• Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018 Empowerment Book of the Week – 2018

    Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018

     

    Hey, fabulous ladies!!

     

    Education is at the core of empowerment because knowledge…is POWER.

     

    Part of feeling empowered is directly related to how knowledgeable we feel. This year, I will be sharing with you one book each week that has empowerment at its core. The genres will vary from things like self-development to health and beauty products to mindset to business/entrepreneurship to lifestyle and exercise and many others.

     

    Sometimes we can feel empowered in one area of our life, but not other areas. The variety I will be sharing will help you tap into other areas, increase your knowledge, and fuel your empowerment.

     

    I’ll use this blog as the main spot for listing the books and I’ll update it each week with that week’s recommendation. I hope some of them tickle your fancy and I hope the ones you choose to read are truly helpful for you.

     

    To get your copy, simply click on the title of the book below.

     

    Week 1: A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks PhD.

     

    Week 2: #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso. #GIRLBOSS proves that being successful isn’t about where you went to college or how popular you were in high school. It’s about trusting your instincts and following your gut; knowing which rules to follow and which to break; when to button up and when to let your freak flag fly.

     

    Knowledge is Power!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your books!!

     

  • No more stinky underarms - naturally. No More Stinky Underarms – Naturally

    No more stinky underarms - naturally.

     

    If you’ve ever had “nervous” sweat, you are well aware of the putrid stench that billows out from under your arms, polluting the air around you. It’s all you can smell and you KNOW everyone around you can smell it…smell YOU. And all you want to do is hide in the bathroom.

     

    Oh, yes, I know this all too well.

     

    I was always a nervous kid. And ever since I can remember, my underarms have smelled like 14-day old meatloaf rotting in the Sahara Desert. Peeeewwww!!!

     

    When I was young, I used baby powder, hoping the sweet scent would camouflage my smell; it didn’t. As I got older, I bought into the advertising and used a popular deodorant/antiperspirant, at the time touting the highest percentage of aluminum to prevent odor. This was before I started educating myself on the toxins in many of our health and beauty products.

     

    At one point, I even got electrolysis on my underarms thinking it must be the hair causing my stink. While I LOVE never having to shave my underarms, the stench persisted.

     

    I was well into my thirties before I really started paying more attention to and researching the ingredients in the products I was using and slathering all over my skin.

     

    Now, you can find pretty much anything you want on the Internet. You can find evidence to support just about any side of any debate. What resonates with you will be what you choose to believe. For me, I try not to be an extremist, but rather to be informed and make the best choice possible for me based on what I choose to believe.

     

    Whether aluminum is directly connected to Alzheimer’s disease or not, whether parabens (often in deodorants) are directly connected to breast cancer or not, these are not things I want absorbing into my body on a daily basis. This is my personal choice. There’s a good bit of breast cancer in my family and I’d like to help my tatas stay healthy. 🙂

     

    If you’re looking for a healthier alternative for your deodorant, I’m sharing with you here some of my discoveries. If you decide to try them, I hope they work well for you.

     

    Natural Deodorants

     

    Option 3: Schmidt’s Deodorant Stick

    Schmidts Natural Deoderant Fragrance Free

    For me, this is option 3 because it didn’t do much to stop the rotting smell of my underarms. If you do NOT struggle with nervous sweat, this may be a good option for you. They have a variety of scents as well as unscented. Free of aluminum, propylene glycol, parabens, and phthalates. Gluten-free. Certified Vegan and cruelty-free. You can find it HERE.

     

    Option 2: Lavanila The Healthy Deodorant

    Lavanila The Healthy Deoderant

    I like the soft scent of the vanilla lavender. They have a variety of scents, including a fragrance free one for those who are super sensitive (LINK). It works well to address my overly stinky underarms. I have it ranked number two because it doesn’t work long enough for me and my body chemistry. I had to wash my underarms midday and reapply it.

     

    This is also a good option if you do not struggle with the smell of nervous sweat or if you don’t mind reapplying during the day. No aluminum. No parabens. All-natural ingredients. No harsh chemicals. Not tested on animals. No: petrochemicals, phthalates, propylene glycol, mineral oils, silicone, synthetic dyes, sulfates, or parabens. You can find it HERE.

     

    Option 1: NATIVE DEODORANT

    NATIVE Deodorant

    This deodorant has worked best for me. They have a variety of scents, including unscented. I like the gentle scent of coconut & vanilla.

     

    In my crazy life of 10-12 hour corporate workdays followed by 2-3 hours a day on my business, ladies, I confess…there are days (sometimes 3 in a row) where I simply don’t have time to shower. Yup, I wrote it, you read it. Basically, I am marinating in my own juices! Fess up, I know I’m not alone. While it grosses me out, it is a reality sometimes (thankfully not very often). And during that time, this deodorant has NOT failed me. It has kept my horrific stench AWAY! 🙂

     

    The only thing I don’t care for is the slight overflow of product on the rim of the stick. When I put the lid back on, it then squeezes that overflow down so it gets on my hands when removing and replacing the lid. I’m a bit of a clean-freak so I wipe it after every use.

     

    Paraben free. Aluminum free. You can find it HEREUse coupon code: HEALTH10 to get 10% off your entire order (minimum order $15).

     

    A couple of things to note:

    1) These are natural deodorants and not organic. They do not have the USDA organic seal. I remain on the hunt for an organic one that I like and that works for me and my body chemistry (aka stinky underarms!). If I find one, you can be sure I’ll share it.

     

    2) These are all deodorants ONLY and NOT antiperspirants. So, they will help with odor, but they will not prevent you from sweating. Our bodies are meant to sweat. Stopping that natural process is not a good idea. Aside from keeping our body temperature regulated by cooling us down when needed, sweating helps us to expel toxins, thus supporting proper immune function and helping to prevent diseases related to toxic overload.

     

    3) I also have yet to find a deodorant that doesn’t leave white residue on the underarms of my clothing.

     

    Here is some research I did for myself. You may find it helpful. Be informed and do your research.

     

    Paraben, Mineral Oils, Petrolatum

     

    I hope you found this review helpful. If you try any of these options, I’d love to know how you make out. So, come back here and share in the comments below.

     

    Get educated and be empowered about the choices you make with your hygiene products.

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your products!!

  • Entrepreneurship The Physical Torture and Honoring Your Body Entrepreneurship – The Physical Torture and Honoring Your Body

    Entrepreneurship The Physical Torture and Honoring Your Body

    The mind-body connection is so much more powerful than most of us realize. And for those of us who do know how powerful it is, we may not be consciously aware as often as we should.

     

    When we embark on entrepreneurship while still working our corporate jobs, it’s usually because something inside us desires more. We have this yearning and know we’re meant for something bigger in life. To make an impact in some way. To make a difference in someone’s life. We often don’t feel as though we’re truly helping people in the corporate world. Some of us have knowledge and wisdom from life experiences. Some of us get certifications in things we’re passionate about. And most of us are bursting with ideas and a desire to truly help people.

     

    So we jump into the online world energized and excited! We usually take it somewhat slow and steady as we learn and try to figure out our way in the online space. We have our steady paychecks and whether we loathe our jobs or are we don’t, but still want to dabble in the world of entrepreneurship, we often cling to the safety and security of what our corporate jobs provide (401K, pension, benefits, stock options, etc.), at least for a little while.

     

    What tends to happen is that we start getting up early or staying up late or using our lunch time to work on our side business. Trying to figure out all the pieces and how they fit together and what the best order of progression is becomes overwhelming. And so we get up even earlier and stay up even later. And because many of us are driven and motivated, we push ourselves and push ourselves.

     

    We work harder and longer. We research and research trying to digest the unending amounts of data and information out there. We are relentless in our pursuit to improve our lives and the lives of others.

     

    Here is what begins to happen:

    • Exhaustion starts to set in.
    • We may even feed our bodies with processed, on-the-fly foods because we need to eat quickly and keep going.
    • We’re constantly on fast-forward, trying to keep up with our jobs, our business, and our lives.
    • Our sleep becomes shallow, restless, and interrupted.
    • We likely let go of exercising because there “isn’t enough time” to fit it in with all we’re trying to accomplish.
    • We lose focus frequently.
    • Our heads feel like they’re in a fog.
    • We get frustrated easily.
    • We may even start to wonder why we’re doing this side business…and can we even do it.
    • Our passion douses, our creativity becomes cluttered, our energy is drained, and our desire fades.

     

    And down the spiral we go.

     

    This stimulates the doubts, fears, and negative stories that are deeply seated in our minds and inflames old pain and unhappiness in our souls. A chain reaction occurs sending our bodies into fight-or-flight mode, putting us into a state of stress and anxiety. And when we are in this state, here are the types of things that happen in our bodies:

    • Our immune system becomes suppressed and our chances of getting sick increase.
    • Our kidneys and adrenals release cortisol and adrenaline.
    • Our estrogen and progesterone production is halted, which signals more testosterone for fight-or-flight.
    • Our thyroid glands pretty much shut down.
    • We may experience heart palpitations or shortness of breath.
    • Our gut becomes acidic and the good bacteria die.
    • Our body fluids become acidic because our kidneys are busy in fight-or-flight mode and the filtering process is slowed.
    • The production of eggs in our ovaries is slowed or even stopped because our bodies have become acidic.
    • Our periods can become erratic or heavy because we are mineral-deficient.
    • We can experience painful cramps, excessive blood clots, back pain, and headaches.

     

    Whew! And these are just some of the physical impacts and torture that stress pounds on our bodies.

     

    From your point of reading this blog forward, I want you to make a promise to yourself to honor your body and its powerful connection with your mind and thoughts. Make a point every day to manage your stress and anxiety in healthy and positive ways.

     

    Make self-care a priority instead of putting it on the back burner. Give yourself permission to slow down and breathe. Here is a list of things you can do:

    • Get at least 30 minutes of exercise every day.
    • Be sure you’re eating fresh, healthy foods. I’ve gone mostly organic and I feel great!
    • Practice yoga or meditation. If you really feel that you don’t have the time for it on a daily basis, try to do it once a week.
    • Say mantras and positive affirmations. You can do this anytime, anywhere.
    • Listen to your body and rest when it tells you to.
    • Take a calming, soothing bath once a week if you can.
    • Stay hydrated and drink plenty of water.
    • When you feel that brain-fog set in, stop, step away, and take a short walk.

     

    We are in control of our thoughts and our actions. To put yourself in the best possible position for building a successful, thriving business and life you love, you must take care of yourself.

     

    We can’t stop stress from occurring, but we CAN manage it in a healthy, positive way.

     

    What are some of your practices or habits that help you manage stress and anxiety to prevent their negative impact on your body? Please share in the comments below.

     

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my FREE Facebook group Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Emerge Empowerment Healthy Tips to Help You Feel Your Best Healthy Tips to Help Feel Your Best

    Emerge Empowerment Healthy Tips to Help You Feel Your Best

    Whether you’re a mom, an online entrepreneur, have a corporate job, are single or married, or…let’s face it, a WOMAN, we don’t make ourselves a priority. We put everyone else’s needs and, yes, wants before our own. We very rarely, if ever, practice self-care. And then what happens…you know all too well…we are depleted, exhausted, and maybe even grumpy.

    On the rare occasion when we DO finally make time to do something for ourselves, even if it’s small, often times, we feel amazing! And when we feel amazing, we also feel empowered and we show up as a better version of ourselves for those around us.

    Today, I’m pleased to feature Nic Makim as our guest blogger. Below, she gives us some simple and useful tips to help us feel our fabulous best! Thanks for joining us, Nic!

    Empowering ourselves and others requires a commitment to our own health, happiness, and well-being. Once we start to feel our best, an internal empowerment transpires.
    How are you feeling? Like, really feeling? Feeling good, doesn’t really cut it for me. I’m trying to feel fantastic, daily. I know how short life can be and I’m here to live every moment as if it were gold.
    I hope you find inspiration and motivation from a few of my wellness tips that help keep me grounded, balanced, and empowered within.
    Tips for Feeling Your Best
    1.       Mentally and physically cleanse to create the space within and really soak up the goodness of your family and achievements. I find a cleansing nutrition program is fantastic for cleansing my body, work, desk, and mind.
    2.       Balance – work, life, diet, wellbeing, exercise, friends. I love yoga for feeling grounded and balanced.
    3.       Inspire, create, and empower yourself daily.
    4.       Regularly throughout the day, practice diaphragmatic breathing.
    5.       Exercise to allow your body to do what it loves doing – moving.
    6.       Get involved and properly play with your kids on their level.
    7.       Drop all expectations and judgment of yourself and others.
    8.       Tune in and be grateful for something every day.
    9.       Load up on green salads, veggies, healthy fats, and good quality protein to nourish your body.
    10.   Surround yourself with people who uplift, support, and empower you to live to your truest and fullest potential.
    Eating Healthy is Self-Care
    I’m a believer that anything is possible. I’m a doer and eternal optimist. I choose happiness and a positive outlook. I fill my life with good people, good food, and good work.
    Nic Makim is a nutritionist with a thriving online foodie business of which she sees clients globally for nutrition programs and coaching. Nic believes in an all-inclusive approach to nutrition, working towards an authentic life-long positive attitude of eating well and moving mindfully.
    Chatting and empowering others to nourish their body to feel their best is what she loves doing! Simply drop her an email to see how she can help you!
    And follow Nic on social media…
    Instagram: nicmakim_nutrition
    Facebook: nicmaMakimWellnesskimnutrition
    Twitter: MakimWellness
    Google+: Nic Makim Nutrition
    www.nicmakim.com.au

     

    Be your best…for you and those you love.

     

    I hope you enjoyed these healthy tips from Nic. Implement one each week and evaluate how you feel.

    I’d be interested to hear your experience once you’ve had a chance to try a few. Drop me a comment below and let me know. I’d love your feedback on Nic’s blog as well.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Touching a Life Touching a Life

    As an entrepreneur, you dive into your business; head first, feet first, whatever…you just dive. You have a passion burning inside of you and a message you want to share. You’re filled with energy and ideas and goals and dreams. And you know you can make a difference in this world.

    I have found that most of us truly want to help people. And helping people is pretty broad. So, you set a goal, make a plan, and strategize how to get there. You make lists and hone in on what you really want to do and who your audience is. You think about what your business will look like. Will it be strictly E-commerce? Or do you want a brick-and-mortar facility? You think about your brand and what you want to stand for; how people feel when they think of you and your business. You create a logo and get business cards. You create profiles on social media and start interacting with your following.

     

     

    There is a lot to think about when you’re first starting out. And if you don’t already know people who have done what you’re trying to do, gosh, is it overwhelming. If you’re lucky enough, you stumble across an amazing coach or two who help you find your way. And even then, there’s so much to do and learn.

    At times, you may get hit with that awful misperception called fear. And that dreaded self-doubt creeps in. You become apprehensive and begin to wonder if you can even do this. You question yourself, “What was I thinking? I can’t do this!” A day or two goes by and you feel your power again, “Other women are doing it. They’re not smarter than me. They’re not better than me. I can do this!” A few hours go by or even a few more days. Maybe you’re struggling to get your website up. Those self-deprecating thoughts rear their ugly heads again. The emotions can be quite intense. And if you don’t have a support-system on your side, failure may consume and destroy you. For me, the juggling of my corporate job with trying to start up my Emerge business has me in a constant state of teeter-tottering between, “I’m out of my mind, I can’t do this!” and “This is what I’m meant to do. I can so do this!”

    Determined to succeed and do work that you love and has value and gives you a sense of purpose, you forge ahead. You create content you hope will resonate with people and help build your tribe. You interact on all of your social media and wonder if anyone is even reading what you’re posting. Maybe you even get a “Like” on Facebook or Instagram or perhaps a “Share” on Twitter. But then, you think, “What does that really mean?”

     

    I was spiraling around in all
    of this like a tornado.

     

    And then one day, I received a “Like” on one of my Twitter posts. I sent a message to thank the young lady for liking my Tweet. To my surprise, she messaged me back to thank me for my uplifting posts. She let me know that she looks forward to them and that reading my “encouraging messages has transformed me for the better!” Well, my mouth dropped open.

    We then exchanged messages back and forth where I learned more about her and she shared some background on her life to explain why she was so impacted by my posts. She shared with me a video of her speech called, Life’s Choices, that she now presents to students around the country. After watching her video and being honored that she shared it with me, I then understood the impact of my words on her.


    And I cried.

     

    I cried deep and hard. I couldn’t contain it. I had touched a life. I…me…had made a positive impact on a delicate soul who values my messages. My chest convulsed as tears poured out and my heart was filled with pure joy and the knowledge that I can make a difference. I sit here with moisture sweeping my eyes as I write this. This incredible woman had created a defining moment for me. A moment that told me, without a doubt, I am absolutely on the right path and I can make my business successful and truly help women.

    This astounding woman is LaNae Stockwell and she has given me permission to share her story through this video. I invite you to watch it, be moved by it, and share it.

    To my entrepreneurial friends out there, NEVER EVER give up. You have a message, you have a purpose, and there are so many people’s lives to touch. Power on. If your moment hasn’t happened yet, have faith, it will.

    Never ever give up.

    To my Emerge Family, thank you for welcoming me into your lives and being part of my journey as I become part of yours. I am humbled and grateful.

    To LaNae, you are a miracle. Your purpose is loud and clear. You have survived an indescribable tragedy and can share your experience to help others make better decisions in their own lives. You are meant to be here and change lives. Thank you for sharing your story.

     

    We all have a purpose.

    Draw from the beauty of the message inside you and make the world a better place.

     

    Have you had a defining moment that changed your life? I’d love to know about it. Comment below and share your experience.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Self-Care in our Hurried and Chaotic Lives. Be empowered. You matter. Self-Care in Our Hurried and Chaotic Lives

    Self-Care in Our Hurried and Chaotic Lives

     

    When thinking about what I wanted my empowerment business to do for women, I settled on two main aspects: education and self-care. Personally, I always want to be learning and I stink at self-care. I’m discovering just how essential self-care is. I’m also learning that I’m not the only woman who stinks at it.

    Most women know that when we are depleted, we are not at our best. We also know that we want to be functioning at an optimal level to best care for those we love who need us. Yet somehow, regardless of this knowledge, we do NOT take care of ourselves.

    When we know how important self-care is, why are we not taking care of ourselves? Do we not love ourselves? Is it some kind of twisted self-sabotage? Do we feel we are we not worth it? Hopefully none of these are true, but there are certainly many reasons we don’t self-care. What I found in my own life and learned in conversations with friends is that not taking care of ourselves most often comes down to time.

     

     

    Women have taken on more and more in recent years. And, as more of us go into the workforce and build businesses, the traditional “female” responsibilities of the “olden days” have not gone away. Taking care of the kids, cooking meals, doing household chores, running errands…and so much more…all still need to get done. And, typically (not always, but typically), these responsibilities still fall on us in addition to our careers. So yes, self-care is the first thing that gets put on the back burner and likely never even makes it onto the to-do list because really, who has the time? Keeping in mind these extraordinary demands and pace of our hurried lives, I searched for self-care options I can recommend to you that are both time-efficient and empowering.

    What I found; however, were a lot of self-care suggestions that involve spending time and money; two things many of us are short on…which is why we don’t do it. I found things like 90-minute massages, hour-long sauna sessions, going for a long walk in nature, getting together with a girlfriend for a mani-pedi, and so many other ways to take care of ourselves. I won’t lie, these sound absolutely fabulous…but, I simply don’t have the time to do them and I suspect many of you are in my boat with me.

    So does this mean, that we will never self-care? No. I thought about ways we can use time to our advantage and work self-care into minutes here and minutes there. Those minutes add up and can have tremendous impact.

     

     

    Self-care doesn’t have to be huge chunk of planned time doing a specific activity. Make it part of your daily, chaotic life. We sit at traffic lights, we stand in lines, we walk here and there doing the things we need to do. Rather than just go-through-the-motions…be aware of your thoughts, be present…notice what’s around you.

    Here are some examples from my life…

    1. When I walk to the mailbox to get the mail, I say my mantra to myself, “I am strong, I am happy, and I have no fears. I am whole and complete within myself.” I have to walk to the mailbox anyway so instead of letting thoughts of my dreadful corporate job cloud my mind, for those few minutes, I fill my mind with positive words and I actually feel better by the time I get back to the house.
    2. When I’m standing in line at the grocery store, I focus on my breathing. It is rapid? Am I holding my breath? I focus on it. And I change it. I do some yoga breathing. I can’t do much else, I’m standing in a line. What better time to take a moment and do some healthy breathing. If I like the earrings on the girl in front of me, I’ll let her know. Not only have I made her smile and feel good about herself, I’ve made myself feel good as well.
    3. There are days when I’m on back-to-back conference calls for six (yes, SIX) hours. (And, yes, there are times when I’m in the bathroom while on these calls because, come on folks, a girl has to tinkle!) Occasionally, a call will end five minutes early…YES! I spin around in my chair (away from my three computer monitors), close my eyes, and visualize the one time I was in a mineral pool. I remember the smoothness of the water on my skin, the quiet puddling of it as I moved slowly through it, and the peacefulness in my ears. I allow myself to recall all the calming sensations of that tranquil experience. And then I dash to tinkle before the next call starts. Okay, it’s only like three minutes, but…it’s three minutes I give to myself to become fully absorbed into self-care.

    Looking for more options? Here is a blog by Ellen Bard with 45 self-care practices. In this blog, Ellen categorizes self-care into mind, body, and soul; the very categories we focus on at Emerge.

     

    My mission is to help you become your best you by feeding your mind, body, and soul with knowledge, nourishment, and hope.

     

    While Ellen lists some of the expected items that involve a commitment of time and money, she also includes items that only require the power of our minds or tap into things we’re already doing in our lives. Here are some of my favorites:

    • Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.
    • Make one small change to your diet for the week. Drink an extra glass of water each day, or have an extra portion of veggies each meal.
    • Check in with your emotions. Sit quietly and just name without judgment what you’re feeling.

    Self-care can be as simple as being mindful and fully present. Our mind is a powerful and amazing tool. We need to tap into it more frequently. Recognize negative thoughts or feelings and consciously, mindfully replace them with thoughts that are positively-charged and make you feel good.

    Having balance in your life is so helpful in creating space for practicing self-care. Click here to purchase the webinar Balance in a Busy Life to learn about the importance of having balance and how to create it.

    You can also check out my blog Mindfulness and Self-Care – Let’s Dig a Little Deeper that includes an exercise to get you started onto a path of focused self-care.

    Ladies, self-care is crucial and it doesn’t have to be daunting.
    Incorporate it into your chaos.

    What quick self-care practices do you engage in during your busy life? Please comment below and share some so we can all expand our lists.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Mindfulness and Self-Care - Let's Dig in a Little Mindfulness and Self-Care – Let’s Dig in a Little

     

    We’re in the midst of winter. A time to hibernate, go within, and make a plan for emergence in the spring. This is the perfect time to self-reflect and focus on you.

    Mindfulness

    We seem to hear the term, “mindfulness” more and more recently. What exactly is mindfulness though? Wikipedia defines mindfulness as “the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment, which can be developed through the practice of meditation and other training.” Dictionary.com defines mindfulness as, “a technique in which one focuses one’s full attention only on the present, experiencing thoughts, feelings, and sensations, but not judging them.”

    Okay, so what really does that mean for each of us? Our lives are hurried and chaotic. We multitask and our minds race forward to the next thing that needs to get done. Who has time to stop…and think about the present moment? And even if we find or make the time, how do we do mindfulness? What does it even look like?

     

     

    Mindfulness is a practice that can be done anytime and anywhere…and for however much or little time you have. Because the tool is your mind, it’s actually quite simple. Be fully present and aware of yourself, your thoughts, your feelings. It is important to note that you should not judge yourself if what you feel and think is negative. The point is to simply acknowledge it for what it is and be present.

    Self-Care

    Mindfulness feeds beautifully into self-care. And, I often find the same mindset occurs with self-care and mindfulness, with the biggest question usually being, “Who has the time?!”

     

     

    Women are doers. We go, we do, we run, we work, we take care of the family, we do the chores, we cook the meals…and the list goes on. When we finally look at (because we may not actually get to) the bottom of the to-do list, taking care of ourselves is usually not even on the list. Many of us will even knowingly admit that we realize we are better able to care for our families when we have taken care of ourselves. The problem is, we DON’T actually do anything about taking care of ourselves.

    When we neglect self-care, the impact can be quite devastating…and we often don’t even recognize it. Here is what can end up happening…

    • We feel anger and frustration more easily.
    • Our bodies get rundown and fatigued.
    • Our minds can feel frantic and overwhelmed.
    • Our mood can become anxious and infuriated.
    • Our temperament can be impatient.
    • We may even be stricken with a numbness in our emotions because we are so overwhelmed.
    • Or worse…

    Clearly, this is an unhealthy and unhappy existence. Life is much too short to live in such a destructive disposition.

    When we go back to the question, “Who has the time?!” it’s instinctively clear to see that we had better start making the time.

    Personally, I had always thought that self-care meant spending time and money (neither of which I have) taking a day off and getting pampered at a spa. Um, yeah, so not happening. What I have come to learn; however, is that self-care does not have to be some grand gesture. Self-care can happen in minutes here and minutes there.

    And, bottom line ladies…self-care is crucial.

    Empowerment comes from both education and self-care. And when we are empowered, life becomes incredible and we make better decisions for ourselves. We have clarity to our thoughts, our bodies are filled with energy, we remember to be grateful, love feels more intense, and we learn to allow happiness to both fill us and exude from us. What a magnificent way to live life!

    Let’s get started!

     

    To guide you a bit deeper into one aspect of self-care, I designed this Release/Focus Exercise for you. As we’ve talked about the difficulty in finding time, I created this exercise to be thought-provoking, but not terribly time-consuming. I do invite you to go as deeply into it as you desire. You will tap into some core feelings, guiding you to awareness, mindfulness, and allowing yourself to be the master of your thoughts.

     

     

    This is the first product I’ve created for you and it’s only $10.00. Please purchase it and give me your feedback so I can develop more helpful exercises to help you get empowered.

    Want more? Click here to purchase the webinar Is Self-Care Selfish? and go inside your soul and nurture yourself.

    If you’re looking for some quick, on-the-go self-care indulgences, check out my blog, Self-Care in Our Hurried and Chaotic Lives.

    You can be mindful and practice self-care anytime, anywhere.

     

    I’d love to learn some of the ways YOU practice mindfulness and self-care. Comment below so we can all benefit together.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

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    When I was a little girl, I was taken shopping and told I could try on a few outfits to then pick out one we would buy. Delighted and excited, I tried them all on and narrowed my preferences down to two that I wanted help with the final decision. I don’t recall what happened, but I remember leaving the store with nothing. I do, however, remember feeling sad and not worth the price of one outfit.

    Years passed and I graduated from college and got my first real job. I had nothing appropriate to wear as my clothes were all college clothes. I was offered again to be taken shopping. With a conservative approach, I selected versatile items like a black sheath dress, a black blazer, a skirt, a sweater (on sale for only $20.00!!) and two tops. Before popping out of the fitting room, I surveyed my selections. Practical, can be mixed and matched…a good start. When I emerged from the fitting room and showed what I had settled on, she took the $20.00 sweater and said, “I’ll get you this one.”

    A hammer smashed my chest. I can afford the $20.00 sweater! Needless to say, my self-worth took yet another of many blows.

    Finally on my own in the world with a job and a credit card, I felt free! If I wanted something…I bought it! I didn’t need anyone’s approval. And I didn’t need anyone to make me feel worthy. I was going to buy whatever I wanted!!!

    And, boy, did I.


    And so the debt grew…and grew…and GREW…for over 25 years. I was drowning. And somehow, no matter how much I spent or what I spent it on, my self-worth didn’t grow. All that had happened, was that I had become a financial disaster.

    Not only was I a financial disaster, I thoroughly and deeply despised my job. Sixteen years in, I dreaded waking up each morning with my heart racing, unattainable deadlines, and hundreds of unanswered emails. The stress and anxiety became overwhelming…almost paralyzing.

    Knowing I was meant for more in this life, something valuable and meaningful…a purpose, the concept of Emerge Empowerment was born. A fire ignited inside me as I imagined this incredible company I would build and how I would help women learn how to empower themselves…something I didn’t even feel in my own life. I wanted to be empowered and teach other women how to find their power, their voice, their value…to let them know they matter. My passion grew by the day.


    But how in the world was I going to create a business with a mountain of debt towering over me and trapping me into the job and life I so loathed?!

     

    Thankfully, my life-path, through connections I made with Emerge, led me to a woman who is now my Financial Coach. Together, we dug into ALL of my finances and she asked me questions for which I had NO answers. She guided me and I found the answers. We reviewed things from my debt to my Living Will to my 401K to my pension to my health benefits to my life insurance and my car insurance…all of it! My financial life splattered out before me. She helped me figure out where I had the right coverages, not enough, and even too much in some cases. I learned what would happen to all things tied to my corporate job when I leave. We dissected my debt…ugh! Embarrassment and shame filled me.

    We looked at my current situation as a whole and figured out how to rearrange things in a way that made sense so we could build a timeline for my transition out of corporate America and into Emerge full-time. We looked at what to do and how to do it, making each step attainable instead of daunting. We outlined the steps and I felt empowered because now I have knowledge and a solid course of action. She sloughed off my embarrassment and doused my shame, putting me in control of my financial future by helping me learn. Uncertainty and fear no long have me in their grasp and there is hope on the horizon. Learning, understanding, and taking the right steps has increased my self-worth and it feels incredible!

    This amazing woman is Fran Robinson. Fran is giving a 4-part series of classes here at Emerge. Whether you’re single, married, or divorced; older or younger; good with money or a disaster like me; in a corporate job or an entrepreneur, Fran can help guide you to making sound decisions with your finances by helping you know and understand them. There will be one class per quarter through 2017. The second class, Financial Literacy, is on 4/20/17. To give you a good foundation, purchase the first class, Financial WellnessAttached is a very helpful worksheet to get you started.

    Take charge of your financial life now! It’s never too late! You matter.

    Whether you’re able to attend this seminar or not, working with a Financial Coach who has your best interests at heart is incredibly valuable.

    Understand your financial life!

     

    I’m curious to know what strategies you use to keep your financial life in order both NOW and secure for your future. Please comment below.

    Be empowered,

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    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Corporate-America-to-Entrepreneur-Surviving-the-Transition Corporate America to Entrepreneur

     

    If you have read My Story, you know a little about how I got to where I am now. As I stumble around trying to find my footing, I started to wonder if I am a fraud. I confessed this very thing to my business coach. “How can I empower other women, when I still feel quite lost? Am I being deceptive?” I asked.

    With a bright, wide grin and sparkle in her eye, she said, “No, Debbie. This is part of your journey as much as it is theirs.”

    As I pondered her response and let the words sink in, I thought, “Yes…and this is the best part of the journey, sharing it and living through it with others.”

    My journey started long before the idea of Emerge Empowerment came to me. I have felt so lost and directionless for years. Yes, I have a corporate job (going into my 16th year at my current company) that pays the bills, makes me feel secure, and allows me to rely on no one but myself.

    Unfortunately, it is killing me. It eats away at me every day, stealing happiness and fulfillment; leaving me without a sense of purpose and overworking me until I cannot even think straight.

    But through the years, I found distractions from my misery—writing to decorating to real estate and more. The list goes on. And while I certainly love all of those things, I didn’t give myself fully to them; certainly not enough for a career.

    I know now that I was searching…searching for something that would fulfill me and give purpose to my life.

    When the concept of Emerge “emerged” (hee, hee), a fire lit up inside of me and I knew for sure it was not a “distraction.” It was my purpose, my calling, and I knew then and there that I had to make it a reality. “How??” became the question. I know nothing about running a business!

    And so every day I flounder. Every. Single. Day.

    For me, a typical day consists of 12-14 hours working at my corporate job; checking on and/or reposting close to 300 items listed on Craigslist from the event decorating business I used to have; hopping onto all of my social media to make sure I’m interacting, supporting, and responding to people; and trying to figure out WHEN I am going to have to time start working on my education for my coaching certification. Throw in daily/weekly chores and errands, trying to put energy into my relationship, and, oh, maybe find some time to sleep, eat, and exercise. It is daunting and exhausting. And now, figure out how to run a valuable and profitable business so I can leave my corporate job, help women learn how to empower themselves, and live the life I desire. WHAT?!?!

    I am grateful to have merged life-paths with a fabulous business coach, an amazing financial coach, and some absolutely incredible women whom I know will have a positive impact on me professionally and personally. I learn so much each day. And the more I learn, the more I know I will build Emerge into a place where women want to come to get educated, feel safe, learn to care for and empower themselves. The Emerge Family will grow and I will cultivate it.

    I know this journey will likely be rocky and filled with challenges. I also know it’s going to be the best time of my life! Chances are, there are likely some of you out there going through your own transition. No matter where you are in your journey, I invite you to join me and let’s traverse this adventure together; supporting and encouraging each other at every step. So, this is my true story, along with the story of my hopes and dreams. And this I know…

    Together, we can do this!

     

    Have YOU made the transition? I’d love to hear about your journey; successes AND stumbles. Please comment below and share.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.