It was a beautiful summer Sunday and my boyfriend and I decided to have lunch in the park. So, I ran out to the grocery store to pick up some picnic foods.
I don’t typically get us lunchmeats or cheeses from the deli counter because processed foods are just not healthy. But, we thought it would be fun to make some sandwiches so I headed to the deli counter.
As is pretty typical on a Sunday there was quite a long line. I grabbed my ticket and saw I was number 39…they were on number 17.
I tucked myself out of the way of the congestion at the counter as I heard the exasperation of a woman approaching.
“Ugh, look at this line! I’ll see you in three hours!” she growled to a man I presume was her husband.
I looked over and saw him acknowledge her growl as he turned with two children and walked away.
She stomped over to grab her ticket and grumbled something. She then proceeded to sort of huff and puff, shifting her weight from foot to foot impatiently.
All I could of was the missed opportunities.
I’m not saying that standing in a long deli is fun or we should be happy about it. However, there’s really nothing we can do, but wait for our number to be called and place our order.
This woman missed out on an opportunity for some self-care. Since she was basically stuck waiting, she could have used the time to do some therapeutic breathing (that would have helped to calm her frustration) or say a mantra or affirmations in her head.
And as a mother, she could have used the situation to teach her children how to handle displeasing situations that are out of our control by simply having a positive attitude.
She chose to adopt the life-happens-to-me perspective versus being empowered and 1) recognizing the situation as being out of her control, 2) accepting that it is what it is, and 3) changing how she dealt with it.
We have a choice in every situation in our lives, whether it’s something we can control or something we can’t…the decision is ours to make.
The next time you find yourself in a frustrating situation, be self-aware and recognize, accept, and change how you CHOOSE to deal with it.