• Three levels of identity - how to have them serve you so you can quit your job and leave your 9-5 corporate job. #Leave9-5 #Leave9to5 #Escape9to5 #QuitYourJob #DebbieCromack #How #Coach Three Levels of Identity – How to Have them Serve You (so you can leave your 9-5)

    Three levels of identity - how to have them serve you so you can quit your job and leave your 9-5 corporate job. #Leave9-5 #Leave9to5 #Escape9to5 #QuitYourJob #DebbieCromack #How #Coach

     

    Identity

     

    I never really thought much about my identity until it was about to change…dramatically.

     

    I worked in corporate America for over 25 years, 19 in my most recent company. Whenever I met someone new, the conversation often started with, “Hi, I’m Debbie!” followed by, “Hi, I’m {insert name}. What do you do, Debbie?” Proudly, I would respond, “I’m an Operations Manager at {insert big-name, well-known corporate company}” and receive an impressed nod of approval.

     

    My job, the company I worked for, became who I was…my identity. I worked 10, 12, sometimes 14 hours a day and often times on weekends as well. This wasn’t unusual. The amount of work was overwhelming and my counterparts worked similar hours. Spending so much of my life working my job, it was who I became as a person.

     

    And for a long time, I was proud of who I was and what I had accomplished in my life. I had earned my MBA, worked at a highly-valued and admired company, was in a long-term relationship with an amazing man, had a beautiful home and amazing friends, and life seemed pretty darn good.

     

    Sadly, with all I had accomplished, there was an emptiness gnawing at me. Something deep inside my soul was unfulfilled and I felt my life had no real meaning or purpose. I had a deep desire to help people, truly help people…something I definitely was NOT doing in my 9-5 job.

     

    After bawling my eyes out on the bathroom floor one too many times, I DECIDED I was done being an employee and I started my Emerge Empowerment, LLC business…as a side hustle. My business morphed and changed over time as I learned and niched and tweaked. It filled me with purpose and passion. I was finally doing work that lit up my soul.

     

    Admittedly, I was exhausted. With my corporate job being as demanding as it was, there was little time (or energy) to put into my business. And, as much as I loved it, it wasn’t far enough developed financially to pay my bills. And so, the straddle continued for about 2½ years.

     

    I believe our identity exists on a spectrum. You see, when it came to my career, there was the employee side of the spectrum and the CEO/entrepreneur side of the spectrum. For the bulk of my 2½ years, I was on the employee side. VERY SLOWLY over time, the needle on the spectrum began to move towards the CEO side. And when I finally made the DECISION that I was going to quit my job, I really started putting my toes into my CEO shoes. And once I made that decision, things in my business really started to shift.

     

    I’ve only had my feet fully in my CEO shoes as a full-time entrepreneur for just about two weeks and I know I still have a ways to go to truly FEEL my identity and I’m so ready for the rest of the journey.

     

    1)     Values

    One of the other things I found myself questioning along my identity journey was my values. Not my core values, but what I placed value on.

     

    Working for a fortune 100 company, I now realize I measured my self-worth against my job and the company I worked for. When it came to being my own boss, running my own business, my self-worth had to come from…ME. And when that realization struck me, I struggled…A LOT.

     

    I started to question my own value. I wondered if I would still get nods of impressed-approval when I told people what I do for a living. And then I wondered why I even wondered that! Why did it matter to me what others thought of me and my career? Did I somehow feel I needed their approval or permission to go after my dreams and desires? Could I even run a business? What if I’m not good enough? What if no one even wants to work with me? I have no idea what I’m doing! What is wrong with me?

     

    YIKES! This craziness kept my head spinning for quite some time.

     

    That was when I started digging…DEEP…into mindset work. And I’m so grateful I did.

     

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    2)    Thoughts

    As I look back now, I see it all so much more clearly. I was allowing so many of my individual thoughts to get foggy and cluttered with fears. You know, those negative stories we play over and over and OVER in our heads. Stories that came from an interpretation of something that was said to you or about you when you were younger. Stories that weren’t true, but for some reason, you’ve always held onto them as being true.

     

    Yup, those are the thoughts that were ruling my mind. I allowed those pesky fears to sprinkle my thoughts for so long that they became my beliefs about myself, my worth, my value. And through that vision, I was nothing at all.

     

    And so, I decided to get acquainted with my fears. To understand what they were and where they came from. Why did I think so little of myself? Why did I think my worth and value came from being great at spreadsheets and putting together PowerPoint presentations? How did I come to place my self-worth in the hands of big-wigs who knew nothing about me?

     

    I dug. And I found pain and heartache…and answers.

     

    You see, when we step in our CEO-shoes, our self-worth and our value of ourselves has to come from US. And if you’ve always been used to it coming from others, this can be VERY confusing and difficult if your self-worth was never cultivated. When you have allowed your identity to be defined by someone other than you for the majority of your life, it can feel really scary to suddenly be the owner of your identity.

     

    3)    Beliefs

    When you keep repeating the same thoughts in your mind over and over, those thoughts form your beliefs. And your mind looks for anything and everything to confirm those beliefs. When those beliefs are negative in nature, no amount of strategy, no fancy technology system, no amount of free coaching is going to lead to your success as an online coach.

     

    I don’t say this to deter you. I say it to fuel you because here’s the thing…YOU are the master of your mind. YOU have the power to control and change your thoughts to SERVE you versus HINDER you. Your mind is so powerful, you just need to learn how to feed it with your new truths and reality.

     

    Here’s the most basic way I can explain this to you. Your mind only knows what it’s told, thus it only knows what YOU tell it. When you were little and learned how to tie your shoelaces, your mind didn’t know how to do it until you were taught and then you practiced until you knew how to do it so well that you no longer had to think about it.

     

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    Now you’re older and wiser. I want you to notice the thoughts in your head. How frequently are the negative? Your willingness to be aware and truthful is key. When you notice a negative thought, I want you to simply recognize it…without judgement or ridicule…reword it with a positive spin. I want you to create positive affirmations for yourself that you repeat throughout the day.

     

    When you make a habit of shifting your thoughts, you start changing your mindset. And when you change your mindset to the positive things you desire in life and the things you ARE capable of and worthy of, your mind, once again, looks for everything to affirm your thoughts and beliefs…thereby attracting those things to you.

     

    One powerful way I have been reprogramming my thoughts is by using the ThinkUp app. It’s a free app that also has paid options with more features. You simply type in your positive affirmations or choose from the hundreds of affirmations the app offers and then record them in your voice. The app then adds meditation music in the background of your voice saying your positive affirmations. The most optimal way to use it is at night while you’re falling asleep so as you’re drifting off to sleep, and for however long you set the timer, you’re feeding your brain, your subconscious, with your positive affirmations. Science shows that your subconscious is most receptive when you are unconscious, basically asleep. This is the perfect time to feed your positive affirmations to your mind using the ThinkUp app. Using your iPhone, check it out HERE and give it a try.

     

    Take Action and Step In

    Now I want you to take ACTION!! Write down on paper and then read aloud WHO you identify as. If you’re feeling brave, share it in the comments below. Here’s an example to get you thinking…

    I identify as a successful Business Coach, the CEO of my profitable, successful business.

     

    I’m not a fake-it-until-you-make-it kind of person. I DO, however want you starting to move your identity from “employee” to “CEO.” Even if you don’t feel fully in your CEO-shoes just yet, I want you starting to ask yourself what thoughts would you-as-a-CEO have. What actions would you take as the CEO of your business? At least step in by putting your toes into your CEO-shoes. 😊

     

    When you’re straddling your 9-5 and running your business, your time is limited. I want you stepping more and more into your CEO-shoes. I want you thinking and acting from those CEO-shoes. I want you focusing on revenue-producing tasks. If you want to know more about what I mean by this, let’s chat! Set up a coffee/cocoa chat HERE.

     

    Make sure your identity statement rings true for YOU.

     

    Be empowered,

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  • The 5 Best Books for Female Entrepreneurs The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs

    The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs. Get inspired by these high-performing female entrepreneurs and learn how to thrive in your online coaching business so you can learn how to quit your job. #Entrepreneur #Entrepreneurs #Escape9to5 #Empowerment #Books #Author #GirlBoss #DebbieCromack #Leave9-5 #Leave9to5 Repin it!

     

    The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs

     

    So, you’ve decided you’re done with giving your life to a job where you’re overworked, underpaid, unappreciated, stressed out, have no social life, and are working yourself into an early grave just to make someone you don’t even know rich. AWESOME!!

     

    Now what??

     

    You’ll likely start out with excitement, exhilaration, hope, enthusiasm, and massive energy. You are an expert at traversing the corporate world, but you have no idea how to be a successful female entrepreneur. So, you start researching and Googling and joining Facebook groups and searching Pinterest and watching webinars and…suddenly your brain is spinning and you feel absolutely confused, overwhelmed, uninspired, and completely discourage. So much so that you may give up before you even gave yourself a chance.

     

    I want you to stop…and take a deep breath.

     

    We ALL did this! It’s hard to know where to start, what to do, what’s important, what’s NOT important, and how to figure it all out.

     

    Girl, I’ve got you covered. Here is a list of the 5 best books for new female entrepreneurs to read when you’re first starting out. They helped me tremendously! Use them as your starting block.

     

    The 5 Best Books for New Female Entrepreneurs

    1.      #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso

    2.     She Means Business by Carrie Green

    3.      Is Your Business Worth Saving by Stacy Tuschl

    4.     Daring & Disruptive by Lisa Messenger

    5.      Girl Code by Cara Alwill Leyba

     

    These books are written by some fabulous women who have been where you are and they share their stories of what worked, what didn’t and all the ups and downs that got them to where they are now.

     

    So, take another deep breath, read the summary of each, pick one that resonates with you, and get started on your journey. Just remember to stay resilient and keep pursuing your dreams.

     

    And to help you learn from some of the best in this online space, check out my blog, 8 Online Female Entrepreneurs YOU NEED TO FOLLOW.

     

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    If you’re at a point where you’re ready to uncover some of your limiting (and untrue) beliefs that are holding you back from the successful business you desire and start learning how to squash them, take my FREE QUIZ.

     

    And if you found this post helpful, please Pin it and share it via the social media buttons below! Thank you!

     

    Take one step at a time. You can do this!

     

    Be empowered,

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