 jobs very well and made us successful. However, those skill sets and knowledge don’t always transfer over to the online world. In fact, they probably have nothing to do with knowing how to be the kind of coach you want to be.

     

    So, what happens? Fear sets in. Your subconscious (and incorrect) beliefs tell you you’re “not good enough” or that people will think you’re a fraud. You’ll feel like you’re failing. And what you end up doing is hiding and making yourself invisible so no one will see your flaws.

     

    Yeah, self-sabotage will definitely bump you off your path to being a successful female entrepreneur.

     

    2)      COMPARISONITIS

    Ah, comparisonitis; a killer of success.

     

    When we get into the online space and realize we have a lot to learn, we do research…lots of research. We basically become human search engines. And we join Facebook groups with like-minded people, we follow people on Instagram who are in our coaching niche, we check out YouTube for “How to…” videos of becoming a successful entrepreneur, and we may even hop over to Pinterest to follow some of the top influencers in the field we want to coach in. All excellent data points and ways to learn and get ideas and inspiration.

     

    Also, fabulous ways to bring our fears to the surface and let those comparison gremlins come stomping on us. You may look around and think, “Ugh, there are so many women already doing what I want to do and coaching about exactly what I want to coach about.” Or, “My field is saturated with women who are already crushing it. I’ll never be noticed.”

     

    From there, you may go down the awful road of, “What was I thinking?! I can’t do this. I’ll never be successful as an entrepreneur.” What happened is that you compared yourself to people who have been in the online space for a long time and have built their businesses through years of hard work. You wonder how you’ll ever be “like them” and end up overwhelmed and completely deflated.

     

    3)       MINDSET

    To me, mindset is the biggest thing standing in the way of your success. According to William Wood, 90% of a person’s success is based on mindset. That’s HUGE!

     

    Yup, there are other steps on the path to success, but if your mindset is in the pooper, those steps don’t matter.

     

    You have to get your mindset knowing your worth and ready for growth.

     

    What took me a while to realize was that, while I was quite successful at academia and in corporate America, my mindset was not geared for success as a female entrepreneur. WOAW!!!

     

    I realized that my sense of value and worth came from a VERY different place in order to be successful in school and in my job. They came mostly from EXTERNAL sources.

     

    And in order to be successful as an entrepreneur, my worth had to come from an INTERNAL source…my mindset. This was NOT a concept I understood at the time.

     

    What I DID know was that I didn’t TRULY feel worthy of the successful business I was trying to build. I didn’t feel like I was ever going to be a good enough coach. I didn’t feel like I deserved the happy life I wanted. My ego was trying to “protect” me…but I didn’t know this back then. I just knew I felt completely unworthy of everything I wanted and was working so hard for. In truth, what I ended up learning, is that my ego was keeping me from all the things I desired.

     

    Maybe you’re feeling exactly the same way right now.

     

    For me, I had to take a step back and take a good…long…deep…painful…look into my soul to understand what was holding me back. In the online space, you’ve likely heard this referred to as having a “block” of some kind. I don’t like to think of it as a block. To me that’s like envisioning a brick wall standing in the way of my progress. A wall that I’ve basically given all my power to and expect someone to come along and tear down for me. Saying we have a “block” kind of gives us an excuse for not being able to move forward.

     

    I like to think of this “block” in terms of awareness instead. When we become aware, we own the responsibility for our own healing and forward movement. Yes, working with a coach is helpful, but ultimately, it is YOU who must do the work. And look, doing mindset work isn’t always easy. But, I can assure you, it’s sooooooo worth it!

     

    When your mindset is structured for growth and success, you will be unstoppable. Self-sabotage becomes a thing of the past. Comparisonitis fades away and you realize you don’t want to be like anyone else; you want to be fabulous YOU! And you recognize your worth and the fact that you can DO and BE anything you want in this life. Your empowerment is your solution and reprogramming your mindset (more scientifically known as neuroplasticity) is the key to unlocking the answers of how to unleash your success.

     

    Have you had enough of spinning your wheels? Are you ready for forward-propulsion and YOUR kind of success?

     

    Are you ready to shift your mindset, own your worth, and build your successful coaching business…and be a powerhouse female entrepreneur? HECK YEAH??!!

     

    Then take my FREE QUIZ and find out if you’re playing small as an entrepreneur…AND HOW TO FIX IT!

     

    Be empowered,

     

    P.S. Do you know the 5 key things you need to do before you leave your 9-to-5? Read 5 Things to do Before You Leave Your 9-to-5.

     

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    8 Online Female Entrepreneurs YOU NEED TO FOLLOW

     

    “Empowered Women, Empower Women”

     

    Jumping into the online space from the corporate world is exciting, exhilarating, scary, terrifying, confusing, and overwhelming.

     

    It’s hard to know where to start, what to do, what’s important, and how to prioritize.

     

    I’m a big fan of supporting women and shining light on those who are crushing it in this space and making a massive impact in the way of truly helping others.

     

    These eight powerhouse women are women I admire because of their incredibly giving nature and desire help others achieve their own success as well as their ability to continue to grow their businesses.

     

    Through following and connecting with them, you will learn business tips, marketing savvy, selling techniques that feel good, how to uniquely brand yourself, mindset tools, self-care ideas, how to focus in on things that keep your business moving forward, and so many ways to succeed through simplicity. These phenomenal women will keep you feeling uplifted, motivated, and inspired!

     

    Remember that you are important. Your dreams matter. Be true to yourself and you’ll attract the right people to you. Nourish your body. Fuel your mindset. Let your empowerment guide you. And always let your light shine!

     

    Here are the amazing women I want to introduce you to:

     

    1)       Lacey Sites, A Lit Up Life. Lacey is a Business Mentor and Success Coach for high-performing women entrepreneurs. Her investment in the success of her clients is seen through her Lit Up Partnership where the only way she makes money is when her clients make money. She teaches you how sell in a value-centered way that feels good to YOU. And her MSE framework guides you to discovering where your business needs help.

     

    2)       Adrienne Dorison. What a giver this woman is!!! Adrienne is a Business Consultant who is obsessed with helping businesses get double the results in half the time. Why??? Because one of her business strategies is that when you earn more, you can give more back to the world. She has created the Strategic Growth Initiative to help you get laser-focused and work ON your business versus IN your business.

     

    3)       Kathrin Zenkina, Manifestation Babe. If you’re ready to manifest the life of your wildest dreams, Kathrin is your gal! She is a best-selling author, manifesting expert, success strategist, and mindset coach for spiritual entrepreneurs. She hosts the free, highly-engaged Facebook group, Manifestation Babes. And her services range from her books to her e-courses to her VIP MB Tribe group program to her breath-taking and powerful retreats in Bali. This girl will turn you into a manifesting master!!

     

    4)      Angie Lee. Angie is high-vibe hysterical! She describes herself as a health coach turned biz mentor, 7-figure organic marketing unicorn, and serial entrepreneur. Her gift is helping women build insane confidence, master their marketing, and monetize their passion online. She runs a top-rated podcast called, The Angie Lee Show where she dishes out tons and tons of valuable information. If you’re struggling to narrow down your business niche, her course, Niche to Sell, is on point and what you need!

     

    5)       Stacy Tuschl, She’s Building Her Empire. Stacy is a High-Performance Coach and Business Mentor who helps you build a profitable and sustainable empire! She coaches purpose-driven female entrepreneurs on how to break through their challenges, operate at their highest potential, and create self-sustaining businesses – without sacrificing their family. Stacy hosts the She’s Building Her Empire podcast where she covers all things business from mindset to productivity to branding to 7-figure business systems and strategies. She’s one to check out!

     

    6)      Michelle Lewis, Visibility Vixen. Do you want to get visible online so you can expand your reach and explode your business? Michelle is the vixen for you! She is THE Visibility Expert who specializes in helping you skyrocket your visibility, monetize your success, and bring your unique message into the online space. Michelle assists you in landing press for your brand through her programs, Visibility Vault and Visible Press. She is the host of The Visible Entrepreneur podcast and Facebook group where she drops tons of value.

     

    7)       Kezia Luckett, Women of Contribution. Kezia is a Global Positive Mindset Coach, international best-selling author, motivational speaker, and the CEO and trailblazer behind the Women of Contribution Movement. As a coach, Kezia works one-on-one with her clients to help them release the blocks that hold them back in business and life so they can create the health, wealth, and happiness they deserve in every area of their lives, as well as inspire women to follow their true purpose and share their gifts with the world because she is a firm believer that every woman can leave an impactful footprint on the world.

     

    8)      Debbie Cromack (that’s me!!), Emerge Empowerment. I’m a corporate lackey turned renegade to become an inspirational Empowerment and Mindset Coach. I help female 9-to-5ers become aware of what is preventing you from success, release it, and propel forward in your businesses so you can break free from your corporate prison, have time-freedom, and realize unlimited financial freedom. I provide one-on-one coaching and I host the Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs Facebook group. My motto is: “Girls, we are so much better and stronger…TOGETHER.”

     

    I hope you found a powerhouse female entrepreneur here in the list to connect with. Follow them on social media, join their Facebook groups, and learn from them. And to fuel your learning about how to succeed in this online world, check out my blog The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs.

     

    Take my FREE QUIZ to find out if you’re playing small as an entrepreneur. And if you’re wondering if you’d like to work with me, set up a discovery call and let’s chat!

     

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    Be YOU in everything you do!

     

    Be empowered,

     

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    The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs

     

    So, you’ve decided you’re done with giving your life to a job where you’re overworked, underpaid, unappreciated, stressed out, have no social life, and are working yourself into an early grave just to make someone you don’t even know rich. AWESOME!!

     

    Now what??

     

    You’ll likely start out with excitement, exhilaration, hope, enthusiasm, and massive energy. You are an expert at traversing the corporate world, but you have no idea how to be a successful female entrepreneur. So, you start researching and Googling and joining Facebook groups and searching Pinterest and watching webinars and…suddenly your brain is spinning and you feel absolutely confused, overwhelmed, uninspired, and completely discourage. So much so that you may give up before you even gave yourself a chance.

     

    I want you to stop…and take a deep breath.

     

    We ALL did this! It’s hard to know where to start, what to do, what’s important, what’s NOT important, and how to figure it all out.

     

    Girl, I’ve got you covered. Here is a list of the 5 best books for new female entrepreneurs to read when you’re first starting out. They helped me tremendously! Use them as your starting block.

     

    The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs

    1.      #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso

    2.     She Means Business by Carrie Green

    3.      Is Your Business Worth Saving by Stacy Tuschl

    4.     Daring & Disruptive by Lisa Messenger

    5.      Girl Code by Cara Alwill Leyba

     

    These books are written by some fabulous women who have been where you are and they share their stories of what worked, what didn’t and all the ups and downs that got them to where they are now.

     

    So, take another deep breath, read the summary of each, pick one that resonates with you, and get started on your journey. Just remember to stay resilient and keep pursuing your dreams.

     

    And to help you learn from some of the best in this online space, check out my blog, 8 Online Female Entrepreneurs YOU NEED TO FOLLOW.

     

    If you’re at a point where you’re ready to uncover some of your limiting (and untrue) beliefs that are holding you back from the successful business you desire and start learning how to squash them, take my FREE QUIZ.

     

    And if you found this post helpful, please Pin it and share it via the social media buttons below! Thank you!

     

    Take one step at a time. You can do this!

     

    Be empowered,

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    Hey, fabulous ladies!!

     

    Education is at the core of empowerment because knowledge…is POWER.

     

    Part of feeling empowered is directly related to how knowledgeable we feel. This year, I will be sharing with you one book each week that has empowerment at its core. The genres will vary from things like self-development to health and beauty products to mindset to business/entrepreneurship to lifestyle and exercise and many others.

     

    Sometimes we can feel empowered in one area of our life, but not other areas. The variety I will be sharing will help you tap into other areas, increase your knowledge, and fuel your empowerment.

     

    I’ll use this blog as the main spot for listing the books and I’ll update it each week with that week’s recommendation. I hope some of them tickle your fancy and I hope the ones you choose to read are truly helpful for you.

     

    Please Pin this and share it via the social media buttons below! Thank you!

     

    To get your copy, simply click on the title or image of the book below.

     

    Week 31: The Season’s of a Woman’s Life by Daniel J. Levinson. “Based on exhaustive interviews with a diverse group of forty-five women, The Seasons of a Woman’s Life completes and substantiates Levinson’s thesis: that all human beings go right on developing throughout their lives in a pattern of amazing inevitability. Firmly grounded in original scientific research, The Seasons of a Woman’s Life is unusual in being not only vividly readable but a rich source of insights and consolation. It speaks with uncanny directness to the dreams, emotional crises, inexplicable feelings, social conflicts, and psychological upheavals that mark each woman’s life course. Every woman will recognize *and find comfort in recognizing *the deep shape of her own life in the pattern it outlines, from Early Adult Transition (ages 17 to 22) to the Mid-life Transition (ages 40 to 45) and beyond. Alive with the voices of real women, perceptive and sympathetic, this book is destined *like its predecessor *to become a classic.”

    The Seasons of a Woman's Life

     

    Week 30: Abundance Unleashed by Christian Mickelsen. “Self-made multimillionaire, CEO of Future Force, Inc., and personal coach Christian Mickelsen is on a mission to awaken humanity to the oceans of abundance in money, love, health, happiness, and success that lie within each of us. By recognizing the infinite abundance we all possess, we will be able to achieve our highest levels of personal and professional success. Mickelsen has crafted a 5-step rapid success system, prayers of abundance, and a “Peace Process” for healing in order to help you manifest your best self out into the world. Utilizing his goal-oriented, self-empowering approach, you can tap into the wealth and happiness that await you in every sector of your life.”

    Abundance Unleashed

     

    Week 29: The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. “An international bestseller with over five million copies in print, The Power of Positive Thinking has helped men and women around the world to achieve fulfillment in their lives through Dr. Norman Vincent Peale’s powerful message of faith and inspiration.

    In this phenomenal bestseller, “written with the sole objective of helping the reader achieve a happy, satisfying, and worthwhile life,” Dr. Peale demonstrates the power of faith in action. With the practical techniques outlined in this book, you can energize your life—and give yourself the initiative needed to carry out your ambitions and hopes. You’ll learn how to:

    · Believe in yourself and in everything you do
    · Build new power and determination
    · Develop the power to reach your goals
    · Break the worry habit and achieve a relaxed life
    · Improve your personal and professional relationships
    · Assume control over your circumstances
    · Be kind to yourself”

    The Power of Positive Thinking

     

    Week 28: Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin. “Gretchen Rubin’s answer: through habits. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life. It takes work to make a habit, but once that habit is set, we can harness the energy of habits to build happier, stronger, more productive lives. So if habits are a key to change, then what we really need to know is: How do we change our habits?

    Better than Before answers that question. It presents a practical, concrete framework to allow readers to understand their habits—and to change them for good. Infused with Rubin’s compelling voice, rigorous research, and easy humor, and packed with vivid stories of lives transformed, Better than Before explains the (sometimes counter-intuitive) core principles of habit formation.

    Along the way, Rubin uses herself as guinea pig, tests her theories on family and friends, and answers readers’ most pressing questions—oddly, questions that other writers and researchers tend to ignore:

    • Why do I find it tough to create a habit for something I love to do?
    • Sometimes I can change a habit overnight, and sometimes I can’t change a habit, no matter how hard I try. Why?
    • How quickly can I change a habit?
    • What can I do to make sure I stick to a new habit?
    • How can I help someone else change a habit?
    • Why can I keep habits that benefit others, but can’t make habits that are just for me?”

    Better Than Before

     

    Week 27: The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer. “Whether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you’ve devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You’ll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, author and spiritual teacher Michael A. Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories that keep us from achieving happiness and self-realization.

    Copublished with the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) The Untethered Soul begins by walking you through your relationship with your thoughts and emotions, helping you uncover the source and fluctuations of your inner energy. It then delves into what you can do to free yourself from the habitual thoughts, emotions, and energy patterns that limit your consciousness. Finally, with perfect clarity, this book opens the door to a life lived in the freedom of your innermost being.”

    The Untethered Soul

     

    Week 26: Deliberate Receiving by Melody Fletcher. “Deliberate Receiving: Finally, the Universe Makes Some Freakin’ Sense! is a hilarious, fun, but deeply practical guide for anyone who was inspired and excited by the promise of The Secret, but felt that it fell flat when it came to the actual details of how to manifest your desires in real life. Outrageously fun, infinitely logical and full of practical, applicable wisdom, Melody’s humorous, no-BS style is paired with an astounding ability to bring through higher guidance that will help you make seismic shifts in your understanding of what has been holding you back. This book guides you through a step-by-step approach to figuring out what you truly want, why you don’t have it yet and exactly what you need to do to get it. It will leave you uplifted and empowered to deliberately receive more abundance, fun and passion in your life.”

    Deliberate Receiving

     

    Week 25: High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard. “After extensive original research and a decade as the world’s highest-paid performance coach, Brendon Burchard finally reveals the most effective habits for reaching long-term success. Based on one of the largest surveys ever conducted on high performers, it turns out that just six habits move the needle the most in helping you succeed. Adopt these six habits, and you win. Neglect them, and life is a never-ending struggle.

    We all want to be high performing in every area of our lives. But how? Which habits can help you achieve long-term success and vibrant well-being no matter your age, career, strengths, or personality? To become a high performer, you must seek clarity, generate energy, raise necessity, increase productivity, develop influence, and demonstrate courage. This book is about the art and science of how to practice these proven habits.

    If you do adopt any new habits to succeed faster, choose the habits in this book. Anyone can practice these habits and, when they do, extraordinary things happen in their lives, relationships, and careers.

    Whether you want to get more done, lead others better, develop skill faster, or dramatically increase your sense of joy and confidence, the habits in this book will help you achieve it. Each of the six habits is illustrated by powerful vignettes, cutting-edge science, thought-provoking exercises, and real-world daily practices you can implement right now.

    HIGH PERFORMANCE HABITS is a science-backed, heart-centered plan to living a better quality of life. Best of all, you can measure your progress.”

    High Performance Habits

     

    Week 24: Grace, Not Perfection by Emily Ley. “As a busy wife, new mother, business owner, and designer, Emily Ley came to a point when she suddenly realized she couldn’t do it all. She needed to simplify her life, organize her days, and prioritize the priorities. She decided to hold herself to a standard of grace rather than perfection. This mantra led to the creation of her bestselling Simplified Planner®, a favorite among busy women everywhere—from mamas to executives and everywhere in between. Grace, Not Perfection takes this message from a daily planner to an inspirational book that encourages women to simplify and prioritize. Designed with Emily Ley’s signature aesthetic, this book gives women tangible ways to simplify their lives to give space to what matters most. With a focus on faith, Emily reminds readers that God abundantly pours out grace on us—and that surely we can extend grace to ourselves. Have you been told you can have it all, only to end up exhausted and occasionally out of sorts with the people you love? Are you ready for a new way of seeing your time? Learn to live a little more simply. Hold yourself and those you love to a more life-giving standard in Grace Not Perfection, and allow that grace to seep into your days, your family, and your heart.”

    Grace Not Perfection

     

    Week 23: Kindness on a Budget by Suzie Abels. “This book chronicles my experience spreading kindness, love and a dose of magic along life’s many roads, on a modest budget. It is my heartfelt belief that these vignettes can inspire everyday selflessness and a contagion of small acts of kindness. Suzie Abels is a beacon of love and giving for her family, friends and community. She lives life to its fullest, opens her heart to strangers and loved ones alike and has left a lasting footprint of inspiration on her path to spread kindness.”

    Kindness on a Budget

     

    Week 22: The Warrior Goddess Way by HeatherAsh Amara. “Since its publication a short time ago, HeatherAsh Amara’s Warrior Goddess Training has become much more than just a book―its ten lessons have inspired thousands of women around the world to reclaim their power, their passion, and their freedom. In this much anticipated follow-up, The Warrior Goddess Way, Amara goes deeper, revealing three additional pillars of Warrior Goddess living that readers can apply to travel further down this sacred path: Wisdom, Authenticity, and Yes!

    • Wisdom arises naturally when we learn to listen. Not to the voices in our head, but the voices in our cells, our natural discernment, and our creative knowing.
    • Authenticity is embracing your vulnerability, your silliness, and owning all your superpowers. It’s accepting and loving what is, not what “should be.”
    • Yes! is about celebrating everything. All the time. (Even your greatest defeats.)

    In exploring these three pillars, Amara delves into topics such as forgiveness, relationships, and finding your inner stillness. You will learn the art of maintaining emotional balance, cultivating self-respect, practicing heartfelt communication, and the power of consciously embracing life’s beginnings and endings. Like Warrior Goddess Training, this book is packed full of exercises and explorations designed to help you integrate the Warrior Goddess Way into your everyday life. You CAN learn to enjoy everything you do. Your potential for dancing through life is waiting to be awakened. Live the Warrior Goddess Way and claim the woman you are destined to be.”

    The Warrior Goddess Way

     

    Week 21: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins. “Letting Go describes a simple and effective means by which to let go of the obstacles to Enlightenment and become free of negativity. During the many decades of the author’s clinical psychiatric practice, the primary aim was to seek the most effective ways to relieve human suffering in all of its many forms. The inner mechanism of surrender was found to be of great practical benefit and is described in this book.
    Dr. Hawkins’s previous books focused on advanced states of awareness and Enlightenment. Over the years, thousands of students had asked for a practical technique by which to remove the inner blocks to happiness, love, joy, success, health, and, ultimately, Enlightenment. This book provides a mechanism for letting go of those blocks.
    The mechanism of surrender that Dr. Hawkins describes can be done in the midst of everyday life. The book is equally useful for all dimensions of human life: physical health, creativity, financial success, emotional healing, vocational fulfillment, relationships, sexuality, and spiritual growth.
    It is an invaluable resource for all professionals who work in the areas of mental health, psychology, medicine, self-help, addiction recovery, and spiritual development.”

    Letting Go

     

    Week 20: Daring & Disruptive by Lisa Messenger. “DARING AND DISRUPTIVE IS AN INSIGHTFUL AND SOULFUL ACCOUNT OF THE ENTREPRENEUR’S ROLLER-COASTER RIDE FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO SUCCEED ALMOST AS MUCH AS THEY WANT TO BREATHE …WHO WANT TO MAKE THE IMPOSSIBLE POSSIBLE AND THE ORDINARY EXTRAORDINARY. After decades of success in multiple industries, Lisa Messenger blends her personal stories with the important business lessons she has learned along the way, from why money is not the only currency to how to fail well. Lisa gives readers a valuable insight into her world, whether you’re a budding entrepreneur, seasoned game changer or a corporate ladder-climber dreaming of creating your own gig or making positive change from the inside. This book will help you dig deep, stay on purpose, back yourself, be true to your ideas, and ensure that if you’re thrown to the wolves, you’ll have the strength to come out leading the pack. Your life is your message to the world. So embrace the journey and live it out loud. “Business anarchy for fun and profit – not for the short of breath, weak of spine or faint of heart. Put on clean underwear and turn to page one.” – BRADLEY TREVOR GREIVE AM, NEW YORK TIMES BEST-SELLING AUTHOR.”

    Daring and Disruptive

     

     

    Week 19: 1001 Ways to be Romantic by Gregory J.P. Godek. “Sure, you could buy some roses. Yes, you could cook an elegant romantic dinner. Of course, you could give a heart-shaped box of chocolates. But sometimes you want to do more than that. Sometimes you want to show just how much you really care, how much passion you really feel, and how much more your partner means to you than absolutely anything else.

    Packed with unique suggestions, easy gestures, and thoughtful gift ideas, 1001 Ways to Be Romantic is “worth memorizing” (Boston Herald). More than one and a half million people have used this book to kick up the fun and romance, making it a modern classic and #1 national bestseller. It’s a must-have for anyone, in any relationship, who wants to spark some more love in their lives.

    You’ll find:

    Little things you can do every day
    Big ideas for when you want to go all out
    How to be romantic without spending a dime
    How to really go to town when money is no object
    Tons of resources, including websites, online shopping, places to go, music, movies, and much, much more”

    1001 Ways to be Romantic

     

    Week 18: Something More by Sarah Ban Breathnach. “In this eloquent and evocative book, Sarah Ban Breathnach encourages you to become an archaeologist of your Self: to delve into your past, to “excavate” the authentic woman buried inside. Uncovering your true Self will be challenging – but exhilarating. Assisting your personal “dig” will be insights from the lives of both celebrated and unknown women and from Sarah herself. As you unravel your own mystery and recover the joy that has been missing from your life, you will experience small but exquisite epiphanies that will help you make peace with your past and reveal exciting new opportunities for you future. Dare to plumb the depths. Powerful truths are waiting that can change your life…and inspire you to settle for nothing less than SOMETHING MORE.”

    Something More

     

    Week 17: Release & Surrender by Deborah Naone. “Live your life by design, not by default! A powerful book that dives into spirituality and the depth of the human soul. It facilitates a shift in consciousness to remove illusions of fear and restore that which is perfect in each of us – our true nature of love. The perfect book for soul development. Become lighter and brighter by seeking the golden path to super-conscious awareness. It’s your time to shine. It’s your turn for a Miracle!”

    Release and Surrender

     

    Week 16: Dear Stress, I’m Breaking Up with You by Ky-Lee Hanson. “We want it all as modern women today, don’t we? And more than ever we can have it all: success, a rewarding career, family, relationships, a social life. Perhaps you already do have it all… But at what expense? For most women, stress is at an all-time high as we endeavour to achieve it “all.” Our health, happiness and well-being at stake with feelings of being over-worked, under-appreciated, tired and burnt out. So what is stress? How does it work? And why are we slaves to its damaging effects, which impact the very elements of life we are trying to achieve? Join a collective of inspiring women from all walks of life who have come together to share their experiences and their insights on how you can learn to balance the trifecta of love, life and happiness by… *Identifying key areas of stress in your life *Limiting the impact of stress on your health and well-being *Practising gratitude to shift your perception *Saying “NO” to anything that no longer serves you *Prioritizing the elements of a fulfilling life and putting YOU first Rethink the way you approach your journey to happiness and success with each chapter of this book. Written from the heart, this is a guided journey of laughter, tears, gut-wrenching experiences and life lessons through the eyes of a tribe of strong, soulful and successful women. It’s time for you to say goodbye to stress! Repeat after me… Dear Stress, I’m breaking up with you!”

    Dear Stress I'm Breaking Up with You

     

    Week 15: Budda’s Brain by Rick Hanson, PH.D. “If you change your brain, you can change your life. Great teachers like the Buddha, Jesus, Moses, Mohammed, and Gandhi were all born with brains built essentially like anyone else’s―and then they changed their brains in ways that changed the world. Science is now revealing how the flow of thoughts actually sculpts the brain, and more and more, we are learning that it’s possible to strengthen positive brain states. By combining breakthroughs in neuroscience with insights from thousands of years of mindfulness practice, you too can use your mind to shape your brain for greater happiness, love, and wisdom. Buddha’s Brain draws on the latest research to show how to stimulate your brain for more fulfilling relationships, a deeper spiritual life, and a greater sense of inner confidence and worth. Using guided meditations and mindfulness exercises, you’ll learn how to activate the brain states of calm, joy, and compassion instead of worry, sorrow, and anger. Most importantly, you will foster positive psychological growth that will literally change the way you live in your day-to-day life. This book presents an unprecedented intersection of psychology, neurology, and contemplative practice, and is filled with practical tools and skills that you can use every day to tap the unused potential of your brain and rewire it over time for greater well-being and peace of mind.”

    Buddha's Brain

     

    Week 14: Anatomy of the Spirit by Caroline Myss, Ph. D. “Dr. Myss’s breakthrough model of the body’s seven centers of spiritual and physical power, in which she synthesizes the ancient wisdom of three spiritual traditions-the Hindu chakras, the Christian sacraments, and the Kabbalah’s Tree of Life-to demonstrate the seven stages through which everyone must pass in the search for higher consciousness and spiritual maturity. With this model, Dr. Myss shows how you can develop your own latent powers of intuition as you simultaneously cultivate your personal power and spiritual growth. By teaching you to see your body and spirit in a new way, Anatomy of the Spirit provides you with the tools for spiritual maturity and physical wholeness that will change your life.”

    Anatomy of the Spirit

     

    Week 13: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. “Readers of all ages and walks of life have drawn inspiration and empowerment from Elizabeth Gilbert’s books for years. Now this beloved author digs deep into her own generative process to share her wisdom and unique perspective about creativity. With profound empathy and radiant generosity, she offers potent insights into the mysterious nature of inspiration. She asks us to embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. She shows us how to tackle what we most love, and how to face down what we most fear. She discusses the attitudes, approaches, and habits we need in order to live our most creative lives. Balancing between soulful spirituality and cheerful pragmatism, Gilbert encourages us to uncover the “strange jewels” that are hidden within each of us.”

    Big Magic

     

    Week 12: The Pay it Forward Series: Notes to My Younger Self by Kezia Luckett, Debbie Cromack and 17 other co-authors. “Have you ever wished that you could go back to a pivotal time in your life and give yourself sound advice? Words of hope, wisdom, knowledge and inspiration that everything is happening for a reason and all will work out. That those failures, challenges and detours that you are experiencing, that have sometimes taken you to the edge of darkness and beyond, will end up being looked upon as some of your greatest, life-defining moments. In this first volume of ‘The Pay It Forward Series: Notes to My Younger Self’ you will be taken on a journey of self-discovery as you read the heart warming, inspirational stories from 18 key women of contribution from around the world, as they pay forward the words of wisdom gained through their experiences of life.”

    The Pay it Forward Series Notes to My Younger Self

     

    Week 11: Daily Love by Mastin Kipp. “Mastin has written a book based on his spiritual experiences in order to help other young seekers discover their own paths. In Daily Love, Mastin shares some of his personal stories of darkness and light, embracing them all as part of his journey to becoming who he really is. He also speaks of various spiritual leaders who have influenced his life, such as Joseph Campbell, Caroline Myss, Tony Robbins, George Lucas, Oprah, his parents, and Jenna (his girlfriend). Giving details about the concepts and spiritual principles they put forth, he shows how these people have helped to guide him to success.”

    Daily Love

     

    Week 10: Tapping the Power Within by Iyanla Vanzant. In honor of International Women’s Day the occurred this week, I’m recommending this powerful book that paves the path to self-empowerment for women. It “will challenge you to stop struggling and start recognizing that it is possible to reconcile your humanity with your divinity. Whether you are a beginner on the path or a veteran in need of refreshment, Iyanla’s prescriptions can support your growth from the comfort of spiritual adolescence to the wisdom of spiritual maturity. You no longer need to settle for the way things are . . . you can open up to the way things can be—if you dare to tap the power within!”

    Tapping the Power Within

     

    Week 9: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, Ph. D. LMSW. “Daring Greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where “never enough” dominates and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. Uncomfortable. It’s even a little dangerous at times. And, without question, putting ourselves out there means there’s a far greater risk of getting criticized or feeling hurt. But when we step back and examine our lives, we will find that nothing is as uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as standing on the outside of our lives looking in and wondering what it would be like if we had the courage to step into the arena—whether it’s a new relationship, an important meeting, the creative process, or a difficult family conversation. Daring Greatly is a practice and a powerful new vision for letting ourselves be seen.”

    Daring Greatly

     

    Week 8: Tears to Triumph by Marianne Williamson. “Instead of allowing ourselves to embrace our hurt, we numb it, medicate it, dismiss it, or otherwise divert our attention so that we never have to face it. In refusing to acknowledge our suffering, we actually prolong it and deny ourselves the opportunity for profound wisdom—ultimately limiting our personal growth and opportunity for enlightenment. Frozen by denial, we are left standing in the breech. Whole industries profit from this immobility, and while they have grown rich, we have become spiritually poorer. As Marianne makes clear, true healing and transcendence can only come when we finally face our pain and wrestle with what it has to teach us.”

    Tears to Triumph

     

    Week 7: Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation by Sophie Benge. “For centuries, Asian women have relaxed and beautified themselves with exotic therapies derived from the materials of nature; plants, herbs, minerals, clays, and flowers.

    Until now, Western women could only experience these pleasures by taking expensive trips to professional spas. In Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation, Sophie Benge, an Asian beauty expert, supplies all the tools for experiencing luxurious Asian beauty treatments at home, including inexpensive, easy-to-follow recipes for soothing facials, relaxing aromatherapy baths, invigorating body scrubs, healthy food and drink recipes, remedies for specific ailments, and more. Now readers can spend a lavish day at the spa without leaving their house.

    All the treatments in Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation are natural and gentle to the body. readers can lie back and enjoy the benefits of a spa in their own homes.”

    Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation

     

    Week 6: When I Loved Myself Enough by Kim McMillen. “When I Loved Myself Enough is a beautiful collection of wisdom that is startling in its simplicity. By the end of the book, the message becomes clear: loving yourself holds the key to loving others and having others love you. By sharing her insights, the author also shows us how to feel the same sense of peace and quiet joy that illuminated her life. This book began as one woman’s gift to the world, hand-made by Kim McMillen and handed out to friends.” Give this gift to yourself.

    When I Loved Myself Enough

     

    Week 5: Think and Grow Rich for Women by Sharon Lechter. “Women are the future of American business. According to a recent Nielsen report, women will control two-thirds of American consumer wealth in less than a decade. And yet almost all business and success literature is still written for men—dispensing advice that doesn’t take into account women’s unique strengths or address the demands of family life on mothers. Think and Grow Rich for Women is a powerful book outlining a master plan for success for ALL WOMEN.”

    Think and Grow Rich for Women

    Week 4: Unleash Your Inner Money Babe by Kathrin Zenkina. If you choose to buy the paperback version, you’ll get the Kindle version for FREE! We’ve talked a lot this week about money and manifesting. “Unleash Your Inner Money Babe is a workbook designed to help you let go of your past programming and limiting beliefs around money, and unlock the mindset of abundance and wealth. The workbook is designed to be a fun, exciting, truth-bomb packed 21 day challenge with the goal of manifesting $1,000 by the end of the 21 days.”

    Unleash Your Inner Money Babe

    Week 3: Women & Money by Suze Orman. “Own the power to control your destiny. With her signature mix of insight, compassion, and soul-deep recognition, Suze Orman equips women with the financial knowledge and emotional awareness to overcome the blocks that have kept them from acting in the best interest of their money–and of themselves.”

    Women and Money

    Week 2: #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso. “#GIRLBOSS proves that being successful isn’t about where you went to college or how popular you were in high school. It’s about trusting your instincts and following your gut; knowing which rules to follow and which to break; when to button up and when to let your freak flag fly.”

    #GIRLBOSS

    Week 1: A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks PhD.

    A Year of Living Consciously

    Knowledge is Power!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. Get your FREE copy of the 10 MANTRAS I say to myself EVERY…SINGLE…DAY to keep my mindset on track and moving me forward. 

     

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  • Gift Guide for the Empowered Woman Gift Guide for the Empowered Woman

    Gift Guide for the Empowered Woman

    Being empowered means to give power to, to enable, or permit. Make 2018 the year that you claim your power!! The year that you decide to allow yourself to tap into that power inside you. Choose to take steps to build your amazing business and create your fabulous life!

     

    Here are some gift ideas to help feed that power through honing your mindset to serve you. Just click on the item you want and you’ll be taken to Amazon where you can purchase it.

     

    Intense and very much worth your time to read it…

    Broken Children Grown-Up Pain by Paul Hedgestrom.

    Excellent book for learning about the power of your mindset and how to use it…

    Mindset - The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.

    Oh, just so darn good…

    Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza

    Perfect gift for the person who knows the power of journaling (or is just getting started) and doesn’t have a lot of time…

    The Five-Minute Journal by Intelligent Change

    Gaiam Muse meditation headband for those who could use a helpful tool to quiet your mind…

    Gaiam Muse Headband

     

    Here are some gifts to help keep your skin beautiful withOUT toxic chemicals, harmful parabens, and other unhealthy ingredients.

     

    I love this for daytime…

    STEM CELLULAR Anti-Wrinkle Moisturizer by Juice Beauty

    I use this at night and love the very subtle scent that fades after a few minutes…

    Juice Beauty Stem Cellular Anti-Wrinkle Overnight Cream

    Super hydrating for your body in the dry heat during the winter…

    KOPARI coconut melt.

    Perfect for your face and neck, I use this one at night…

    insta natural ORGANIC ROSEHIP OIL

     

    And a few fun and cozy things for the fashionably empowered woman!

     

    How cute is this pompom hat??

    Women's winter slouchy knit beanie.

    Super-cozy and soft pompom throw blanket…

    Pompom cable knit throw blanket.

    Perfect little trio for staying warm and cozy…

    Arctic Paw three piece winter bundle.

    From your business to your life, it’s time to stop waiting for permission.

     

    Let 2018 be the year you say, “Yes!” to YOU!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. And if you are looking for a powerful mindset tool so you can start healing yourself from old life-patterns and start rewriting YOUR new life, get my Release and Focus Exercise today.

     

    P.P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you enjoy your goodies!! 🙂

  • A random act of kindness. A Random Act of Kindness

    A random act of kindness.

     

    Each year, I make a point of doing at least one random act of kindness. Throughout the year opportunities just appear. Whether it’s paying for groceries for the person in line ahead of me at the grocery whose out-of-state check won’t be accepted or a buying gifts cards, grocery staples, bath items, and lottery tickets for someone who has been going through a tough time, there are always opportunities that pop up.

     

    Sometimes, my gift is anonymous and sometimes, due to the situation (being in line at the grocery store) it’s not anonymous. Every time, the reaction is different. While I don’t do it for a certain response, it is interesting the different reactions that happen. Some seem in shock and say nothing. Some look at me strangely and say, “Thank you.”

     

    This past weekend, an opportunity popped up. We were out to dinner and our waitress was particularly good. She was pleasant and just the right amount of attentive. I had lost my voice due to a cold and she brought me some Italian wedding soup without charging us. One of the times she walked away, I noticed her pause at an empty table and stretch her feet.

     

    Clearly I had no idea what was going on in her life and she didn’t share anything personal during our visit. Her beautiful face was a bit weathered from life. Though she didn’t complain and was very nice to us, she just seemed…tired. I’ve waitressed before and I know how exhausting it can be to be constantly on your feet for hours, running around serving people and not usually making great money.

     

    When we finished eating, I asked my boyfriend to get the car and that I wanted to catch our waitress quickly before we left. I found her on the outdoor patio smoking a cigarette, checking her phone. When she saw me, she put out her cigarette and apologized, asking if I still needed something.

     

    I asked her to sit with me and told her about my random act of kindness that I do each year. Her eyes fixed intently on mine as I spoke. I opened her hand and put $60.00 in her hand, but all she could see was the $20.00 so she didn’t really know what she was holding. She shook her head and said she couldn’t take it. I pressed it firmly into her hand and told her she could and that she matters in this world. In that moment, her gaze broke and waves of tears came crashing out of her eyes. She threw her arms around me and held me so tightly. I felt her body shake as she squeezed me and sobbed.

     

    I let her hold me as long as she needed. When we released, she looked at me and simply said, “Thank you.” I told her I wanted her to get a massage and make sure they rub her feet. She smiled and let out a chuckle. She thanked me again while holding onto my hands. I gave her hands a squeeze and smiled at her as I left.

     

    I still have no idea what is happening in her world, but I suspect she’s going through something difficult. I also have no idea what she’ll use the money for, but now she has it and hopefully it will help her in some way.

     

    There are people in need all around us. You never know what a simple act of kindness can mean to someone. Open your eyes and you will see opportunities are everywhere.

     

    An act of kindness doesn’t have to be monetary. You would be surprised how big a difference a smile, a hug, or a handful of wildflowers can make.

     

     

    Our world needs more kindness. Be a light in someone’s darkness.

     

     

    Will you join me? What random act of kindness have you done this year? I’d love to know. Share in the comments below.

     

    Click HERE for a fabulous book about infusing giving and kindness in your daily life.

     

    Be empowered,

     

    P.S. To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my free Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs, at http://bit.ly/EEEFBGroup.

  • Entrepreneurship - The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose Entrepreneurship – The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose

    Entrepreneurship - The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose

    Many of us seek freedom when we transition from corporate America to being an entrepreneur. Freedom to be our own boss. Freedom to have our own schedules. Freedom to live a life we desire.

     

    We desire this freedom so badly that we push ourselves…hard. We endure the mental anguish. We push through the physical torture. We can almost taste the freedom on the other side.

     

    Often times, our corporate jobs lack that magic ingredient that makes us feel like we’re serving a purpose in life. We feel empty. And we know we’re meant for something more. Something than has meaning and adds value to our lives and the lives of others. This burning, passionate desire drives us to become an entrepreneur.

     

    And so we set out on our entrepreneurial journey. Balancing our corporate job with our new business and family and well…life…will present challenges and stresses, but with determination and motivation, we follow our hearts to live our purpose.

     

    5:00 AM…the alarm goes off. I lay still and drained. My first thoughts are filled with how to prioritize all the things I need to get done for my corporate job before I can even think about working on my business. My body instantly sinks more heavily into the mattress and my heart follows.

     

    I force my limbs to move, letting my legs dangle from the side of the bed. My head hangs as though a sandbag is wrapped around it.

     

    Melancholy swells inside me.

     

    I put on my workout clothes and drag myself to the treadmill. The stretching feels good and I feel the blood begin to course through my body, waking me up. I do enjoy my treadmill time. It’s treasured me-time. My spirits lift as I step onto the belt and hit start.

     

    My legs move and my body and mind become alert. I say my prayers and start my mindset work; replacing old stories in my head that no longer serve me with powerful, positive thoughts of person I truly am and the life I’m creating for myself.  Joy, calm, and confidence spill into my body.

     

    Energy ignites me while my mind focuses on what steps I will take TODAY towards creating the life I want through my business. I say my mantras and affirmations and I visualize what my life will look like and how I will feel. My body floods with happiness and my soul feels free.

     

    As the seconds tick down on the treadmill, I feel my legs and arms tighten as the dozens of tasks awaiting me at my corporate job come surging like a tidal wave into my head. The sting pinches at the base of my head, sending what feels like electric shocks down my neck and shooting through my spine. Hopelessness veils over me.

     

    I shower and head to the prison of my corporate job. The imaginary shackles bind me to my desk through endless hours of conference calls…meaningless conference calls. I churn through inaccurate data, babysit the work of others, and fumble with the broken tools we have to use.

     

    I answer one email and 10 come in. Conference calls are back-t0-back for six hours and we’re not supposed to multitask. Text messages fly in rapidly. My heart races as my workload piles up. I stare at the number 520 next to my inbox and my chest tenses. Five hours into my day, I realize I haven’t gotten up from my desk and when I go to move, my joints are stiff.

     

    While listening to a pointless conference call, my mind wanders a bit to my business as an idea for a blog pops into my head. A spark of pleasure tickles me and I jot down the idea on a sticky note.

     

    “Where are we on that, Debbie?” The question jolts me back to my cell and my heart sinks again.

     

    And throughout the day, this emotional roller coaster hurls me around like a rag doll, stealing my freedom and robbing me of living my life…my purpose.

     

    Finally around 9:00 PM (and often times later), exhaustion forces me to stop. Now I can devote some time to my business. I check my 300+ emails, follow up on my social media platforms, and start working on the blog idea I had jotted down earlier. My brain in a fog, creativity escapes me.

     

    And suddenly, I feel very…alone.

     

    The online world has quieted down at this hour. I feel stuck and end up popping into the Facebook groups of some mentors I follow. They have tons of followers. Their messages are enlightening and inspired. They’re posting frequently and all over the place.

     

    “How am I ever going to accomplish this and be successful?” I wonder. “What am I doing? I don’t even know what I’m doing? There’s no way I can do this.”

     

    The fears and doubts I worked so hard to wash away in the morning with my mindset work have come blazing back with fury. All of the old stories that, “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t,” and “I’ll never make any money,” rage through me.

     

    In my state of sheer fatigue, I allow defeat to steal my purpose and smash my desires. Tears blur my sight.

     

    For a moment, I wallow in the self-pity. But ONLY for a moment.

     

    “No!” I determine zealously. “I will NOT let this be my existence,” I vow to myself.

     

    “I was put on this earth to make an impact. I was put here for a purpose. To help women find the power within them. To help them know and feel their worth. To help them transform their lives and create their own successful businesses. To help them build a life they fall in love with every day. To help them achieve their freedom. And to achieve my own freedom,” I remind myself.

     

    “I will NOT give up. I will NOT give in,” I promise myself.

     

    And now I want YOU to make a promise to yourself. NEVER, EVER give up…EVER!

     

    Life is filled with ups and downs, this we know. The transition from corporate America to being on entrepreneur will try to chew you up, spit you out, and stomp all over you.

     

    But, you…YOU are brave, you are passionate, you are empowered!! You have such great strength inside of you. Tap into it every day. Practice your mindset work every day. You have the ability to power through all the negativity. You control your mind…your destiny. And I believe in YOU.

     

    You are capable of all that you desire. Live your purpose.

     

    What purpose are YOU living? Please share below. Let’s keep each other going!

     

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    Be empowered,

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    P.S. Are you ready…truly ready…to let go of the stories and untruths of your past that have been holding you back and preventing you from creating the life you desire? If you are ready to heal, grow, and move forward in your life and your business, my Mind Fog to Mindset Mastered course will get you on the right path.

  • Small, focused steps can lead to big, empowered impact. Reiki Principles for Our Health and Happiness

    Small, focused steps can lead to big, empowered impact.

     

    Our world is full of stress, we are riddled with anxiety, and our pace is often in a constant state of fast-forward such that quieting our minds at the end of each day seems unattainable. And wrapped up in all of this negative energy, our health and our happiness suffer.
    As defined on Reiki.org, “Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by “laying on hands” and is based on the idea that an unseen “life force energy” flows through us and is what causes us to be alive. If one’s “life force energy” is low, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy.”
    Today, I’m pleased to feature Rebecca Syx, RN MSN as my guest blogger. Read below to learn how to change your focus one step at a time and, over time, feel the larger, healthier, happier impact on your life and the lives of those around you.

     

    The 5 principles of Reiki

    Just for today, do not be angry

    Just for today, do not worry

    Just for today, be grateful

    Just for today, work hard

    Just for today, be kind to others.

     

    I love the snarky Facebook posts from parents about laundry and yoga pants and wine and making it until bedtime. Their irony and sarcasm make me laugh and hit close to home. But if I sit and think about it enough, they also make me feel so sad because these hilarious quotes and memes are many times based in a cynicism which roots deep. This can bring one to wonder how they can survive another day in the hamster wheel of life where you are just struggling to keep your chin above water let alone keep your house clean and survive until bedtime. This became more apparent to me after my first Reiki attunement.

     

    There were several emotions stirred up in me during that weekend which caused me to evaluate several aspects of my life from a new perspective. I especially identified with the 5 principles of Reiki because they were familiar to me from my religious upbringing. When I was considering ways in which I could bring Reiki with me into my everyday life, I realized that I could infuse the 5 principles into my routine and, in turn, reap great results. By focusing on loving myself and loving others, I know great achievements are made.

     

    So what if, instead of focusing on the hamster wheel cynicism of the daily grind, I focused on infusing the 5 principles? Don’t get me wrong, I identify with the snarky posts. But I was open and willing to take an honest look at how I was spending my energy in speaking about my life. Words carry so much more weight than we realize many times.

     

    For example, instead of saying “I can’t wait until the kids go to bed” I would say “I am so grateful for this full day even with its challenges and even though I’m exhausted from living this day so well.”

     

    The change in focus from making it to bedtime (not focusing on the present) to feeling tired from living so well (gratitude for a full life) shifts perspective. It seems so small. But when mindfulness is placed on tone and your words are intentionally focused on gratitude and love and kindness, larger shifts begin to occur.

     

    My husband and I both work, he at a crunching-numbers desk job and me as a night shift ICU nurse. We are also raising three beautiful young children. In the middle of all this we are working to meet all of the usual standards of taking care of each other, taking care of our marriage, making sure our kids are getting the right nutrition from the right things and that they are in the right activities, attending to our faith, working out, eating properly, etc. etc. etc. No pressure, right? Right. This is where the challenge started for me.

     

    “Just for today.” How am I supposed to manage the schedule of a family of five “just for today?” I like to plan. And not only just plan, manage every detail. With that detailed focus, however, comes some other tendencies. Tendencies to rehash things that were said or worry about what could possibly go wrong. This form of anxiety, Type-A, organized—whatever you want to call it to soften the label—feels like it has been a part of me for my entire life. So living just for today, in moments, with gratitude is something that I work on every day. Some days I crush it and some days not so much. Some days it is easy to be present, be slow to anger, let go of worry and control, be grateful, not complain about working hard and be kind to others. And other days I fail miserably.

     

    What I have learned over my first year of being a Reiki practitioner is that we are all learning this process. Many of us want to have these principles come easy to us every day and this is where change occurs. The realization of this desire and the mindfulness to keep the principles in the forefront of our busy, overworked, multitasking minds is where positive change is birthed.

     

    When you tack on the “just for today” at the start of the precept, it does take some pressure off. It doesn’t say “don’t ever worry.” Just start with today. And some days I will change it to “Just for the next hour, do not worry” or “Until lunch, be grateful.” Some days this is all one can do. Take the day in steps. This is the way to change mindset over time. It eventually becomes easier to release old ways of thinking and old habits and patterns. While saying “I’ve always been this way” is certainly a safe reason to justify ways of thinking, it doesn’t mean change is impossible.

     

    Small steps in manipulating and breaking thought patterns will eventually lead to bigger changes. If you can break the cycle of anxious, angry, ungrateful thoughts even just once you become that much stronger than the pattern. Over time, it will become easier and easier to break the cycle and you will gain a better sense of control of the “ways you have always been.” This is certainly possible and I can say that because I have done it in my own life.

     

    So maybe start today. Actually, definitely start today. Choose one little principle and make it your mantra for the day, for the week. Maybe just start with an hour. Wherever you start is perfect because this journey of mindfulness and gratitude and love will sweep you off your feet eventually and before you know it things will appear radically different. The once mundane and seemingly insignificant appear magnificent. No, it will not be a perfect journey. There are days when I lay in bed beating myself up over how I could have done things differently that day. But those times are becoming less and less common. Those thoughts linger for shorter periods of time. And I realize that the implementation and focus on these precepts has brought great positive change for myself and those around me.

     

    The ripple effect of this type of change—based in love—is where major change starts. Begin today by promising to love others and yourself. Sprinkle in some gratitude. Release worry and fear and anger and see beauty in the daily grind. You are worth it, dear one.

     

    Learn more about Rebecca and her work at Greater Good Wellness.

     

    Small, focused steps can lead to big, empowered impact.

     

    Let’s do this together. Comment below and let me know what principle you are going to implement in your life starting now. I am a worry-wart. So I will start with, “Just for today, I will not worry.”
    Be empowered,

  • Entrepreneurship - The Mental Anguish Entrepreneurship – The Mental Anguish

    I remember when I was young and thought about what my life would be like. What kind of job I would have. Would I have a family? Where would I live?

     

    I was a happy child with a creative mind, a caring heart, and a thoughtful soul. And I loved helping people, it made me feel good. As I got older, this desire grew and I got my undergraduate degree in psychology/sociology/anthropology. I loved learning about how people work inside their brains and how I could help them feel better. One thing I knew for sure was that I did NOT want to work behind a desk all day in an air conditioned office.

     

    And guess what? Yup, that’s exactly where I landed. Since I was not encouraged to follow my dreams and my hopes and desires were squashed, I let go of any fantasies about the life I desired. And I followed a path that was supposed to set me up for life.

     

    I got a corporate job with a pension, 401K, and benefits plan. I also went on to earn my MBA. And I loathed every minute of my life. The stress became unbearable, the hours insanely exhausting, and I had no life outside of work.

     

    All I had set myself up for was an early death.

     

    And for the first time in my life, I decided it was time to follow my heart. I made the decision to be an entrepreneur. And I was filled with passion about something that would actually have a positive impact on this world. I would finally be helping people. And I was lit up inside.

     

    Though my 12-14 hour days didn’t leave time for much else in my life, I let my passion drive me. I stayed up late, got up early, and sacrificed any moment of available time to dive into my business. I spent hours upon hours Googling, YouTube-ing, and DIY-ing everything I could to figure out the whole online entrepreneur thing.

     

    I kept researching and learning; taking online courses and participating in challenges. I interacted on Facebook groups and social media platforms. I never knew I was going to need to learn how to be a photographer, a marketing genius, an advertising mogul, a brilliant copywriter, a savvy salesperson, an IT expert, a branding wizard, and so…much…more!!

     

    Hours led to days. Days led to weeks. And I wasn’t get very far. And I definitely wasn’t making the money because I wasn’t selling anything because I was spending all my time trying to figure out what I was even doing! Any hopes of being able to leave my corporate job were thwarted by overwhelm.

     

    Fog filled my brain…complete and utter mental anguish. I had lost sight of my purpose, the reason I started my business in the first place. How was I going to help others when I couldn’t even figure things out myself? Fear and self-doubt slithered their way in and I lost faith in myself. And no revenue was coming into my business. Working my corporate job and throwing myself into my business only to be unsuccessful; despair had set in.

     

    Finally…I found the missing piece…mindset.

     

    I had been so confident as a high-achiever in my corporate job, doing my research, analyzing my data, and presenting my findings…no problem. My “value” came from producing delieverables, which had nothing to do with believing in myself.

     

    What I realized was that I needed to work on me before I was going to see any success in helping others. I needed to learn how to heal myself, believe in myself, and allow myself to dream again. I needed to learn house to reprogram all the years of crappy programming I had allowed to control my life. That old programming has us telling ourselves the most awful things, creating demons inside us. I had to go on a journey of self-exploration and learn how to live without judgement. To learn how to love myself and know, unequivocally, that I am worthy and I can help people find their own worth.

     

    I reframed the use of my time and focused…every day…on mindset work. And within one month, my life began to change. I started making the right connections with people who could help me learn exactly what I needed to know to be successful in the online space. The right opportunities started popping up. I found amazing resources. And I felt exhilaration fill me! The fog cleared and my path was clear.

     

    Get your FREE copy of the 10 MANTRAS I say to myself EVERY…SINGLE…DAY to keep my mindset on track and moving me forward. 

     

    The entrepreneurial journey is not an easy one. But when you focus on transforming your mindset to serve you rather than hinder you, blissful, magical things begin to happen.

     

    Your life is what you make it and it all starts with YOU.

     

    There are many ways to work on our mindset. Please share one of yours below.

     

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    Be empowered,

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