• Three levels of identity - how to have them serve you so you can quit your job and leave your 9-5 corporate job. #Leave9-5 #Leave9to5 #Escape9to5 #QuitYourJob #DebbieCromack #How #Coach Three Levels of Identity – How to Have them Serve You (so you can leave your 9-5)

    Three levels of identity - how to have them serve you so you can quit your job and leave your 9-5 corporate job. #Leave9-5 #Leave9to5 #Escape9to5 #QuitYourJob #DebbieCromack #How #Coach

     

    Identity

     

    I never really thought much about my identity until it was about to change…dramatically.

     

    I worked in corporate America for over 25 years, 19 in my most recent company. Whenever I met someone new, the conversation often started with, “Hi, I’m Debbie!” followed by, “Hi, I’m {insert name}. What do you do, Debbie?” Proudly, I would respond, “I’m an Operations Manager at {insert big-name, well-known corporate company}” and receive an impressed nod of approval.

     

    My job, the company I worked for, became who I was…my identity. I worked 10, 12, sometimes 14 hours a day and often times on weekends as well. This wasn’t unusual. The amount of work was overwhelming and my counterparts worked similar hours. Spending so much of my life working my job, it was who I became as a person.

     

    And for a long time, I was proud of who I was and what I had accomplished in my life. I had earned my MBA, worked at a highly-valued and admired company, was in a long-term relationship with an amazing man, had a beautiful home and amazing friends, and life seemed pretty darn good.

     

    Sadly, with all I had accomplished, there was an emptiness gnawing at me. Something deep inside my soul was unfulfilled and I felt my life had no real meaning or purpose. I had a deep desire to help people, truly help people…something I definitely was NOT doing in my 9-5 job.

     

    After bawling my eyes out on the bathroom floor one too many times, I DECIDED I was done being an employee and I started my Emerge Empowerment, LLC business…as a side hustle. My business morphed and changed over time as I learned and niched and tweaked. It filled me with purpose and passion. I was finally doing work that lit up my soul.

     

    Admittedly, I was exhausted. With my corporate job being as demanding as it was, there was little time (or energy) to put into my business. And, as much as I loved it, it wasn’t far enough developed financially to pay my bills. And so, the straddle continued for about 2½ years.

     

    I believe our identity exists on a spectrum. You see, when it came to my career, there was the employee side of the spectrum and the CEO/entrepreneur side of the spectrum. For the bulk of my 2½ years, I was on the employee side. VERY SLOWLY over time, the needle on the spectrum began to move towards the CEO side. And when I finally made the DECISION that I was going to quit my job, I really started putting my toes into my CEO shoes. And once I made that decision, things in my business really started to shift.

     

    I’ve only had my feet fully in my CEO shoes as a full-time entrepreneur for just about two weeks and I know I still have a ways to go to truly FEEL my identity and I’m so ready for the rest of the journey.

     

    1)     Values

    One of the other things I found myself questioning along my identity journey was my values. Not my core values, but what I placed value on.

     

    Working for a fortune 100 company, I now realize I measured my self-worth against my job and the company I worked for. When it came to being my own boss, running my own business, my self-worth had to come from…ME. And when that realization struck me, I struggled…A LOT.

     

    I started to question my own value. I wondered if I would still get nods of impressed-approval when I told people what I do for a living. And then I wondered why I even wondered that! Why did it matter to me what others thought of me and my career? Did I somehow feel I needed their approval or permission to go after my dreams and desires? Could I even run a business? What if I’m not good enough? What if no one even wants to work with me? I have no idea what I’m doing! What is wrong with me?

     

    YIKES! This craziness kept my head spinning for quite some time.

     

    That was when I started digging…DEEP…into mindset work. And I’m so grateful I did.

     

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    2)    Thoughts

    As I look back now, I see it all so much more clearly. I was allowing so many of my individual thoughts to get foggy and cluttered with fears. You know, those negative stories we play over and over and OVER in our heads. Stories that came from an interpretation of something that was said to you or about you when you were younger. Stories that weren’t true, but for some reason, you’ve always held onto them as being true.

     

    Yup, those are the thoughts that were ruling my mind. I allowed those pesky fears to sprinkle my thoughts for so long that they became my beliefs about myself, my worth, my value. And through that vision, I was nothing at all.

     

    And so, I decided to get acquainted with my fears. To understand what they were and where they came from. Why did I think so little of myself? Why did I think my worth and value came from being great at spreadsheets and putting together PowerPoint presentations? How did I come to place my self-worth in the hands of big-wigs who knew nothing about me?

     

    I dug. And I found pain and heartache…and answers.

     

    You see, when we step in our CEO-shoes, our self-worth and our value of ourselves has to come from US. And if you’ve always been used to it coming from others, this can be VERY confusing and difficult if your self-worth was never cultivated. When you have allowed your identity to be defined by someone other than you for the majority of your life, it can feel really scary to suddenly be the owner of your identity.

     

    3)    Beliefs

    When you keep repeating the same thoughts in your mind over and over, those thoughts form your beliefs. And your mind looks for anything and everything to confirm those beliefs. When those beliefs are negative in nature, no amount of strategy, no fancy technology system, no amount of free coaching is going to lead to your success as an online coach.

     

    I don’t say this to deter you. I say it to fuel you because here’s the thing…YOU are the master of your mind. YOU have the power to control and change your thoughts to SERVE you versus HINDER you. Your mind is so powerful, you just need to learn how to feed it with your new truths and reality.

     

    Here’s the most basic way I can explain this to you. Your mind only knows what it’s told, thus it only knows what YOU tell it. When you were little and learned how to tie your shoelaces, your mind didn’t know how to do it until you were taught and then you practiced until you knew how to do it so well that you no longer had to think about it.

     

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    Now you’re older and wiser. I want you to notice the thoughts in your head. How frequently are the negative? Your willingness to be aware and truthful is key. When you notice a negative thought, I want you to simply recognize it…without judgement or ridicule…reword it with a positive spin. I want you to create positive affirmations for yourself that you repeat throughout the day.

     

    When you make a habit of shifting your thoughts, you start changing your mindset. And when you change your mindset to the positive things you desire in life and the things you ARE capable of and worthy of, your mind, once again, looks for everything to affirm your thoughts and beliefs…thereby attracting those things to you.

     

    One powerful way I have been reprogramming my thoughts is by using the ThinkUp app. It’s a free app that also has paid options with more features. You simply type in your positive affirmations or choose from the hundreds of affirmations the app offers and then record them in your voice. The app then adds meditation music in the background of your voice saying your positive affirmations. The most optimal way to use it is at night while you’re falling asleep so as you’re drifting of to sleep, and for however long you set the timer, you’re feeding your brain, your subconscious, with your positive affirmations. Science shows that your subconscious is most receptive when you are unconscious, basically asleep. This is the perfect time to feed your positive affirmations to your mind using the ThinkUp app. Using your iPhone, check it out HERE and give it a try.

     

    Take Action and Step In

    Now I want you to take ACTION!! Write down on paper and then read aloud WHO you identify as. If you’re feeling brave, share it in the comments below. Here’s an example to get you thinking…

    I identify as a successful Business Coach, the CEO of my profitable, successful business.

     

    I’m not a fake-it-until-you-make-it kind of person. I DO, however want you starting to move your identity from “employee” to “CEO.” Even if you don’t feel fully in your CEO-shoes just yet, I want you starting to ask yourself what thoughts would you-as-a-CEO have. What actions would you take as the CEO of your business? At least step in by putting your toes into your CEO-shoes. 😊

     

    When you’re straddling your 9-5 and running your business, your time is limited. I want you stepping more and more into your CEO-shoes. I want you thinking and acting from those CEO-shoes. I want you focusing on revenue-producing tasks. If you want to know more about what I mean by this, let’s chat! Set up a coffee/cocoa chat HERE.

     

    Make sure your identity statement rings true for YOU.

     

    Be empowered,

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  • 5 Things to do Before You Leave Your 9-to-5 5 Things to do Before You Leave Your 9-to-5

    5 Things to do Before You Leave Your 9-to-5

     

    I know it. I’ve been there.

    Slumped on the bathroom floor, crying so hard that no sound was coming out of my mouth. Tears burning my swelling eyes. Pain in the pit of my stomach. Crying out, “Why?!?!”

    The phrase, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” popped into my head. And I shouted to God, “I can’t handle ANY MORE!!!!!”

    This is the state my corporate job put me into. Cortisol pulsing through me. Mental and physical anguish tearing me apart.

    EVERY SINGLE DAY I wanted to quit. Just leave. Walk away and never look back.

    But I didn’t.

    I knew that if I didn’t have a strategy in place for my online coaching business, I would fail as an entrepreneur and be in an even worse place in my life than I was working my corporate job.

    And because I want YOU to success in your business, I’m sharing with you the 5 things you need to do before you leave your 9-to-5 job.

     

    This post will guide you through the top 5 things you need to do before you quit your 9-to-5 corporate job. Inspiration and ideas for female entrepreneurs and girl bosses building startups. #Leave9-5 #Leave9to5 #Escape9to5 #GirlBoss #BossBabe #Entrepreneur #SmallBusiness #Coach #DebbieCromack #Mindset

     

    1.      Start Your Coaching Business

    Quite likely, you have already felt your passion calling you…pulling on you…pushing you. Maybe fear gremlins have got you and you’re worried you don’t know what to do. Or maybe, you’re hearing an old belief in your head that’s telling you, “You’re not good enough.” And think, “But I’m not ready yet.”

    Here’s what I want you to do…START.

    You ARE good enough and you will figure out what to do.

    Starting your online coaching business now will help you build the foundation of your business so when you ARE ready to leave your day job, you already have things well under way.

    If you’re feeling uncertain about your abilities, start out by coaching for free! Doing this will build your confidence and help you create a structure for your coaching program. Start with a 3-month period and see how it goes. Your clients will be thrilled and they may even turn into paying clients!!! Plus, this will give you a feel for the work you believe you want to do and solidify whether or not it IS truly what you want to do. Practicing your skills through free coaching will help improve your confidence and make you feel more empowered in your abilities as a coach.

    If you work in an office, working your online business from home will be quite a change. Yes, working from home comes with some nice perks, like working in your jammies if you want and doing laundry during the day. It also comes with freedom and flexibility that are very tempting to slip into becoming unmotivated and maybe even lazy. Being able to work from home and be your own boss, building a successful business, takes discipline and self-motivation.

    And remember, being an entrepreneur is not a get-rich-quick kind of thing. When you make the decision to run an online business, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. You need to be committed for the long haul. Building the kind of business and life you want is an investment of time, money, effort, and energy. So, starting your “side hustle” while you’re still working your day job will give you a good taste of what’s to come. Because success does NOT happen overnight.

     

    2.     Get Your Finances in Order

    If you’ve been following me for a while, you know about the financial mess I made (and why) of my life in my youth AND how I’ve managed to pay off two huge loans and my credit card. You can check out THIS BLOG to read more about it. This life experience is what helped me realize the importance of getting your finances in order BEFORE you leave your corporate job.

    You want to create a profit and loss statement where you detail everything you’re spending on your business and everything you’re making from your business. Create a budget for yourself of where you want to invest your money. Think about things like hiring a coach, attending networking events, buying tools and systems to support your business, get a separate cell phone for your business (versus your corporate job).

    I always recommend starting three different accounts at your bank: 1) emergency fund, 2) short term fund, and 3) long term fund. At BARE MINIMUM, you want to create the emergency fund. This account will be where you build your nest-egg of at least 6 months’ worth of money that will allow you pay all of your minimum living expenses for those months when your income from your business dips. Because, you know, when you leave that steady paycheck behind, your income will likely vacillate, especially in the first few years.

    Use your corporate paycheck to 1) fund your business in the beginning and 2) create an emergency fund. Not making enough money in your business is one of the biggest things that can cause you to want to quit. Take steps NOW to alleviate the stress of not having enough money to pay your bills by building a stash of money.

     

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    3.     Hire a Coach

    Because the online world and becoming an entrepreneur is so vastly different from working in corporate America, you won’t know what you’re doing in the beginning. And that’s okay, none of us did! 😊 As you’re thinking about your finances and setting yourself a budget for where your money is going, I highly recommend you work in money to hire a coach.

    A coach will help you learn what you need to know in order to build your successful, profitable business. I urge you to take your time in hiring a coach. This person is someone you want to follow for a while to get a feel for her, what she offers, her work ethic, her vibe, the results she’s gotten for her clients, and more. She is someone you want to resonate with, who you trust, and who you KNOW will help you propel forward in your business. You will be paying her money to do her job…make sure she’s the right person for you.

     

    4.     Create a Business Plan

    Your “side hustle” is a business. You want to treat it like one.

    Create a business plan. Be sure to include your…

    ·         “Why” behind your business.

    ·         Mission, vision, goals.

    ·         Ideal client / target market. What her pain points are. How you solve them.

    ·         Action plan for bringing income into your business: all the things you plan to offer (one-on-one coaching, group coaching, courses, books, retreats, webinars, podcasts, etc.), including their prices.

    ·         Best projections of your profit and loss statement, including budgeting for hiring a coach, hiring a virtual assistant (VA), attending events or masterminds, paying for systems, etc.

    ·         Strategy to make it all happen.

    Remember, your business is a long-term plan for your life, not a fantasy of fast, easy money. In the beginning, it’s a lot of work and will take dedication. Once you find your groove, you’ll begin to create the balance you so desire in your life.

     

    5.     Reprogram Your Mindset for Success

    I’ve saved this one for last because it is the MOST IMPORTANT.

    You did all the “right” things, what you were “supposed to do.” You went to college, got a “safe and secure” 9-to-5 job in corporate America with a 401K, pension, and benefits, maybe you even got your MBA like I did. You ALSO, ended up miserable, stressed out, unhealthy, having NO balance in life, and no social life because all you do is work your tail off to make someone you don’t even know rich.

    Finally, you started to wonder, “Is this really it? This is what I have to look forward to for the rest of my life?” Through the anxiety that has you feeling overwhelmed and suffocated every…single…day, you felt a pull to do something more with your life. You had a desire to truly help people and do work that is meaningful and valuable, to make an impact on this world.

    And so, you started your business. Like most of us, you likely started out as a solopreneur…you know, you are the CEO of your business…and you’re the assistant, and the technology person creating your website, and figuring out social media, and creating content for your clients, and trying to figure out how to be a master at marketing, and building relationships, and perfecting your selling skills…you’re doing it ALL.

    And yet…your business isn’t flourishing. The clients are non-existent…and so is your income. All you’re doing is investing with no return on your investment. You start to doubt yourself, your fear gremlins are biting at you, you wonder if everyone was right, that “you’re not good enough” and “you’ll never make a living being a coach.” You feel deflated, defeated, and you want to give up.

    Your fabulous business that you created to help others create the lives of their dreams while creating the life of your dreams feels like it’s slipping away.

    IT DOESN’T HAVE TO!!!

    What I learned on my own journey is that the mindset of a successful woman in corporate America is VERY different than the mindset of a successful female entrepreneur. Without creating a mindset ready to propel into growth and success, the rest simply doesn’t matter.

    Get yourself on the right path NOW and start reprogramming your mindset to serve you instead of hold you back. And if you’re struggling, mindset and empowerment are my specialty; reach out to me HERE and let’s chat about the possibility of working together so we can get you on your way to building that fabulous business you desire and you’re worthy of!

     

    And you can finally escape your 9-to-5 prison!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. Are you playing small as an entrepreneur? Read 3 Ways to Know if You’re Playing Small as an Entrepreneur.

     

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