We can only change things in our life once we are aware of them. Only then, can we take action and make the changes that will truly impact our lives.
Have you ever been around someone who is so completely UNself-aware?? You wonder how it is possible that they are not seeing what is so blatant.
You know that person. You run into her while you’re rushing to get to a doctor’s appointment, which you let her know, and she basically stops you in your tracks and blathers on about pointless gossip. Or that person in the restaurant who you can hear from four tables away, who is apparently unaware that he is basically shouting and the loudest person in the restaurant. These folks are completely oblivious and UNself-aware.
Sometimes we’re even blind to things going on in our relationships. Maybe it’s because we’re hopeful that things will turn around or get better. Maybe it’s because what we believe about ourselves is that we’re not worth any better. Oh, those damaging stories we hold onto.
To make changes in our lives and in our businesses, we have to be willing to SEE what is happening.
I’m not saying this is going to be fun or feel good. It’s going to be uncomfortable and maybe even a little painful. This inward audit it a critical piece for you to do in order to be able to move forward in your business.
I want you to tap into your mindset to uncover your fears, identify and analyze your self-sabotage, and the bring forward the stories of your past from people who placed limitations on you that you believed to be true. The only way to address these things is to become aware of them, understand them, and release them.
How do you do this audit, you ask?
Block out time on your calendar; I’d say start with half an hour and see how that feels. If you like to journal, grab your journal. If you’re more visual, do visualization.
Sit quietly and comfortably. Breathe in deeply and exhale. Do your best to quiet your mind and take yourself back to a time when someone you loved or someone of authority berated you or made you feel worthless. Remember their words. Remember how you felt. Visualize the situation. Write it down if you’re journaling. Allow those emotions to flood you. Embrace them…even if they are painful.
Keep taking slow, deep breaths.
You are older now, wiser, and a stronger version of the person you used to be. I want you to take a moment and realize that their words, the way they treated, came from their own fear…maybe even as a way to try to protect you in some way. Maybe because their dreams were squashed, they wanted to douse the potential they see in you. You may never know the reason, but you can forgive and release.
With these feelings swelling inside you. I want you to inhale a deep, cleansing, healing breath. And, as you exhale, I want you to envision the negative energy you feel as though it was a cloud of black smoke and blow it away…far, far away from you. Do this three times or as many times as you need to in order to feel your body let it go.
Sit peacefully…inhaling and exhaling slowly. Feel your soul…feel the freedom.
In truth, these feelings never fully go away because the experience is part of you. Releasing them has to become part of your daily mindset work. Life happens and when it does, these fears, self-sabotage, and limitations get triggered. So, we have to continue to release them. And the more we work at it, the better we become at not allowing them to be our truth.
This practice opens us up to creating our new truth, our new reality that is abundant with possibilities for a successful, profitable coaching business so you can finally quit your 9-5 job…and live a life filled with love and happiness.
Now, with this self-awareness in mind, take a moment to audit your business. Really think about what’s not working and what is working. Sometimes we get so focused on doing, doing, doing, that we lose sight and become unaware that a change may need to happen in order for us to progress. Is there something you’re doing that is taking your time and energy, that you’ve been doing as part of your routine, that really isn’t moving your business forward? It may be time to stop doing that thing.
I’d love to know how this felt for you. Please share with me in the comments below.
If you’re ready for a practice that goes deeper, I invite you to get my Release and Focus Exercise.
What are others ways you can do a self-awareness audit in your business so you can make productive changes?
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P.P.S. One powerful way I have been working on my mindset is by using the ThinkUp app. It’s a free app that also has paid options with more features. You simply type in your positive affirmations or choose from the hundreds of affirmations the app offers and then record them in your voice. The app then adds meditation music in the background of your voice saying your positive affirmations. The most optimal way to use it is at night while you’re falling asleep so as you’re drifting off to sleep, and for however long you set the timer, you’re feeding your brain, your subconscious, with your positive affirmations. Science shows that your subconscious is most receptive when you are unconscious, basically asleep. This is the perfect time to feed your positive affirmations to your mind using the ThinkUp app. Using your iPhone, check it out HERE and give it a try. This is an affiliate link and if choose to purchase (beyond the free option) using it, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you!! See full disclaimer.