• Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018 Empowerment Book of the Week – 2018

    Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018

     

    Hey, fabulous ladies!!

     

    Education is at the core of empowerment because knowledge…is POWER.

     

    Part of feeling empowered is directly related to how knowledgeable we feel. This year, I will be sharing with you one book each week that has empowerment at its core. The genres will vary from things like self-development to health and beauty products to mindset to business/entrepreneurship to lifestyle and exercise and many others.

     

    Sometimes we can feel empowered in one area of our life, but not other areas. The variety I will be sharing will help you tap into other areas, increase your knowledge, and fuel your empowerment.

     

    I’ll use this blog as the main spot for listing the books and I’ll update it each week with that week’s recommendation. I hope some of them tickle your fancy and I hope the ones you choose to read are truly helpful for you.

     

    To get your copy, simply click on the title or image of the book below.

     

    Week 21: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins. “Letting Go describes a simple and effective means by which to let go of the obstacles to Enlightenment and become free of negativity. During the many decades of the author’s clinical psychiatric practice, the primary aim was to seek the most effective ways to relieve human suffering in all of its many forms. The inner mechanism of surrender was found to be of great practical benefit and is described in this book.
    Dr. Hawkins’s previous books focused on advanced states of awareness and Enlightenment. Over the years, thousands of students had asked for a practical technique by which to remove the inner blocks to happiness, love, joy, success, health, and, ultimately, Enlightenment. This book provides a mechanism for letting go of those blocks.
    The mechanism of surrender that Dr. Hawkins describes can be done in the midst of everyday life. The book is equally useful for all dimensions of human life: physical health, creativity, financial success, emotional healing, vocational fulfillment, relationships, sexuality, and spiritual growth.
    It is an invaluable resource for all professionals who work in the areas of mental health, psychology, medicine, self-help, addiction recovery, and spiritual development.”

    Letting Go

     

    Week 20: Daring & Disruptive by Lisa Messenger. “DARING AND DISRUPTIVE IS AN INSIGHTFUL AND SOULFUL ACCOUNT OF THE ENTREPRENEUR’S ROLLER-COASTER RIDE FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO SUCCEED ALMOST AS MUCH AS THEY WANT TO BREATHE …WHO WANT TO MAKE THE IMPOSSIBLE POSSIBLE AND THE ORDINARY EXTRAORDINARY. After decades of success in multiple industries, Lisa Messenger blends her personal stories with the important business lessons she has learned along the way, from why money is not the only currency to how to fail well. Lisa gives readers a valuable insight into her world, whether you’re a budding entrepreneur, seasoned game changer or a corporate ladder-climber dreaming of creating your own gig or making positive change from the inside. This book will help you dig deep, stay on purpose, back yourself, be true to your ideas, and ensure that if you’re thrown to the wolves, you’ll have the strength to come out leading the pack. Your life is your message to the world. So embrace the journey and live it out loud. “Business anarchy for fun and profit – not for the short of breath, weak of spine or faint of heart. Put on clean underwear and turn to page one.” – BRADLEY TREVOR GREIVE AM, NEW YORK TIMES BEST-SELLING AUTHOR.”

    Daring and Disruptive

     

     

    Week 19: 1001 Ways to be Romantic by Gregory J.P. Godek. “Sure, you could buy some roses. Yes, you could cook an elegant romantic dinner. Of course, you could give a heart-shaped box of chocolates. But sometimes you want to do more than that. Sometimes you want to show just how much you really care, how much passion you really feel, and how much more your partner means to you than absolutely anything else.

    Packed with unique suggestions, easy gestures, and thoughtful gift ideas, 1001 Ways to Be Romantic is “worth memorizing” (Boston Herald). More than one and a half million people have used this book to kick up the fun and romance, making it a modern classic and #1 national bestseller. It’s a must-have for anyone, in any relationship, who wants to spark some more love in their lives.

    You’ll find:

    Little things you can do every day
    Big ideas for when you want to go all out
    How to be romantic without spending a dime
    How to really go to town when money is no object
    Tons of resources, including websites, online shopping, places to go, music, movies, and much, much more”

    1001 Ways to be Romantic

     

    Week 18: Something More by Sarah Ban Breathnach. “In this eloquent and evocative book, Sarah Ban Breathnach encourages you to become an archaeologist of your Self: to delve into your past, to “excavate” the authentic woman buried inside. Uncovering your true Self will be challenging – but exhilarating. Assisting your personal “dig” will be insights from the lives of both celebrated and unknown women and from Sarah herself. As you unravel your own mystery and recover the joy that has been missing from your life, you will experience small but exquisite epiphanies that will help you make peace with your past and reveal exciting new opportunities for you future. Dare to plumb the depths. Powerful truths are waiting that can change your life…and inspire you to settle for nothing less than SOMETHING MORE.”

    Something More

     

    Week 17: Release & Surrender by Deborah Naone. “Live your life by design, not by default! A powerful book that dives into spirituality and the depth of the human soul. It facilitates a shift in consciousness to remove illusions of fear and restore that which is perfect in each of us – our true nature of love. The perfect book for soul development. Become lighter and brighter by seeking the golden path to super-conscious awareness. It’s your time to shine. It’s your turn for a Miracle!”

    Release and Surrender

     

    Week 16: Dear Stress, I’m Breaking Up with You by Ky-Lee Hanson. “We want it all as modern women today, don’t we? And more than ever we can have it all: success, a rewarding career, family, relationships, a social life. Perhaps you already do have it all… But at what expense? For most women, stress is at an all-time high as we endeavour to achieve it “all.” Our health, happiness and well-being at stake with feelings of being over-worked, under-appreciated, tired and burnt out. So what is stress? How does it work? And why are we slaves to its damaging effects, which impact the very elements of life we are trying to achieve? Join a collective of inspiring women from all walks of life who have come together to share their experiences and their insights on how you can learn to balance the trifecta of love, life and happiness by… *Identifying key areas of stress in your life *Limiting the impact of stress on your health and well-being *Practising gratitude to shift your perception *Saying “NO” to anything that no longer serves you *Prioritizing the elements of a fulfilling life and putting YOU first Rethink the way you approach your journey to happiness and success with each chapter of this book. Written from the heart, this is a guided journey of laughter, tears, gut-wrenching experiences and life lessons through the eyes of a tribe of strong, soulful and successful women. It’s time for you to say goodbye to stress! Repeat after me… Dear Stress, I’m breaking up with you!”

    Dear Stress I'm Breaking Up with You

     

    Week 15: Budda’s Brain by Rick Hanson, PH.D. “If you change your brain, you can change your life. Great teachers like the Buddha, Jesus, Moses, Mohammed, and Gandhi were all born with brains built essentially like anyone else’s―and then they changed their brains in ways that changed the world. Science is now revealing how the flow of thoughts actually sculpts the brain, and more and more, we are learning that it’s possible to strengthen positive brain states. By combining breakthroughs in neuroscience with insights from thousands of years of mindfulness practice, you too can use your mind to shape your brain for greater happiness, love, and wisdom. Buddha’s Brain draws on the latest research to show how to stimulate your brain for more fulfilling relationships, a deeper spiritual life, and a greater sense of inner confidence and worth. Using guided meditations and mindfulness exercises, you’ll learn how to activate the brain states of calm, joy, and compassion instead of worry, sorrow, and anger. Most importantly, you will foster positive psychological growth that will literally change the way you live in your day-to-day life. This book presents an unprecedented intersection of psychology, neurology, and contemplative practice, and is filled with practical tools and skills that you can use every day to tap the unused potential of your brain and rewire it over time for greater well-being and peace of mind.”

    Buddha's Brain

     

    Week 14: Anatomy of the Spirit by Caroline Myss, Ph. D. “Dr. Myss’s breakthrough model of the body’s seven centers of spiritual and physical power, in which she synthesizes the ancient wisdom of three spiritual traditions-the Hindu chakras, the Christian sacraments, and the Kabbalah’s Tree of Life-to demonstrate the seven stages through which everyone must pass in the search for higher consciousness and spiritual maturity. With this model, Dr. Myss shows how you can develop your own latent powers of intuition as you simultaneously cultivate your personal power and spiritual growth. By teaching you to see your body and spirit in a new way, Anatomy of the Spirit provides you with the tools for spiritual maturity and physical wholeness that will change your life.”

    Anatomy of the Spirit

     

    Week 13: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. “Readers of all ages and walks of life have drawn inspiration and empowerment from Elizabeth Gilbert’s books for years. Now this beloved author digs deep into her own generative process to share her wisdom and unique perspective about creativity. With profound empathy and radiant generosity, she offers potent insights into the mysterious nature of inspiration. She asks us to embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. She shows us how to tackle what we most love, and how to face down what we most fear. She discusses the attitudes, approaches, and habits we need in order to live our most creative lives. Balancing between soulful spirituality and cheerful pragmatism, Gilbert encourages us to uncover the “strange jewels” that are hidden within each of us.”

    Big Magic

     

    Week 12: The Pay it Forward Series: Notes to My Younger Self by Kezia Luckett, Debbie Cromack and 17 other co-authors. “Have you ever wished that you could go back to a pivotal time in your life and give yourself sound advice? Words of hope, wisdom, knowledge and inspiration that everything is happening for a reason and all will work out. That those failures, challenges and detours that you are experiencing, that have sometimes taken you to the edge of darkness and beyond, will end up being looked upon as some of your greatest, life-defining moments. In this first volume of ‘The Pay It Forward Series: Notes to My Younger Self’ you will be taken on a journey of self-discovery as you read the heart warming, inspirational stories from 18 key women of contribution from around the world, as they pay forward the words of wisdom gained through their experiences of life.”

    The Pay it Forward Series Notes to My Younger Self

     

    Week 11: Daily Love by Mastin Kipp. “Mastin has written a book based on his spiritual experiences in order to help other young seekers discover their own paths. In Daily Love, Mastin shares some of his personal stories of darkness and light, embracing them all as part of his journey to becoming who he really is. He also speaks of various spiritual leaders who have influenced his life, such as Joseph Campbell, Caroline Myss, Tony Robbins, George Lucas, Oprah, his parents, and Jenna (his girlfriend). Giving details about the concepts and spiritual principles they put forth, he shows how these people have helped to guide him to success.”

    Daily Love

     

    Week 10: Tapping the Power Within by Iyanla Vanzant. In honor of International Women’s Day the occurred this week, I’m recommending this powerful book that paves the path to self-empowerment for women. It “will challenge you to stop struggling and start recognizing that it is possible to reconcile your humanity with your divinity. Whether you are a beginner on the path or a veteran in need of refreshment, Iyanla’s prescriptions can support your growth from the comfort of spiritual adolescence to the wisdom of spiritual maturity. You no longer need to settle for the way things are . . . you can open up to the way things can be—if you dare to tap the power within!”

    Tapping the Power Within

     

    Week 9: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, Ph. D. LMSW. “Daring Greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where “never enough” dominates and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. Uncomfortable. It’s even a little dangerous at times. And, without question, putting ourselves out there means there’s a far greater risk of getting criticized or feeling hurt. But when we step back and examine our lives, we will find that nothing is as uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as standing on the outside of our lives looking in and wondering what it would be like if we had the courage to step into the arena—whether it’s a new relationship, an important meeting, the creative process, or a difficult family conversation. Daring Greatly is a practice and a powerful new vision for letting ourselves be seen.”

    Daring Greatly

     

    Week 8: Tears to Triumph by Marianne Williamson. “Instead of allowing ourselves to embrace our hurt, we numb it, medicate it, dismiss it, or otherwise divert our attention so that we never have to face it. In refusing to acknowledge our suffering, we actually prolong it and deny ourselves the opportunity for profound wisdom—ultimately limiting our personal growth and opportunity for enlightenment. Frozen by denial, we are left standing in the breech. Whole industries profit from this immobility, and while they have grown rich, we have become spiritually poorer. As Marianne makes clear, true healing and transcendence can only come when we finally face our pain and wrestle with what it has to teach us.”

    Tears to Triumph

     

    Week 7: Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation by Sophie Benge. “For centuries, Asian women have relaxed and beautified themselves with exotic therapies derived from the materials of nature; plants, herbs, minerals, clays, and flowers.

    Until now, Western women could only experience these pleasures by taking expensive trips to professional spas. In Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation, Sophie Benge, an Asian beauty expert, supplies all the tools for experiencing luxurious Asian beauty treatments at home, including inexpensive, easy-to-follow recipes for soothing facials, relaxing aromatherapy baths, invigorating body scrubs, healthy food and drink recipes, remedies for specific ailments, and more. Now readers can spend a lavish day at the spa without leaving their house.

    All the treatments in Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation are natural and gentle to the body. readers can lie back and enjoy the benefits of a spa in their own homes.”

    Asian Secrets of Health, Beauty, and Relaxation

     

    Week 6: When I Loved Myself Enough by Kim McMillen. “When I Loved Myself Enough is a beautiful collection of wisdom that is startling in its simplicity. By the end of the book, the message becomes clear: loving yourself holds the key to loving others and having others love you. By sharing her insights, the author also shows us how to feel the same sense of peace and quiet joy that illuminated her life. This book began as one woman’s gift to the world, hand-made by Kim McMillen and handed out to friends.” Give this gift to yourself.

    When I Loved Myself Enough

     

    Week 5: Think and Grow Rich for Women by Sharon Lechter. “Women are the future of American business. According to a recent Nielsen report, women will control two-thirds of American consumer wealth in less than a decade. And yet almost all business and success literature is still written for men—dispensing advice that doesn’t take into account women’s unique strengths or address the demands of family life on mothers. Think and Grow Rich for Women is a powerful book outlining a master plan for success for ALL WOMEN.”

    Think and Grow Rich for Women

    Week 4: Unleash Your Inner Money Babe by Kathrin Zenkina. If you choose to buy the paperback version, you’ll get the Kindle version for FREE! We’ve talked a lot this week about money and manifesting. “Unleash Your Inner Money Babe is a workbook designed to help you let go of your past programming and limiting beliefs around money, and unlock the mindset of abundance and wealth. The workbook is designed to be a fun, exciting, truth-bomb packed 21 day challenge with the goal of manifesting $1,000 by the end of the 21 days.”

    Unleash Your Inner Money Babe

    Week 3: Women & Money by Suze Orman. “Own the power to control your destiny. With her signature mix of insight, compassion, and soul-deep recognition, Suze Orman equips women with the financial knowledge and emotional awareness to overcome the blocks that have kept them from acting in the best interest of their money–and of themselves.”

    Women and Money

    Week 2: #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso. “#GIRLBOSS proves that being successful isn’t about where you went to college or how popular you were in high school. It’s about trusting your instincts and following your gut; knowing which rules to follow and which to break; when to button up and when to let your freak flag fly.”

    #GIRLBOSS

    Week 1: A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks PhD.

    A Year of Living Consciously

    Knowledge is Power!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your books!!

     

  • Touching a Life Touching a Life

    As an entrepreneur, you dive into your business; head first, feet first, whatever…you just dive. You have a passion burning inside of you and a message you want to share. You’re filled with energy and ideas and goals and dreams. And you know you can make a difference in this world.

    I have found that most of us truly want to help people. And helping people is pretty broad. So, you set a goal, make a plan, and strategize how to get there. You make lists and hone in on what you really want to do and who your audience is. You think about what your business will look like. Will it be strictly E-commerce? Or do you want a brick-and-mortar facility? You think about your brand and what you want to stand for; how people feel when they think of you and your business. You create a logo and get business cards. You create profiles on social media and start interacting with your following.

     

     

    There is a lot to think about when you’re first starting out. And if you don’t already know people who have done what you’re trying to do, gosh, is it overwhelming. If you’re lucky enough, you stumble across an amazing coach or two who help you find your way. And even then, there’s so much to do and learn.

    At times, you may get hit with that awful misperception called fear. And that dreaded self-doubt creeps in. You become apprehensive and begin to wonder if you can even do this. You question yourself, “What was I thinking? I can’t do this!” A day or two goes by and you feel your power again, “Other women are doing it. They’re not smarter than me. They’re not better than me. I can do this!” A few hours go by or even a few more days. Maybe you’re struggling to get your website up. Those self-deprecating thoughts rear their ugly heads again. The emotions can be quite intense. And if you don’t have a support-system on your side, failure may consume and destroy you. For me, the juggling of my corporate job with trying to start up my Emerge business has me in a constant state of teeter-tottering between, “I’m out of my mind, I can’t do this!” and “This is what I’m meant to do. I can so do this!”

    Determined to succeed and do work that you love and has value and gives you a sense of purpose, you forge ahead. You create content you hope will resonate with people and help build your tribe. You interact on all of your social media and wonder if anyone is even reading what you’re posting. Maybe you even get a “Like” on Facebook or Instagram or perhaps a “Share” on Twitter. But then, you think, “What does that really mean?”

     

    I was spiraling around in all
    of this like a tornado.

     

    And then one day, I received a “Like” on one of my Twitter posts. I sent a message to thank the young lady for liking my Tweet. To my surprise, she messaged me back to thank me for my uplifting posts. She let me know that she looks forward to them and that reading my “encouraging messages has transformed me for the better!” Well, my mouth dropped open.

    We then exchanged messages back and forth where I learned more about her and she shared some background on her life to explain why she was so impacted by my posts. She shared with me a video of her speech called, Life’s Choices, that she now presents to students around the country. After watching her video and being honored that she shared it with me, I then understood the impact of my words on her.


    And I cried.

     

    I cried deep and hard. I couldn’t contain it. I had touched a life. I…me…had made a positive impact on a delicate soul who values my messages. My chest convulsed as tears poured out and my heart was filled with pure joy and the knowledge that I can make a difference. I sit here with moisture sweeping my eyes as I write this. This incredible woman had created a defining moment for me. A moment that told me, without a doubt, I am absolutely on the right path and I can make my business successful and truly help women.

    This astounding woman is LaNae Stockwell and she has given me permission to share her story through this video. I invite you to watch it, be moved by it, and share it.

    To my entrepreneurial friends out there, NEVER EVER give up. You have a message, you have a purpose, and there are so many people’s lives to touch. Power on. If your moment hasn’t happened yet, have faith, it will.

    Never ever give up.

    To my Emerge Family, thank you for welcoming me into your lives and being part of my journey as I become part of yours. I am humbled and grateful.

    To LaNae, you are a miracle. Your purpose is loud and clear. You have survived an indescribable tragedy and can share your experience to help others make better decisions in their own lives. You are meant to be here and change lives. Thank you for sharing your story.

     

    We all have a purpose.

    Draw from the beauty of the message inside you and make the world a better place.

     

    Have you had a defining moment that changed your life? I’d love to know about it. Comment below and share your experience.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Self-Care in our Hurried and Chaotic Lives. Be empowered. You matter. Self-Care in Our Hurried and Chaotic Lives

    Self-Care in Our Hurried and Chaotic Lives

     

    When thinking about what I wanted my empowerment business to do for women, I settled on two main aspects: education and self-care. Personally, I always want to be learning and I stink at self-care. I’m discovering just how essential self-care is. I’m also learning that I’m not the only woman who stinks at it.

    Most women know that when we are depleted, we are not at our best. We also know that we want to be functioning at an optimal level to best care for those we love who need us. Yet somehow, regardless of this knowledge, we do NOT take care of ourselves.

    When we know how important self-care is, why are we not taking care of ourselves? Do we not love ourselves? Is it some kind of twisted self-sabotage? Do we feel we are we not worth it? Hopefully none of these are true, but there are certainly many reasons we don’t self-care. What I found in my own life and learned in conversations with friends is that not taking care of ourselves most often comes down to time.

     

     

    Women have taken on more and more in recent years. And, as more of us go into the workforce and build businesses, the traditional “female” responsibilities of the “olden days” have not gone away. Taking care of the kids, cooking meals, doing household chores, running errands…and so much more…all still need to get done. And, typically (not always, but typically), these responsibilities still fall on us in addition to our careers. So yes, self-care is the first thing that gets put on the back burner and likely never even makes it onto the to-do list because really, who has the time? Keeping in mind these extraordinary demands and pace of our hurried lives, I searched for self-care options I can recommend to you that are both time-efficient and empowering.

    What I found; however, were a lot of self-care suggestions that involve spending time and money; two things many of us are short on…which is why we don’t do it. I found things like 90-minute massages, hour-long sauna sessions, going for a long walk in nature, getting together with a girlfriend for a mani-pedi, and so many other ways to take care of ourselves. I won’t lie, these sound absolutely fabulous…but, I simply don’t have the time to do them and I suspect many of you are in my boat with me.

    So does this mean, that we will never self-care? No. I thought about ways we can use time to our advantage and work self-care into minutes here and minutes there. Those minutes add up and can have tremendous impact.

     

     

    Self-care doesn’t have to be huge chunk of planned time doing a specific activity. Make it part of your daily, chaotic life. We sit at traffic lights, we stand in lines, we walk here and there doing the things we need to do. Rather than just go-through-the-motions…be aware of your thoughts, be present…notice what’s around you.

    Here are some examples from my life…

    1. When I walk to the mailbox to get the mail, I say my mantra to myself, “I am strong, I am happy, and I have no fears. I am whole and complete within myself.” I have to walk to the mailbox anyway so instead of letting thoughts of my dreadful corporate job cloud my mind, for those few minutes, I fill my mind with positive words and I actually feel better by the time I get back to the house.
    2. When I’m standing in line at the grocery store, I focus on my breathing. It is rapid? Am I holding my breath? I focus on it. And I change it. I do some yoga breathing. I can’t do much else, I’m standing in a line. What better time to take a moment and do some healthy breathing. If I like the earrings on the girl in front of me, I’ll let her know. Not only have I made her smile and feel good about herself, I’ve made myself feel good as well.
    3. There are days when I’m on back-to-back conference calls for six (yes, SIX) hours. (And, yes, there are times when I’m in the bathroom while on these calls because, come on folks, a girl has to tinkle!) Occasionally, a call will end five minutes early…YES! I spin around in my chair (away from my three computer monitors), close my eyes, and visualize the one time I was in a mineral pool. I remember the smoothness of the water on my skin, the quiet puddling of it as I moved slowly through it, and the peacefulness in my ears. I allow myself to recall all the calming sensations of that tranquil experience. And then I dash to tinkle before the next call starts. Okay, it’s only like three minutes, but…it’s three minutes I give to myself to become fully absorbed into self-care.

    Looking for more options? Here is a blog by Ellen Bard with 45 self-care practices. In this blog, Ellen categorizes self-care into mind, body, and soul; the very categories we focus on at Emerge.

     

    My mission is to help you become your best you by feeding your mind, body, and soul with knowledge, nourishment, and hope.

     

    While Ellen lists some of the expected items that involve a commitment of time and money, she also includes items that only require the power of our minds or tap into things we’re already doing in our lives. Here are some of my favorites:

    • Scratch off a lurker on your to-do list, something that’s been there for ages and you’ll never do.
    • Make one small change to your diet for the week. Drink an extra glass of water each day, or have an extra portion of veggies each meal.
    • Check in with your emotions. Sit quietly and just name without judgment what you’re feeling.

    Self-care can be as simple as being mindful and fully present. Our mind is a powerful and amazing tool. We need to tap into it more frequently. Recognize negative thoughts or feelings and consciously, mindfully replace them with thoughts that are positively-charged and make you feel good.

    Having balance in your life is so helpful in creating space for practicing self-care. Click here to purchase the webinar Balance in a Busy Life to learn about the importance of having balance and how to create it.

    You can also check out my blog Mindfulness and Self-Care – Let’s Dig a Little Deeper that includes an exercise to get you started onto a path of focused self-care.

    Ladies, self-care is crucial and it doesn’t have to be daunting.
    Incorporate it into your chaos.

    What quick self-care practices do you engage in during your busy life? Please comment below and share some so we can all expand our lists.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Mindfulness and Self-Care - Let's Dig in a Little Mindfulness and Self-Care – Let’s Dig in a Little

     

    We’re in the midst of winter. A time to hibernate, go within, and make a plan for emergence in the spring. This is the perfect time to self-reflect and focus on you.

    Mindfulness

    We seem to hear the term, “mindfulness” more and more recently. What exactly is mindfulness though? Wikipedia defines mindfulness as “the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment, which can be developed through the practice of meditation and other training.” Dictionary.com defines mindfulness as, “a technique in which one focuses one’s full attention only on the present, experiencing thoughts, feelings, and sensations, but not judging them.”

    Okay, so what really does that mean for each of us? Our lives are hurried and chaotic. We multitask and our minds race forward to the next thing that needs to get done. Who has time to stop…and think about the present moment? And even if we find or make the time, how do we do mindfulness? What does it even look like?

     

     

    Mindfulness is a practice that can be done anytime and anywhere…and for however much or little time you have. Because the tool is your mind, it’s actually quite simple. Be fully present and aware of yourself, your thoughts, your feelings. It is important to note that you should not judge yourself if what you feel and think is negative. The point is to simply acknowledge it for what it is and be present.

    Self-Care

    Mindfulness feeds beautifully into self-care. And, I often find the same mindset occurs with self-care and mindfulness, with the biggest question usually being, “Who has the time?!”

     

     

    Women are doers. We go, we do, we run, we work, we take care of the family, we do the chores, we cook the meals…and the list goes on. When we finally look at (because we may not actually get to) the bottom of the to-do list, taking care of ourselves is usually not even on the list. Many of us will even knowingly admit that we realize we are better able to care for our families when we have taken care of ourselves. The problem is, we DON’T actually do anything about taking care of ourselves.

    When we neglect self-care, the impact can be quite devastating…and we often don’t even recognize it. Here is what can end up happening…

    • We feel anger and frustration more easily.
    • Our bodies get rundown and fatigued.
    • Our minds can feel frantic and overwhelmed.
    • Our mood can become anxious and infuriated.
    • Our temperament can be impatient.
    • We may even be stricken with a numbness in our emotions because we are so overwhelmed.
    • Or worse…

    Clearly, this is an unhealthy and unhappy existence. Life is much too short to live in such a destructive disposition.

    When we go back to the question, “Who has the time?!” it’s instinctively clear to see that we had better start making the time.

    Personally, I had always thought that self-care meant spending time and money (neither of which I have) taking a day off and getting pampered at a spa. Um, yeah, so not happening. What I have come to learn; however, is that self-care does not have to be some grand gesture. Self-care can happen in minutes here and minutes there.

    And, bottom line ladies…self-care is crucial.

    Empowerment comes from both education and self-care. And when we are empowered, life becomes incredible and we make better decisions for ourselves. We have clarity to our thoughts, our bodies are filled with energy, we remember to be grateful, love feels more intense, and we learn to allow happiness to both fill us and exude from us. What a magnificent way to live life!

    Let’s get started!

     

    To guide you a bit deeper into one aspect of self-care, I designed this Release/Focus Exercise for you. As we’ve talked about the difficulty in finding time, I created this exercise to be thought-provoking, but not terribly time-consuming. I do invite you to go as deeply into it as you desire. You will tap into some core feelings, guiding you to awareness, mindfulness, and allowing yourself to be the master of your thoughts.

     

     

    This is the first product I’ve created for you and it’s only $10.00. Please purchase it and give me your feedback so I can develop more helpful exercises to help you get empowered.

    Want more? Click here to purchase the webinar Is Self-Care Selfish? and go inside your soul and nurture yourself.

    If you’re looking for some quick, on-the-go self-care indulgences, check out my blog, Self-Care in Our Hurried and Chaotic Lives.

    You can be mindful and practice self-care anytime, anywhere.

     

    I’d love to learn some of the ways YOU practice mindfulness and self-care. Comment below so we can all benefit together.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Thanks for reading!



    Gratitude is defined as, “the quality or feeling of  being grateful or thankful.” The feeling of gratitude is warm and wonderful. I find, when I am grateful for a person and I express that to him or her, the feeling is intensified. The sharing and expressing of gratitude is a sign of love to the recipient of your words. So, not only are you filled with joy and happiness, but they typically fill with delight and appreciation. What powerful and magnificent feelings to embrace and bathe in.

     

    As I reflect on the past year, my heart is filled with gratitude for so many things. And one of the things I’m most grateful for is all of you who have become part of our Emerge Family in some way. Whether you’ve only chosen to “follow” me or we’ve interacted in some way or we’ve been fortunate enough to meet in person, I am thrilled to be connected with you, and I wish to thank you for joining my journey. As a small token of my appreciation, I offer you these printable notecards.

    We live a rushed and hurried life. I encourage you to think of at least three people who you are grateful to have in your life. Write them a little note in this notecard to let them know that you are grateful for them and why. And then, give it to them. Let yourself be flooded with the incredible emotions that follow. And watch their face light up with a thankful smile.

     

    I look forward to connecting more with you in the coming year and journeying this life together while we learn from, encourage, and empower one another.

     

    Let gratitude guide you every day.

     

    Heartfelt thanks,

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  • Emerge-Empowerment-Life-Overwhelm Life Overwhelm

    This has been the phrase of my life lately. Transitions of any kind can be overwhelming. Life chomps into you and holds that bite…hard. And sometimes, the changes you’re trying to make to improve your life feel overwhelming too. You begin to wonder, “Should I be doing this?!” Before giving up…STOP. Take a breath, settle your mind, and remember WHY you’re doing what you’re doing. Remember your reason.

     

    By now you know what a typical day is for me. With 12-14 hours consumed by my corporate job, trying to sell close to 300 items on Craigslist, finding time to eat and sleep, getting daily chores and errands done, wondering when I’m going make the time to start on my empowerment coaching certification, caring for my mother when needed, trying my best to not neglect my boyfriend and my bunny (Nutmeg)…just thinking about all I don’t yet know about running a business and trying to figure it all out is…well…terrifying and most definitely overwhelming!

    Sometimes, I’m so overwhelmed I simply stop…I get stuck…paralyzed because I have no idea what to do first.

     

    I used to be the queen of prioritizing, making lists, and getting things DONE. But these days, I often feel immobilized. My mind is cluttered and chaotic, I have no idea what to tackle on my list, and I feel frantic. And it seems, just at that moment, technology goes bonkers on me and everything REALLY stops. My head drops into my hands and I want to cry…sometimes I even do.

     

    Ladies, this is important…this is the most crucial time to tap into your mindset. Be mindful of your breath, slow your mind, and focus. Life will overwhelm us if we allow it to. The key is…don’t allow it to. You are the master of your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions. This is the time for self-care, being kind to yourself, and remembering your WHY. This is a good time for some meditation. When you give yourself a break and focus on the reason you’re making the transition you’re making, clarity comes easier. Think of your values…think of your beliefs…think of what you want the outcome of your transition to be. Focus on that.

    Take a few minutes to visualize. This is a powerful tool. To manifest your desires, state them out loud and know that the Universe will provide…something. Maybe it’s a person, an opportunity, a chance meeting…something. It’s important to look for it. Visualize your life after the transition. Close your eyes; see and feel what it looks like and feels like. Keep your WHY at the center. Let it motivate you and guide you to managing your energy in the best way and on things that impact your WHY directly.

     

    All of our “overwhelms” are different and we each have different tolerances. Remember not to judge your overwhelm against someone else’s. Your overwhelm is no more or less intense, frustrating, painful, etc. than anyone else’s. And your overwhelm is YOURS…it impacts you…and that’s okay. Just don’t let it take hold and control you or your life. Learn what to do about it so you can diminish it and keep moving forward.

     

    Life moves on and time passes. Eventually, we find ourselves in a different point in life than where we were before. Keep working toward your WHY, always being true to yourself. Learn how to manage the overwhelm, making it less daunting, and hopefully find yourself closer to living the life you desire.

    You can manage your overwhelm.

     

    Comment below and share what overwhelms you and how you manage that overwhelm.

    Be empowered,

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  • Corporate-America-to-Entrepreneur-Surviving-the-Transition Corporate America to Entrepreneur

     

    If you have read My Story, you know a little about how I got to where I am now. As I stumble around trying to find my footing, I started to wonder if I am a fraud. I confessed this very thing to my business coach. “How can I empower other women, when I still feel quite lost? Am I being deceptive?” I asked.

    With a bright, wide grin and sparkle in her eye, she said, “No, Debbie. This is part of your journey as much as it is theirs.”

    As I pondered her response and let the words sink in, I thought, “Yes…and this is the best part of the journey, sharing it and living through it with others.”

    My journey started long before the idea of Emerge Empowerment came to me. I have felt so lost and directionless for years. Yes, I have a corporate job (going into my 16th year at my current company) that pays the bills, makes me feel secure, and allows me to rely on no one but myself.

    Unfortunately, it is killing me. It eats away at me every day, stealing happiness and fulfillment; leaving me without a sense of purpose and overworking me until I cannot even think straight.

    But through the years, I found distractions from my misery—writing to decorating to real estate and more. The list goes on. And while I certainly love all of those things, I didn’t give myself fully to them; certainly not enough for a career.

    I know now that I was searching…searching for something that would fulfill me and give purpose to my life.

    When the concept of Emerge “emerged” (hee, hee), a fire lit up inside of me and I knew for sure it was not a “distraction.” It was my purpose, my calling, and I knew then and there that I had to make it a reality. “How??” became the question. I know nothing about running a business!

    And so every day I flounder. Every. Single. Day.

    For me, a typical day consists of 12-14 hours working at my corporate job; checking on and/or reposting close to 300 items listed on Craigslist from the event decorating business I used to have; hopping onto all of my social media to make sure I’m interacting, supporting, and responding to people; and trying to figure out WHEN I am going to have to time start working on my education for my coaching certification. Throw in daily/weekly chores and errands, trying to put energy into my relationship, and, oh, maybe find some time to sleep, eat, and exercise. It is daunting and exhausting. And now, figure out how to run a valuable and profitable business so I can leave my corporate job, help women learn how to empower themselves, and live the life I desire. WHAT?!?!

    I am grateful to have merged life-paths with a fabulous business coach, an amazing financial coach, and some absolutely incredible women whom I know will have a positive impact on me professionally and personally. I learn so much each day. And the more I learn, the more I know I will build Emerge into a place where women want to come to get educated, feel safe, learn to care for and empower themselves. The Emerge Family will grow and I will cultivate it.

    I know this journey will likely be rocky and filled with challenges. I also know it’s going to be the best time of my life! Chances are, there are likely some of you out there going through your own transition. No matter where you are in your journey, I invite you to join me and let’s traverse this adventure together; supporting and encouraging each other at every step. So, this is my true story, along with the story of my hopes and dreams. And this I know…

    Together, we can do this!

     

    Have YOU made the transition? I’d love to hear about your journey; successes AND stumbles. Please comment below and share.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.