• Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018 Empowerment Book of the Week – 2018

    Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018

     

    Hey, fabulous ladies!!

     

    Education is at the core of empowerment because knowledge…is POWER.

     

    Part of feeling empowered is directly related to how knowledgeable we feel. This year, I will be sharing with you one book each week that has empowerment at its core. The genres will vary from things like self-development to health and beauty products to mindset to business/entrepreneurship to lifestyle and exercise and many others.

     

    Sometimes we can feel empowered in one area of our life, but not other areas. The variety I will be sharing will help you tap into other areas, increase your knowledge, and fuel your empowerment.

     

    I’ll use this blog as the main spot for listing the books and I’ll update it each week with that week’s recommendation. I hope some of them tickle your fancy and I hope the ones you choose to read are truly helpful for you.

     

    To get your copy, simply click on the title of the book below.

     

    Week 1: A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks PhD.

     

    Week 2: #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso. #GIRLBOSS proves that being successful isn’t about where you went to college or how popular you were in high school. It’s about trusting your instincts and following your gut; knowing which rules to follow and which to break; when to button up and when to let your freak flag fly.

     

    Knowledge is Power!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your books!!

     

  • No more stinky underarms - naturally. No More Stinky Underarms – Naturally

    No more stinky underarms - naturally.

     

    If you’ve ever had “nervous” sweat, you are well aware of the putrid stench that billows out from under your arms, polluting the air around you. It’s all you can smell and you KNOW everyone around you can smell it…smell YOU. And all you want to do is hide in the bathroom.

     

    Oh, yes, I know this all too well.

     

    I was always a nervous kid. And ever since I can remember, my underarms have smelled like 14-day old meatloaf rotting in the Sahara Desert. Peeeewwww!!!

     

    When I was young, I used baby powder, hoping the sweet scent would camouflage my smell; it didn’t. As I got older, I bought into the advertising and used a popular deodorant/antiperspirant, at the time touting the highest percentage of aluminum to prevent odor. This was before I started educating myself on the toxins in many of our health and beauty products.

     

    At one point, I even got electrolysis on my underarms thinking it must be the hair causing my stink. While I LOVE never having to shave my underarms, the stench persisted.

     

    I was well into my thirties before I really started paying more attention to and researching the ingredients in the products I was using and slathering all over my skin.

     

    Now, you can find pretty much anything you want on the Internet. You can find evidence to support just about any side of any debate. What resonates with you will be what you choose to believe. For me, I try not to be an extremist, but rather to be informed and make the best choice possible for me based on what I choose to believe.

     

    Whether aluminum is directly connected to Alzheimer’s disease or not, whether parabens (often in deodorants) are directly connected to breast cancer or not, these are not things I want absorbing into my body on a daily basis. This is my personal choice. There’s a good bit of breast cancer in my family and I’d like to help my tatas stay healthy. 🙂

     

    If you’re looking for a healthier alternative for your deodorant, I’m sharing with you here some of my discoveries. If you decide to try them, I hope they work well for you.

     

    Natural Deodorants

     

    Option 3: Schmidt’s Deodorant Stick

    Schmidts Natural Deoderant Fragrance Free

    For me, this is option 3 because it didn’t do much to stop the rotting smell of my underarms. If you do NOT struggle with nervous sweat, this may be a good option for you. They have a variety of scents as well as unscented. Free of aluminum, propylene glycol, parabens, and phthalates. Gluten-free. Certified Vegan and cruelty-free. You can find it HERE.

     

    Option 2: Lavanila The Healthy Deodorant

    Lavanila The Healthy Deoderant

    I like the soft scent of the vanilla lavender. They have a variety of scents, including a fragrance free one for those who are super sensitive (LINK). It works well to address my overly stinky underarms. I have it ranked number two because it doesn’t work long enough for me and my body chemistry. I had to wash my underarms midday and reapply it.

     

    This is also a good option if you do not struggle with the smell of nervous sweat or if you don’t mind reapplying during the day. No aluminum. No parabens. All-natural ingredients. No harsh chemicals. Not tested on animals. No: petrochemicals, phthalates, propylene glycol, mineral oils, silicone, synthetic dyes, sulfates, or parabens. You can find it HERE.

     

    Option 1: NATIVE DEODORANT

    NATIVE Deodorant

    This deodorant has worked best for me. They have a variety of scents, including unscented. I like the gentle scent of coconut & vanilla.

     

    In my crazy life of 10-12 hour corporate workdays followed by 2-3 hours a day on my business, ladies, I confess…there are days (sometimes 3 in a row) where I simply don’t have time to shower. Yup, I wrote it, you read it. Basically, I am marinating in my own juices! Fess up, I know I’m not alone. While it grosses me out, it is a reality sometimes (thankfully not very often). And during that time, this deodorant has NOT failed me. It has kept my horrific stench AWAY! 🙂

     

    The only thing I don’t care for is the slight overflow of product on the rim of the stick. When I put the lid back on, it then squeezes that overflow down so it gets on my hands when removing and replacing the lid. I’m a bit of a clean-freak so I wipe it after every use.

     

    Paraben free. Aluminum free. You can find it HEREUse coupon code: HEALTH10 to get 10% off your entire order (minimum order $15).

     

    A couple of things to note:

    1) These are natural deodorants and not organic. They do not have the USDA organic seal. I remain on the hunt for an organic one that I like and that works for me and my body chemistry (aka stinky underarms!). If I find one, you can be sure I’ll share it.

     

    2) These are all deodorants ONLY and NOT antiperspirants. So, they will help with odor, but they will not prevent you from sweating. Our bodies are meant to sweat. Stopping that natural process is not a good idea. Aside from keeping our body temperature regulated by cooling us down when needed, sweating helps us to expel toxins, thus supporting proper immune function and helping to prevent diseases related to toxic overload.

     

    3) I also have yet to find a deodorant that doesn’t leave white residue on the underarms of my clothing.

     

    Here is some research I did for myself. You may find it helpful. Be informed and do your research.

     

    Paraben, Mineral Oils, Petrolatum

     

    I hope you found this review helpful. If you try any of these options, I’d love to know how you make out. So, come back here and share in the comments below.

     

    Get educated and be empowered about the choices you make with your hygiene products.

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your products!!

  • 3 Hours in the Deli Line 3 Hours in the Deli Line

    3 Hours in the Deli Line

     

    It was a beautiful summer Sunday and my boyfriend and I decided to have lunch in the park. So, I ran out to the grocery store to pick up some picnic foods.

     

    I don’t typically get us lunchmeats or cheeses from the deli counter because processed foods are just not healthy. But, we thought it would be fun to make some sandwiches so I headed to the deli counter.

     

    As is pretty typical on a Sunday there was quite a long line. I grabbed my ticket and saw I was number 39…they were on number 17.

     

    I tucked myself out of the way of the congestion at the counter as I heard the exasperation of a woman approaching.

     

    “Ugh, look at this line! I’ll see you in three hours!” she growled to a man I presume was her husband.

     

    I looked over and saw him acknowledge her growl as he turned with two children and walked away.

     

    She stomped over to grab her ticket and grumbled something. She then proceeded to sort of huff and puff, shifting her weight from foot to foot impatiently.

     

    All I could of was the missed opportunities.

     

    I’m not saying that standing in a long deli is fun or we should be happy about it. However, there’s really nothing we can do, but wait for our number to be called and place our order.

     

    This woman missed out on an opportunity for some self-care. Since she was basically stuck waiting, she could have used the time to do some therapeutic breathing (that would have helped to calm her frustration) or say a mantra or affirmations in her head.

     

    And as a mother, she could have used the situation to teach her children how to handle displeasing situations that are out of our control by simply having a positive attitude.

     

    She chose to adopt the life-happens-to-me perspective versus being empowered and 1) recognizing the situation as being out of her control, 2) accepting that it is what it is, and 3) changing how she dealt with it.

     

    We have a choice in every situation in our lives, whether it’s something we can control or something we can’t…the decision is ours to make.

     

    The next time you find yourself in a frustrating situation, be self-aware and recognize, accept, and change how you CHOOSE to deal with it.

     

    Be empowered,

  • A random act of kindness. A Random Act of Kindness

    A random act of kindness.

     

    Each year, I make a point of doing at least one random act of kindness. Throughout the year opportunities just appear. Whether it’s paying for groceries for the person in line ahead of me at the grocery whose out-of-state check won’t be accepted or a buying gifts cards, grocery staples, bath items, and lottery tickets for someone who has been going through a tough time, there are always opportunities that pop up.

     

    Sometimes, my gift is anonymous and sometimes, due to the situation (being in line at the grocery store) it’s not anonymous. Every time, the reaction is different. While I don’t do it for a certain response, it is interesting the different reactions that happen. Some seem in shock and say nothing. Some look at me strangely and say, “Thank you.”

     

    This past weekend, an opportunity popped up. We were out to dinner and our waitress was particularly good. She was pleasant and just the right amount of attentive. I had lost my voice due to a cold and she brought me some Italian wedding soup without charging us. One of the times she walked away, I noticed her pause at an empty table and stretch her feet.

     

    Clearly I had no idea what was going on in her life and she didn’t share anything personal during our visit. Her beautiful face was a bit weathered from life. Though she didn’t complain and was very nice to us, she just seemed…tired. I’ve waitressed before and I know how exhausting it can be to be constantly on your feet for hours, running around serving people and not usually making great money.

     

    When we finished eating, I asked my boyfriend to get the car and that I wanted to catch our waitress quickly before we left. I found her on the outdoor patio smoking a cigarette, checking her phone. When she saw me, she put out her cigarette and apologized, asking if I still needed something.

     

    I asked her to sit with me and told her about my random act of kindness that I do each year. Her eyes fixed intently on mine as I spoke. I opened her hand and put $60.00 in her hand, but all she could see was the $20.00 so she didn’t really know what she was holding. She shook her head and said she couldn’t take it. I pressed it firmly into her hand and told her she could and that she matters in this world. In that moment, her gaze broke and waves of tears came crashing out of her eyes. She threw her arms around me and held me so tightly. I felt her body shake as she squeezed me and sobbed.

     

    I let her hold me as long as she needed. When we released, she looked at me and simply said, “Thank you.” I told her I wanted her to get a massage and make sure they rub her feet. She smiled and let out a chuckle. She thanked me again while holding onto my hands. I gave her hands a squeeze and smiled at her as I left.

     

    I still have no idea what is happening in her world, but I suspect she’s going through something difficult. I also have no idea what she’ll use the money for, but now she has it and hopefully it will help her in some way.

     

    There are people in need all around us. You never know what a simple act of kindness can mean to someone. Open your eyes and you will see opportunities are everywhere.

     

    An act of kindness doesn’t have to be monetary. You would be surprised how big a difference a smile, a hug, or a handful of wildflowers can make.

     

     

    Our world needs more kindness. Be a light in someone’s darkness.

     

     

    Will you join me? What random act of kindness have you done this year? I’d love to know. Share in the comments below.

     

    Be empowered,

     

    P.S. To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my free Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs, at http://bit.ly/EEEFBGroup.

  • The Bottom of the List The Bottom of the List

    The Bottom of the List

    I love making lists! Grocery lists, Christmas lists, to-do lists, life lists…all kinds of lists! I feel so productive and happy when I check things off the list.

     

    I’m a bit of an organization freak. With my chaotic life, my lists help me prioritize things that need to get done and also keep track of the things I want to get done.

     

    Each workday, I make a list for both my corporate job and my business, Emerge Empowerment. I prioritize the non-negotiable items that absolutely must get done before I go to bed at night. Then I draw a line and add some items I’d like to get done if I have time.

     

    The weekends get a different list and the list…is rather long. Similarly, it gets lines for things that I have to make sure get done, like grocery shopping, and then there are the house projects or things I’d like to get done, like touch-up painting spots on the living room walls. Often times, I end up with a couple lists, one for each day.

     

    I go about my workdays and weekends getting things done that need to get done and crossing them off my lists. At some point, the list just gets messy. And with my itch to stay organized, I decide I need to consolidate and refresh the list. So, the items not crossed off go onto a fresh sticky-note and I add anything new.

     

    There is something troubling about list-making though. When writing and rewriting and rewriting again the same things over and over, it can seem as though you’re not accomplishing anything. This can lead to feeling defeated and we go down the dreaded path of judging and ridiculing ourselves for not getting enough done.

     

    The other day, as I wrote down, “-cut stickers off window candles” for honestly probably the 40th time, I STOPPED. “Ah! I’m tired of writing this down week after week after week!” In that moment I decided not to rewrite the three items at the bottom of the list.

     

    Instead, I completed them!

     

    And, oh, my goodness did it feel amazing!! Who knew how great it would feel to get those things DONE?! Now, they were not at all a priority. But they were these insignificant things that kept nagging at me. And they were things I knew weren’t going to take huge amounts of time. They were just things that were unimportant that I simply didn’t feel like doing, but wanted done. Completing them and NOT rewriting them on my list felt so…cleansing.

     

    Are you a list-maker? What’s on the bottom of your list that you can do and stop rewriting? Bring up three items from the bottom of your list and just do them. You will experience a fabulous sense of accomplishment! And then…celebrate!

     

    “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”

    ~Thomas Carlyle

     

    Share below at least one of the items from the bottom of your list that you plan to knock off and never rewrite again!

     

    Be empowered,

     

    P.S. To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my free Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs, at http://bit.ly/EEEFBGroup.

  • Beauty Products - Does Organic Matter? Beauty Products – Does Organic Matter?

    Beauty Products - Does Organic Matter?

    This week, I had two friends experience breast cancer scares. Both of them found a lump in their breasts. And while Emerge Empowerment is about business, at its core, it is about empowerment. And do I want to remind everyone that what we put ONto our bodies is just as important as what we put INto our bodies. Hearing just a bit about each of their stories touched my heart and I felt compelled to write today’s blog.

     

    By now, most of you know that I have had cystic acne since I was in my early twenties. If you haven’t yet watched my first-ever YouTube video where I talk about my skin issues, you can check it out by clicking HERE. And if any of you have ever had skin issues of any kind, you KNOW the physical pain and emotional embarrassment that comes with them. Your confidence suffers, you want to hide, and you surely are NOT feeling empowered.

     

    Since the onset of my acne, I tried so many different possible solutions, both topical and oral. If there was a cream I could slather on, I slathered. A masque, slap it on me. Toothpaste on my pimple to dry it up, why not?? That one left a scar…I don’t recommend it. Oh, the systems and washes I tried. From Proactive (twice) to the plethora of options from Hollywood’s beautiful women, I ordered it and used it. Even though they didn’t all promise to crush my acne, I hoped they might help. Nothing did.

     

    Off to the dermatologist I went for more salves and lotions…AND, pharmaceuticals. I’ve been on probably most of the antibiotic options (tetracycline, minocin, etc.), birth control, Accutane (twice), some stinky Sulphur pill, and anything they recommended. So many drugs into my body for so many years.

     

     

    Nothing helped…at least nothing long term.

     

    Most recently, for the past 6-7 years, I was on spironolactone. It was the only thing I found that worked well and long term. My skin was…finally…normal. I even received compliments and was stunned every time. Still, it was a drug. And the more I learn about my body and what I put into it, the more I decided it was time to be DONE with drugs just to have normal skin. I knew the medicine was impacting my body in other ways…why else would I need to get bloodwork done every so often? Yikes!!

     

    While sitting in a doctor’s office one morning perusing a magazine, I happened across an article where the author’s story very closely mirrored my own. She went completely off of dairy and high glycemic foods. I had stopped most dairy long ago because it upsets my stomach and it isn’t all that good for you. So, cutting out the cheese I ate occasionally wasn’t a big deal. I try to eat pretty healthy so didn’t eat many high glycemic foods; again, not difficult to cut them out entirely. So, off I went to try my new “diet.”

     

    I weaned off of my medicine as I made the dietary changes. After about three months…my skin was still clear!!!!

     

    Hooray!!!!

     

    At about month four…pop, pop-pop, pop-pop-pop…back came the pepperoni-face. My heart sank. The pimples were painful, I felt ugly, and I didn’t want to be seen.

     

    At the age of 46, I thought, this HAS to be hormonal. Come on, I have wrinkles already! Can I just deal with one OR the other?! J And so my journey led me to a holistic gynecologist.

     

    As I’ve gotten older, I have started researching more about the holistic world and learning so much about the toxins and chemicals that are not only in the foods we eat, but also in our health and beauty products. So, it was important to me to find a holistic approach to dealing with my acne. Our plan is to address my digestive issues and my doctor believes I may see an improvement in my skin with a reduction of the acne. And onward I go with my journey. I’m taking a probiotic and a holistic supplement called Berberine to help heal my “gut,” as the doctor’s like to refer to it. Every now and again, I’ll share with you my updates…good or bad.

     

    Alongside of my skin journey, I continue to explore and research more about what we put ONTO our bodies being just as important as what we put INTO our bodies.

     

    Have you ever read the label on some of your health and beauty products? I know, who has time for that? I never used to be a label-reader…until now. Let me help you out, there are tons of ingredients listed that you can’t even pronounce that are basically harsh chemicals and other toxins. Scary, huh? There is breast cancer in my family so I have a heightened awareness of parabens in the products I use. Click on the link below to see some research I did on my own that you may find useful.

     

    Paraben, Mineral Oils, Petrolatum

     

    After looking at the ingredients in some of the products I used regularly and learning about their hazardous impact on my body, I was, quite frankly, terrified. Now, don’t freak out and start throwing away all your products to run out and buy new ones…you’ll go broke! But, DO educate yourself.

     

     

    Run some of your products through the Think Dirty app. This app is amazingly informative! And they are partnered with the Breast Cancer Fund so I don’t feel like I’m being duped by any particular brand that might be paying them to advertise. In the app, you can scan a bar code to see that item or enter a brand name and it will show you products by that brand. It will also give a rating: 0-3 is green meaning pretty clean, 4-7 is yellow meaning it’s in the middle of clean and dirty, and 8-10 is red meaning…dirrrrrrrTY!!! When you find a product you use and see that it’s yellow or red, you can click on “Our Picks” and they provide options in the green category for you to consider. The “Dirty Meter” will show you a scale of three measurements: 1) carcinogenicity, 2) developmental & reproductive toxicity, and 3) allergies & immunotoxicities. Clicking on “Ingredients,” will show you what ingredients are impacting the Dirty Meter scale. Some very interesting information can be learned on these tabs.

     

    I have chosen to go organic with my health and beauty products. It’s a choice I made because I want to live healthier and not have toxic chemicals absorb into my skin causing who knows what health problems. I haven’t jumped on the crazy-train and you don’t have to either. As products you currently use run out, simply see if there’s something else you can replace it with that’s less harmful and non-toxic.

     

    It has taken some time to find products I like that work well for me, but I have. One line I love is Juice Beauty.

     

     

    It has the USDA Organic seal and that makes me feel like I’m using some pretty safe products. While the certification to be considered “organic” in the United States isn’t as stringent or restrictive as it is in other parts of the world, I still feel good that they have gone through this important process.

     

     

    I will admit that I don’t care for all of the products in Juice Beauty’s line. As you now know, I have difficult skin and some of the products simply don’t agree with my skin type. But, I do love the products that I’ve found that work well for me. And, while I can’t guarantee they’ll work for you, I can guarantee they’re at least worth a try.

     

    It is important to note that I am not affiliated with Think Dirty or Juice Beauty and I do not get paid by them. I’m simply sharing my experience in hopes that it might help you.

     

    When we educate ourselves, we are empowered. And when we are empowered, we make better decisions for our health and our lives. Do some research for yourself and use the information you find helpful. Small changes can make big differences in our lives.

     

    Read your labels, get educated, and make empowered decisions about the products you use.

     

    Comment below and let me know what natural or organic products or brands you use and love. I’m always looking for great products to try!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my FREE Facebook group by clicking here: Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Entrepreneurship - The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose Entrepreneurship – The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose

    Entrepreneurship - The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose

    Many of us seek freedom when we transition from corporate America to being an entrepreneur. Freedom to be our own boss. Freedom to have our own schedules. Freedom to live a life we desire.

     

    We desire this freedom so badly that we push ourselves…hard. We endure the mental anguish. We push through the physical torture. We can almost taste the freedom on the other side.

     

    Often times, our corporate jobs lack that magic ingredient that makes us feel like we’re serving a purpose in life. We feel empty. And we know we’re meant for something more. Something than has meaning and adds value to our lives and the lives of others. This burning, passionate desire drives us to become an entrepreneur.

     

    And so we set out on our entrepreneurial journey. Balancing our corporate job with our new business and family and well…life…will present challenges and stresses, but with determination and motivation, we follow our hearts to live our purpose.

     

    5:00 AM…the alarm goes off. I lay still and drained. My first thoughts are filled with how to prioritize all the things I need to get done for my corporate job before I can even think about working on my business. My body instantly sinks more heavily into the mattress and my heart follows.

     

    I force my limbs to move, letting my legs dangle from the side of the bed. My head hangs as though a sandbag is wrapped around it.

     

    Melancholy swells inside me.

     

    I put on my workout clothes and drag myself to the treadmill. The stretching feels good and I feel the blood begin to course through my body, waking me up. I do enjoy my treadmill time. It’s treasured me-time. My spirits lift as I step onto the belt and hit start.

     

    My legs move and my body and mind become alert. I say my prayers and start my mindset work; replacing old stories in my head that no longer serve me with powerful, positive thoughts of person I truly am and the life I’m creating for myself.  Joy, calm, and confidence spill into my body.

     

    Energy ignites me while my mind focuses on what steps I will take TODAY towards creating the life I want through my business. I say my mantras and affirmations and I visualize what my life will look like and how I will feel. My body floods with happiness and my soul feels free.

     

    As the seconds tick down on the treadmill, I feel my legs and arms tighten as the dozens of tasks awaiting me at my corporate job come surging like a tidal wave into my head. The sting pinches at the base of my head, sending what feels like electric shocks down my neck and shooting through my spine. Hopelessness veils over me.

     

    I shower and head to the prison of my corporate job. The imaginary shackles bind me to my desk through endless hours of conference calls…meaningless conference calls. I churn through inaccurate data, babysit the work of others, and fumble with the broken tools we have to use.

     

    I answer one email and 10 come in. Conference calls are back-t0-back for six hours and we’re not supposed to multitask. Text messages fly in rapidly. My heart races as my workload piles up. I stare at the number 520 next to my inbox and my chest tenses. Five hours into my day, I realize I haven’t gotten up from my desk and when I go to move, my joints are stiff.

     

    While listening to a pointless conference call, my mind wanders a bit to my business as an idea for a blog pops into my head. A spark of pleasure tickles me and I jot down the idea on a sticky note.

     

    “Where are we on that, Debbie?” The question jolts me back to my cell and my heart sinks again.

     

    And throughout the day, this emotional roller coaster hurls me around like a rag doll, stealing my freedom and robbing me of living my life…my purpose.

     

    Finally around 9:00 PM (and often times later), exhaustion forces me to stop. Now I can devote some time to my business. I check my 300+ emails, follow up on my social media platforms, and start working on the blog idea I had jotted down earlier. My brain in a fog, creativity escapes me.

     

    And suddenly, I feel very…alone.

     

    The online world has quieted down at this hour. I feel stuck and end up popping into the Facebook groups of some mentors I follow. They have tons of followers. Their messages are enlightening and inspired. They’re posting frequently and all over the place.

     

    “How am I ever going to accomplish this and be successful?” I wonder. “What am I doing? I don’t even know what I’m doing? There’s no way I can do this.”

     

    The fears and doubts I worked so hard to wash away in the morning with my mindset work have come blazing back with fury. All of the old stories that, “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t,” and “I’ll never make any money,” rage through me.

     

    In my state of sheer fatigue, I allow defeat to steal my purpose and smash my desires. Tears blur my sight.

     

    For a moment, I wallow in the self-pity. But ONLY for a moment.

     

    “No!” I determine zealously. “I will NOT let this be my existence,” I vow to myself.

     

    “I was put on this earth to make an impact. I was put here for a purpose. To help women find the power within them. To help them know and feel their worth. To help them transform their lives and create their own successful businesses. To help them build a life they fall in love with every day. To help them achieve their freedom. And to achieve my own freedom,” I remind myself.

     

    “I will NOT give up. I will NOT give in,” I promise myself.

     

    And now I want YOU to make a promise to yourself. NEVER, EVER give up…EVER!

     

    Life is filled with ups and downs, this we know. The transition from corporate America to being on entrepreneur will try to chew you up, spit you out, and stomp all over you.

     

    But, you…YOU are brave, you are passionate, you are empowered!! You have such great strength inside of you. Tap into it every day. Practice your mindset work every day. You have the ability to power through all the negativity. You control your mind…your destiny. And I believe in YOU.

     

    You are capable of all that you desire. Live your purpose.

     

    What purpose are YOU living? Please share below. Let’s keep each other going!

     

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my free Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs, at http://bit.ly/EEEFBGroup.

  • Small, focused steps can lead to big, empowered impact. Reiki Principles for Our Health and Happiness

    Small, focused steps can lead to big, empowered impact.

     

    Our world is full of stress, we are riddled with anxiety, and our pace is often in a constant state of fast-forward such that quieting our minds at the end of each day seems unattainable. And wrapped up in all of this negative energy, our health and our happiness suffer.
    As defined on Reiki.org, “Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by “laying on hands” and is based on the idea that an unseen “life force energy” flows through us and is what causes us to be alive. If one’s “life force energy” is low, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy.”
    Today, I’m pleased to feature Rebecca Syx, RN MSN as my guest blogger. Read below to learn how to change your focus one step at a time and, over time, feel the larger, healthier, happier impact on your life and the lives of those around you.

     

    The 5 principles of Reiki

    Just for today, do not be angry

    Just for today, do not worry

    Just for today, be grateful

    Just for today, work hard

    Just for today, be kind to others.

     

    I love the snarky Facebook posts from parents about laundry and yoga pants and wine and making it until bedtime. Their irony and sarcasm make me laugh and hit close to home. But if I sit and think about it enough, they also make me feel so sad because these hilarious quotes and memes are many times based in a cynicism which roots deep. This can bring one to wonder how they can survive another day in the hamster wheel of life where you are just struggling to keep your chin above water let alone keep your house clean and survive until bedtime. This became more apparent to me after my first Reiki attunement.

     

    There were several emotions stirred up in me during that weekend which caused me to evaluate several aspects of my life from a new perspective. I especially identified with the 5 principles of Reiki because they were familiar to me from my religious upbringing. When I was considering ways in which I could bring Reiki with me into my everyday life, I realized that I could infuse the 5 principles into my routine and, in turn, reap great results. By focusing on loving myself and loving others, I know great achievements are made.

     

    So what if, instead of focusing on the hamster wheel cynicism of the daily grind, I focused on infusing the 5 principles? Don’t get me wrong, I identify with the snarky posts. But I was open and willing to take an honest look at how I was spending my energy in speaking about my life. Words carry so much more weight than we realize many times.

     

    For example, instead of saying “I can’t wait until the kids go to bed” I would say “I am so grateful for this full day even with its challenges and even though I’m exhausted from living this day so well.”

     

    The change in focus from making it to bedtime (not focusing on the present) to feeling tired from living so well (gratitude for a full life) shifts perspective. It seems so small. But when mindfulness is placed on tone and your words are intentionally focused on gratitude and love and kindness, larger shifts begin to occur.

     

    My husband and I both work, he at a crunching-numbers desk job and me as a night shift ICU nurse. We are also raising three beautiful young children. In the middle of all this we are working to meet all of the usual standards of taking care of each other, taking care of our marriage, making sure our kids are getting the right nutrition from the right things and that they are in the right activities, attending to our faith, working out, eating properly, etc. etc. etc. No pressure, right? Right. This is where the challenge started for me.

     

    “Just for today.” How am I supposed to manage the schedule of a family of five “just for today?” I like to plan. And not only just plan, manage every detail. With that detailed focus, however, comes some other tendencies. Tendencies to rehash things that were said or worry about what could possibly go wrong. This form of anxiety, Type-A, organized—whatever you want to call it to soften the label—feels like it has been a part of me for my entire life. So living just for today, in moments, with gratitude is something that I work on every day. Some days I crush it and some days not so much. Some days it is easy to be present, be slow to anger, let go of worry and control, be grateful, not complain about working hard and be kind to others. And other days I fail miserably.

     

    What I have learned over my first year of being a Reiki practitioner is that we are all learning this process. Many of us want to have these principles come easy to us every day and this is where change occurs. The realization of this desire and the mindfulness to keep the principles in the forefront of our busy, overworked, multitasking minds is where positive change is birthed.

     

    When you tack on the “just for today” at the start of the precept, it does take some pressure off. It doesn’t say “don’t ever worry.” Just start with today. And some days I will change it to “Just for the next hour, do not worry” or “Until lunch, be grateful.” Some days this is all one can do. Take the day in steps. This is the way to change mindset over time. It eventually becomes easier to release old ways of thinking and old habits and patterns. While saying “I’ve always been this way” is certainly a safe reason to justify ways of thinking, it doesn’t mean change is impossible.

     

    Small steps in manipulating and breaking thought patterns will eventually lead to bigger changes. If you can break the cycle of anxious, angry, ungrateful thoughts even just once you become that much stronger than the pattern. Over time, it will become easier and easier to break the cycle and you will gain a better sense of control of the “ways you have always been.” This is certainly possible and I can say that because I have done it in my own life.

     

    So maybe start today. Actually, definitely start today. Choose one little principle and make it your mantra for the day, for the week. Maybe just start with an hour. Wherever you start is perfect because this journey of mindfulness and gratitude and love will sweep you off your feet eventually and before you know it things will appear radically different. The once mundane and seemingly insignificant appear magnificent. No, it will not be a perfect journey. There are days when I lay in bed beating myself up over how I could have done things differently that day. But those times are becoming less and less common. Those thoughts linger for shorter periods of time. And I realize that the implementation and focus on these precepts has brought great positive change for myself and those around me.

     

    The ripple effect of this type of change—based in love—is where major change starts. Begin today by promising to love others and yourself. Sprinkle in some gratitude. Release worry and fear and anger and see beauty in the daily grind. You are worth it, dear one.

     

    Learn more about Rebecca and her work at Greater Good Wellness.

     

    Small, focused steps can lead to big, empowered impact.

     

    Let’s do this together. Comment below and let me know what principle you are going to implement in your life starting now. I am a worry-wart. So I will start with, “Just for today, I will not worry.”
    Be empowered,

  • Entrepreneurship is a journey of self-discovery. Entrepreneurship – The Mental Anguish

    I remember when I was young and thought about what my life would be like. What kind of job I would have. Would I have a family? Where would I live?

    I was a happy child with a creative mind, a caring heart, and a thoughtful soul. And I loved helping people, it made me feel good. As I got older, this desire grew and I got my undergraduate degree in psychology/sociology/anthropology. I loved learning about how people work inside their brains and how I could help them feel better. One thing I knew for sure was that I did NOT want to work behind a desk all day in an air conditioned office.

    And guess what? Yup, that’s exactly where I landed. Since I was not encouraged to follow my dreams and my hopes and desires were squashed, I let go of any fantasies about the life I desired. And I followed a path that was supposed to set me up for life.

    I got a corporate job with a pension, 401K, and benefits plan. I also went on to earn my MBA. And I loathed every minute of my life. The stress became unbearable, the hours insanely exhausting, and I had no life outside of work.

    All I had set myself up for was an early death.

    And for the first time in my life, I decided it was time to follow my heart. I made the decision to be an entrepreneur. And I was filled with passion about something that would actually have a positive impact on this world. I would finally be helping people. And I was lit up inside.

    Though my 12-14 hour days didn’t leave time for much else in my life, I let my passion drive me. I stayed up late, got up early, and sacrificed any moment of available time to dive into my business. I spent hours upon hours Googling, YouTube-ing, and DIY-ing everything I could to figure out the whole online entrepreneur thing.

    I kept researching and learning; taking online courses and participating in challenges. I interacted on Facebook groups and social media platforms. I never knew I was going to need to learn how to be a photographer, a marketing genius, an advertising mogul, a brilliant copywriter, a savvy salesperson, an IT expert, a branding wizard, and so…much…more!!

    Hours led to days. Days led to weeks. And I wasn’t get very far. And I definitely wasn’t making the money because I wasn’t selling anything because I was spending all my time trying to figure out what I was even doing! Any hopes of being able to leave my corporate job were thwarted by overwhelm.

    Fog filled my brain…complete and utter mental anguish. I had lost sight of my purpose, the reason I started my business in the first place. How was I going to help others when I couldn’t even figure things out myself? Fear and self-doubt slithered their way in and I lost faith in myself. And no revenue was coming into my business. Working my corporate job and throwing myself into my business only to be unsuccessful; despair had set in.

    Finally…I found the missing piece…mindset.

    I had been so confident as a high-achiever in my corporate job, doing my research, analyzing my data, and presenting my findings…no problem. My “value” came from producing delieverables, which had nothing to do with believing in myself.

    What I realized was that I needed to work on me before I was going to see any success in helping others. I needed to learn how to heal myself, believe in myself, and allow myself to dream again. I needed to learn house to reprogram all the years of crappy programming I had allowed to control my life. That old programming has us telling ourselves the most awful things, creating demons inside us. I had to go on a journey of self-exploration and learn how to live without judgement. To learn how to love myself and know, unequivocally, that I am worthy and I can help people find their own worth.

    I reframed the use of my time and focused…every day…on mindset work. And within one month, my life began to change. I started making the right connections with people who could help me learn exactly what I needed to know to be successful in the online space. The right opportunities started popping up. I found amazing resources. And I felt exhilaration fill me! The fog cleared and my path was clear.

    The entrepreneurial journey is not an easy one. But when you focus on transforming your mindset to serve you rather than hinder you, blissful, magical things begin to happen.

    Your life is what you make it and it all starts with YOU.

    There are many ways to work on our mindset. Please share one of yours below.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Touching a Life Touching a Life

    As an entrepreneur, you dive into your business; head first, feet first, whatever…you just dive. You have a passion burning inside of you and a message you want to share. You’re filled with energy and ideas and goals and dreams. And you know you can make a difference in this world.

    I have found that most of us truly want to help people. And helping people is pretty broad. So, you set a goal, make a plan, and strategize how to get there. You make lists and hone in on what you really want to do and who your audience is. You think about what your business will look like. Will it be strictly E-commerce? Or do you want a brick-and-mortar facility? You think about your brand and what you want to stand for; how people feel when they think of you and your business. You create a logo and get business cards. You create profiles on social media and start interacting with your following.

     

     

    There is a lot to think about when you’re first starting out. And if you don’t already know people who have done what you’re trying to do, gosh, is it overwhelming. If you’re lucky enough, you stumble across an amazing coach or two who help you find your way. And even then, there’s so much to do and learn.

    At times, you may get hit with that awful misperception called fear. And that dreaded self-doubt creeps in. You become apprehensive and begin to wonder if you can even do this. You question yourself, “What was I thinking? I can’t do this!” A day or two goes by and you feel your power again, “Other women are doing it. They’re not smarter than me. They’re not better than me. I can do this!” A few hours go by or even a few more days. Maybe you’re struggling to get your website up. Those self-deprecating thoughts rear their ugly heads again. The emotions can be quite intense. And if you don’t have a support-system on your side, failure may consume and destroy you. For me, the juggling of my corporate job with trying to start up my Emerge business has me in a constant state of teeter-tottering between, “I’m out of my mind, I can’t do this!” and “This is what I’m meant to do. I can so do this!”

    Determined to succeed and do work that you love and has value and gives you a sense of purpose, you forge ahead. You create content you hope will resonate with people and help build your tribe. You interact on all of your social media and wonder if anyone is even reading what you’re posting. Maybe you even get a “Like” on Facebook or Instagram or perhaps a “Share” on Twitter. But then, you think, “What does that really mean?”

     

    I was spiraling around in all
    of this like a tornado.

     

    And then one day, I received a “Like” on one of my Twitter posts. I sent a message to thank the young lady for liking my Tweet. To my surprise, she messaged me back to thank me for my uplifting posts. She let me know that she looks forward to them and that reading my “encouraging messages has transformed me for the better!” Well, my mouth dropped open.

    We then exchanged messages back and forth where I learned more about her and she shared some background on her life to explain why she was so impacted by my posts. She shared with me a video of her speech called, Life’s Choices, that she now presents to students around the country. After watching her video and being honored that she shared it with me, I then understood the impact of my words on her.


    And I cried.

     

    I cried deep and hard. I couldn’t contain it. I had touched a life. I…me…had made a positive impact on a delicate soul who values my messages. My chest convulsed as tears poured out and my heart was filled with pure joy and the knowledge that I can make a difference. I sit here with moisture sweeping my eyes as I write this. This incredible woman had created a defining moment for me. A moment that told me, without a doubt, I am absolutely on the right path and I can make my business successful and truly help women.

    This astounding woman is LaNae Stockwell and she has given me permission to share her story through this video. I invite you to watch it, be moved by it, and share it.

    To my entrepreneurial friends out there, NEVER EVER give up. You have a message, you have a purpose, and there are so many people’s lives to touch. Power on. If your moment hasn’t happened yet, have faith, it will.

    Never ever give up.

    To my Emerge Family, thank you for welcoming me into your lives and being part of my journey as I become part of yours. I am humbled and grateful.

    To LaNae, you are a miracle. Your purpose is loud and clear. You have survived an indescribable tragedy and can share your experience to help others make better decisions in their own lives. You are meant to be here and change lives. Thank you for sharing your story.

     

    We all have a purpose.

    Draw from the beauty of the message inside you and make the world a better place.

     

    Have you had a defining moment that changed your life? I’d love to know about it. Comment below and share your experience.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.