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  • Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018 Empowerment Book of the Week – 2018

    Empowerment Book of the Week - 2018

     

    Hey, fabulous ladies!!

     

    Education is at the core of empowerment because knowledge…is POWER.

     

    Part of feeling empowered is directly related to how knowledgeable we feel. This year, I will be sharing with you one book each week that has empowerment at its core. The genres will vary from things like self-development to health and beauty products to mindset to business/entrepreneurship to lifestyle and exercise and many others.

     

    Sometimes we can feel empowered in one area of our life, but not other areas. The variety I will be sharing will help you tap into other areas, increase your knowledge, and fuel your empowerment.

     

    I’ll use this blog as the main spot for listing the books and I’ll update it each week with that week’s recommendation. I hope some of them tickle your fancy and I hope the ones you choose to read are truly helpful for you.

     

    To get your copy, simply click on the title of the book below.

     

    Week 1: A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose by Gay Hendricks PhD.

     

    Week 2: #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso. #GIRLBOSS proves that being successful isn’t about where you went to college or how popular you were in high school. It’s about trusting your instincts and following your gut; knowing which rules to follow and which to break; when to button up and when to let your freak flag fly.

     

    Knowledge is Power!

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your books!!

     

  • No more stinky underarms - naturally. No More Stinky Underarms – Naturally

    No more stinky underarms - naturally.

     

    If you’ve ever had “nervous” sweat, you are well aware of the putrid stench that billows out from under your arms, polluting the air around you. It’s all you can smell and you KNOW everyone around you can smell it…smell YOU. And all you want to do is hide in the bathroom.

     

    Oh, yes, I know this all too well.

     

    I was always a nervous kid. And ever since I can remember, my underarms have smelled like 14-day old meatloaf rotting in the Sahara Desert. Peeeewwww!!!

     

    When I was young, I used baby powder, hoping the sweet scent would camouflage my smell; it didn’t. As I got older, I bought into the advertising and used a popular deodorant/antiperspirant, at the time touting the highest percentage of aluminum to prevent odor. This was before I started educating myself on the toxins in many of our health and beauty products.

     

    At one point, I even got electrolysis on my underarms thinking it must be the hair causing my stink. While I LOVE never having to shave my underarms, the stench persisted.

     

    I was well into my thirties before I really started paying more attention to and researching the ingredients in the products I was using and slathering all over my skin.

     

    Now, you can find pretty much anything you want on the Internet. You can find evidence to support just about any side of any debate. What resonates with you will be what you choose to believe. For me, I try not to be an extremist, but rather to be informed and make the best choice possible for me based on what I choose to believe.

     

    Whether aluminum is directly connected to Alzheimer’s disease or not, whether parabens (often in deodorants) are directly connected to breast cancer or not, these are not things I want absorbing into my body on a daily basis. This is my personal choice. There’s a good bit of breast cancer in my family and I’d like to help my tatas stay healthy. 🙂

     

    If you’re looking for a healthier alternative for your deodorant, I’m sharing with you here some of my discoveries. If you decide to try them, I hope they work well for you.

     

    Natural Deodorants

     

    Option 3: Schmidt’s Deodorant Stick

    Schmidts Natural Deoderant Fragrance Free

    For me, this is option 3 because it didn’t do much to stop the rotting smell of my underarms. If you do NOT struggle with nervous sweat, this may be a good option for you. They have a variety of scents as well as unscented. Free of aluminum, propylene glycol, parabens, and phthalates. Gluten-free. Certified Vegan and cruelty-free. You can find it HERE.

     

    Option 2: Lavanila The Healthy Deodorant

    Lavanila The Healthy Deoderant

    I like the soft scent of the vanilla lavender. They have a variety of scents, including a fragrance free one for those who are super sensitive (LINK). It works well to address my overly stinky underarms. I have it ranked number two because it doesn’t work long enough for me and my body chemistry. I had to wash my underarms midday and reapply it.

     

    This is also a good option if you do not struggle with the smell of nervous sweat or if you don’t mind reapplying during the day. No aluminum. No parabens. All-natural ingredients. No harsh chemicals. Not tested on animals. No: petrochemicals, phthalates, propylene glycol, mineral oils, silicone, synthetic dyes, sulfates, or parabens. You can find it HERE.

     

    Option 1: NATIVE DEODORANT

    NATIVE Deodorant

    This deodorant has worked best for me. They have a variety of scents, including unscented. I like the gentle scent of coconut & vanilla.

     

    In my crazy life of 10-12 hour corporate workdays followed by 2-3 hours a day on my business, ladies, I confess…there are days (sometimes 3 in a row) where I simply don’t have time to shower. Yup, I wrote it, you read it. Basically, I am marinating in my own juices! Fess up, I know I’m not alone. While it grosses me out, it is a reality sometimes (thankfully not very often). And during that time, this deodorant has NOT failed me. It has kept my horrific stench AWAY! 🙂

     

    The only thing I don’t care for is the slight overflow of product on the rim of the stick. When I put the lid back on, it then squeezes that overflow down so it gets on my hands when removing and replacing the lid. I’m a bit of a clean-freak so I wipe it after every use.

     

    Paraben free. Aluminum free. You can find it HEREUse coupon code: HEALTH10 to get 10% off your entire order (minimum order $15).

     

    A couple of things to note:

    1) These are natural deodorants and not organic. They do not have the USDA organic seal. I remain on the hunt for an organic one that I like and that works for me and my body chemistry (aka stinky underarms!). If I find one, you can be sure I’ll share it.

     

    2) These are all deodorants ONLY and NOT antiperspirants. So, they will help with odor, but they will not prevent you from sweating. Our bodies are meant to sweat. Stopping that natural process is not a good idea. Aside from keeping our body temperature regulated by cooling us down when needed, sweating helps us to expel toxins, thus supporting proper immune function and helping to prevent diseases related to toxic overload.

     

    3) I also have yet to find a deodorant that doesn’t leave white residue on the underarms of my clothing.

     

    Here is some research I did for myself. You may find it helpful. Be informed and do your research.

     

    Paraben, Mineral Oils, Petrolatum

     

    I hope you found this review helpful. If you try any of these options, I’d love to know how you make out. So, come back here and share in the comments below.

     

    Get educated and be empowered about the choices you make with your hygiene products.

     

    Be empowered,

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you like your products!!

  • Gift Guide for the Empowered Woman Gift Guide for the Empowered Woman

    Gift Guide for the Empowered Woman

    Being empowered means to give power to, to enable, or permit. Make 2018 the year that you claim your power!! The year that you decide to allow yourself to tap into that power inside you. Choose to take steps to build your amazing business and create your fabulous life!

     

    Here are some gift ideas to help feed that power through honing your mindset to serve you. Just click on the item you want and you’ll be taken to Amazon where you can purchase it.

     

    Intense and very much worth your time to read it…

    Broken Children Grown-Up Pain by Paul Hedgestrom.

    Excellent book for learning about the power of your mindset and how to use it…

    Mindset - The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.

    Oh, just so darn good…

    Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza

    Perfect gift for the person who knows the power of journaling (or is just getting started) and doesn’t have a lot of time…

    The Five-Minute Journal by Intelligent Change

    Gaiam Muse meditation headband for those who could use a helpful tool to quiet your mind…

    Gaiam Muse Headband

     

    Here are some gifts to help keep your skin beautiful withOUT toxic chemicals, harmful parabens, and other unhealthy ingredients.

     

    I love this for daytime…

    STEM CELLULAR Anti-Wrinkle Moisturizer by Juice Beauty

    I use this at night and love the very subtle scent that fades after a few minutes…

    Juice Beauty Stem Cellular Anti-Wrinkle Overnight Cream

    Super hydrating for your body in the dry heat during the winter…

    KOPARI coconut melt.

    Perfect for your face and neck, I use this one at night…

    insta natural ORGANIC ROSEHIP OIL

     

    And a few fun and cozy things for the fashionably empowered woman!

     

    How cute is this pompom hat??

    Women's winter slouchy knit beanie.

    Super-cozy and soft pompom throw blanket…

    Pompom cable knit throw blanket.

    Perfect little trio for staying warm and cozy…

    Arctic Paw three piece winter bundle.

    From your business to your life, it’s time to stop waiting for permission.

     

    Let 2018 be the year you say, “Yes!” to YOU!

     

    Be empowered,

     

    P.S. There are affiliate links in here. If you choose to purchase using these links, I will receive a small commission. So, I thank you and do hope you enjoy your goodies!! 🙂

  • The Bottom of the List The Bottom of the List

    The Bottom of the List

    I love making lists! Grocery lists, Christmas lists, to-do lists, life lists…all kinds of lists! I feel so productive and happy when I check things off the list.

     

    I’m a bit of an organization freak. With my chaotic life, my lists help me prioritize things that need to get done and also keep track of the things I want to get done.

     

    Each workday, I make a list for both my corporate job and my business, Emerge Empowerment. I prioritize the non-negotiable items that absolutely must get done before I go to bed at night. Then I draw a line and add some items I’d like to get done if I have time.

     

    The weekends get a different list and the list…is rather long. Similarly, it gets lines for things that I have to make sure get done, like grocery shopping, and then there are the house projects or things I’d like to get done, like touch-up painting spots on the living room walls. Often times, I end up with a couple lists, one for each day.

     

    I go about my workdays and weekends getting things done that need to get done and crossing them off my lists. At some point, the list just gets messy. And with my itch to stay organized, I decide I need to consolidate and refresh the list. So, the items not crossed off go onto a fresh sticky-note and I add anything new.

     

    There is something troubling about list-making though. When writing and rewriting and rewriting again the same things over and over, it can seem as though you’re not accomplishing anything. This can lead to feeling defeated and we go down the dreaded path of judging and ridiculing ourselves for not getting enough done.

     

    The other day, as I wrote down, “-cut stickers off window candles” for honestly probably the 40th time, I STOPPED. “Ah! I’m tired of writing this down week after week after week!” In that moment I decided not to rewrite the three items at the bottom of the list.

     

    Instead, I completed them!

     

    And, oh, my goodness did it feel amazing!! Who knew how great it would feel to get those things DONE?! Now, they were not at all a priority. But they were these insignificant things that kept nagging at me. And they were things I knew weren’t going to take huge amounts of time. They were just things that were unimportant that I simply didn’t feel like doing, but wanted done. Completing them and NOT rewriting them on my list felt so…cleansing.

     

    Are you a list-maker? What’s on the bottom of your list that you can do and stop rewriting? Bring up three items from the bottom of your list and just do them. You will experience a fabulous sense of accomplishment! And then…celebrate!

     

    “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”

    ~Thomas Carlyle

     

    Share below at least one of the items from the bottom of your list that you plan to knock off and never rewrite again!

     

    Be empowered,

     

    P.S. To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my free Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs, at http://bit.ly/EEEFBGroup.

  • Entrepreneurship - The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose Entrepreneurship – The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose

    Entrepreneurship - The Emotional Turmoil and Living Your Purpose

    Many of us seek freedom when we transition from corporate America to being an entrepreneur. Freedom to be our own boss. Freedom to have our own schedules. Freedom to live a life we desire.

     

    We desire this freedom so badly that we push ourselves…hard. We endure the mental anguish. We push through the physical torture. We can almost taste the freedom on the other side.

     

    Often times, our corporate jobs lack that magic ingredient that makes us feel like we’re serving a purpose in life. We feel empty. And we know we’re meant for something more. Something than has meaning and adds value to our lives and the lives of others. This burning, passionate desire drives us to become an entrepreneur.

     

    And so we set out on our entrepreneurial journey. Balancing our corporate job with our new business and family and well…life…will present challenges and stresses, but with determination and motivation, we follow our hearts to live our purpose.

     

    5:00 AM…the alarm goes off. I lay still and drained. My first thoughts are filled with how to prioritize all the things I need to get done for my corporate job before I can even think about working on my business. My body instantly sinks more heavily into the mattress and my heart follows.

     

    I force my limbs to move, letting my legs dangle from the side of the bed. My head hangs as though a sandbag is wrapped around it.

     

    Melancholy swells inside me.

     

    I put on my workout clothes and drag myself to the treadmill. The stretching feels good and I feel the blood begin to course through my body, waking me up. I do enjoy my treadmill time. It’s treasured me-time. My spirits lift as I step onto the belt and hit start.

     

    My legs move and my body and mind become alert. I say my prayers and start my mindset work; replacing old stories in my head that no longer serve me with powerful, positive thoughts of person I truly am and the life I’m creating for myself.  Joy, calm, and confidence spill into my body.

     

    Energy ignites me while my mind focuses on what steps I will take TODAY towards creating the life I want through my business. I say my mantras and affirmations and I visualize what my life will look like and how I will feel. My body floods with happiness and my soul feels free.

     

    As the seconds tick down on the treadmill, I feel my legs and arms tighten as the dozens of tasks awaiting me at my corporate job come surging like a tidal wave into my head. The sting pinches at the base of my head, sending what feels like electric shocks down my neck and shooting through my spine. Hopelessness veils over me.

     

    I shower and head to the prison of my corporate job. The imaginary shackles bind me to my desk through endless hours of conference calls…meaningless conference calls. I churn through inaccurate data, babysit the work of others, and fumble with the broken tools we have to use.

     

    I answer one email and 10 come in. Conference calls are back-t0-back for six hours and we’re not supposed to multitask. Text messages fly in rapidly. My heart races as my workload piles up. I stare at the number 520 next to my inbox and my chest tenses. Five hours into my day, I realize I haven’t gotten up from my desk and when I go to move, my joints are stiff.

     

    While listening to a pointless conference call, my mind wanders a bit to my business as an idea for a blog pops into my head. A spark of pleasure tickles me and I jot down the idea on a sticky note.

     

    “Where are we on that, Debbie?” The question jolts me back to my cell and my heart sinks again.

     

    And throughout the day, this emotional roller coaster hurls me around like a rag doll, stealing my freedom and robbing me of living my life…my purpose.

     

    Finally around 9:00 PM (and often times later), exhaustion forces me to stop. Now I can devote some time to my business. I check my 300+ emails, follow up on my social media platforms, and start working on the blog idea I had jotted down earlier. My brain in a fog, creativity escapes me.

     

    And suddenly, I feel very…alone.

     

    The online world has quieted down at this hour. I feel stuck and end up popping into the Facebook groups of some mentors I follow. They have tons of followers. Their messages are enlightening and inspired. They’re posting frequently and all over the place.

     

    “How am I ever going to accomplish this and be successful?” I wonder. “What am I doing? I don’t even know what I’m doing? There’s no way I can do this.”

     

    The fears and doubts I worked so hard to wash away in the morning with my mindset work have come blazing back with fury. All of the old stories that, “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t,” and “I’ll never make any money,” rage through me.

     

    In my state of sheer fatigue, I allow defeat to steal my purpose and smash my desires. Tears blur my sight.

     

    For a moment, I wallow in the self-pity. But ONLY for a moment.

     

    “No!” I determine zealously. “I will NOT let this be my existence,” I vow to myself.

     

    “I was put on this earth to make an impact. I was put here for a purpose. To help women find the power within them. To help them know and feel their worth. To help them transform their lives and create their own successful businesses. To help them build a life they fall in love with every day. To help them achieve their freedom. And to achieve my own freedom,” I remind myself.

     

    “I will NOT give up. I will NOT give in,” I promise myself.

     

    And now I want YOU to make a promise to yourself. NEVER, EVER give up…EVER!

     

    Life is filled with ups and downs, this we know. The transition from corporate America to being on entrepreneur will try to chew you up, spit you out, and stomp all over you.

     

    But, you…YOU are brave, you are passionate, you are empowered!! You have such great strength inside of you. Tap into it every day. Practice your mindset work every day. You have the ability to power through all the negativity. You control your mind…your destiny. And I believe in YOU.

     

    You are capable of all that you desire. Live your purpose.

     

    What purpose are YOU living? Please share below. Let’s keep each other going!

     

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my free Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs, at http://bit.ly/EEEFBGroup.

  • Entrepreneurship is a journey of self-discovery. Entrepreneurship – The Mental Anguish

    I remember when I was young and thought about what my life would be like. What kind of job I would have. Would I have a family? Where would I live?

    I was a happy child with a creative mind, a caring heart, and a thoughtful soul. And I loved helping people, it made me feel good. As I got older, this desire grew and I got my undergraduate degree in psychology/sociology/anthropology. I loved learning about how people work inside their brains and how I could help them feel better. One thing I knew for sure was that I did NOT want to work behind a desk all day in an air conditioned office.

    And guess what? Yup, that’s exactly where I landed. Since I was not encouraged to follow my dreams and my hopes and desires were squashed, I let go of any fantasies about the life I desired. And I followed a path that was supposed to set me up for life.

    I got a corporate job with a pension, 401K, and benefits plan. I also went on to earn my MBA. And I loathed every minute of my life. The stress became unbearable, the hours insanely exhausting, and I had no life outside of work.

    All I had set myself up for was an early death.

    And for the first time in my life, I decided it was time to follow my heart. I made the decision to be an entrepreneur. And I was filled with passion about something that would actually have a positive impact on this world. I would finally be helping people. And I was lit up inside.

    Though my 12-14 hour days didn’t leave time for much else in my life, I let my passion drive me. I stayed up late, got up early, and sacrificed any moment of available time to dive into my business. I spent hours upon hours Googling, YouTube-ing, and DIY-ing everything I could to figure out the whole online entrepreneur thing.

    I kept researching and learning; taking online courses and participating in challenges. I interacted on Facebook groups and social media platforms. I never knew I was going to need to learn how to be a photographer, a marketing genius, an advertising mogul, a brilliant copywriter, a savvy salesperson, an IT expert, a branding wizard, and so…much…more!!

    Hours led to days. Days led to weeks. And I wasn’t get very far. And I definitely wasn’t making the money because I wasn’t selling anything because I was spending all my time trying to figure out what I was even doing! Any hopes of being able to leave my corporate job were thwarted by overwhelm.

    Fog filled my brain…complete and utter mental anguish. I had lost sight of my purpose, the reason I started my business in the first place. How was I going to help others when I couldn’t even figure things out myself? Fear and self-doubt slithered their way in and I lost faith in myself. And no revenue was coming into my business. Working my corporate job and throwing myself into my business only to be unsuccessful; despair had set in.

    Finally…I found the missing piece…mindset.

    I had been so confident as a high-achiever in my corporate job, doing my research, analyzing my data, and presenting my findings…no problem. My “value” came from producing delieverables, which had nothing to do with believing in myself.

    What I realized was that I needed to work on me before I was going to see any success in helping others. I needed to learn how to heal myself, believe in myself, and allow myself to dream again. I needed to learn house to reprogram all the years of crappy programming I had allowed to control my life. That old programming has us telling ourselves the most awful things, creating demons inside us. I had to go on a journey of self-exploration and learn how to live without judgement. To learn how to love myself and know, unequivocally, that I am worthy and I can help people find their own worth.

    I reframed the use of my time and focused…every day…on mindset work. And within one month, my life began to change. I started making the right connections with people who could help me learn exactly what I needed to know to be successful in the online space. The right opportunities started popping up. I found amazing resources. And I felt exhilaration fill me! The fog cleared and my path was clear.

    The entrepreneurial journey is not an easy one. But when you focus on transforming your mindset to serve you rather than hinder you, blissful, magical things begin to happen.

    Your life is what you make it and it all starts with YOU.

    There are many ways to work on our mindset. Please share one of yours below.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Touching a Life Touching a Life

    As an entrepreneur, you dive into your business; head first, feet first, whatever…you just dive. You have a passion burning inside of you and a message you want to share. You’re filled with energy and ideas and goals and dreams. And you know you can make a difference in this world.

    I have found that most of us truly want to help people. And helping people is pretty broad. So, you set a goal, make a plan, and strategize how to get there. You make lists and hone in on what you really want to do and who your audience is. You think about what your business will look like. Will it be strictly E-commerce? Or do you want a brick-and-mortar facility? You think about your brand and what you want to stand for; how people feel when they think of you and your business. You create a logo and get business cards. You create profiles on social media and start interacting with your following.

     

     

    There is a lot to think about when you’re first starting out. And if you don’t already know people who have done what you’re trying to do, gosh, is it overwhelming. If you’re lucky enough, you stumble across an amazing coach or two who help you find your way. And even then, there’s so much to do and learn.

    At times, you may get hit with that awful misperception called fear. And that dreaded self-doubt creeps in. You become apprehensive and begin to wonder if you can even do this. You question yourself, “What was I thinking? I can’t do this!” A day or two goes by and you feel your power again, “Other women are doing it. They’re not smarter than me. They’re not better than me. I can do this!” A few hours go by or even a few more days. Maybe you’re struggling to get your website up. Those self-deprecating thoughts rear their ugly heads again. The emotions can be quite intense. And if you don’t have a support-system on your side, failure may consume and destroy you. For me, the juggling of my corporate job with trying to start up my Emerge business has me in a constant state of teeter-tottering between, “I’m out of my mind, I can’t do this!” and “This is what I’m meant to do. I can so do this!”

    Determined to succeed and do work that you love and has value and gives you a sense of purpose, you forge ahead. You create content you hope will resonate with people and help build your tribe. You interact on all of your social media and wonder if anyone is even reading what you’re posting. Maybe you even get a “Like” on Facebook or Instagram or perhaps a “Share” on Twitter. But then, you think, “What does that really mean?”

     

    I was spiraling around in all
    of this like a tornado.

     

    And then one day, I received a “Like” on one of my Twitter posts. I sent a message to thank the young lady for liking my Tweet. To my surprise, she messaged me back to thank me for my uplifting posts. She let me know that she looks forward to them and that reading my “encouraging messages has transformed me for the better!” Well, my mouth dropped open.

    We then exchanged messages back and forth where I learned more about her and she shared some background on her life to explain why she was so impacted by my posts. She shared with me a video of her speech called, Life’s Choices, that she now presents to students around the country. After watching her video and being honored that she shared it with me, I then understood the impact of my words on her.


    And I cried.

     

    I cried deep and hard. I couldn’t contain it. I had touched a life. I…me…had made a positive impact on a delicate soul who values my messages. My chest convulsed as tears poured out and my heart was filled with pure joy and the knowledge that I can make a difference. I sit here with moisture sweeping my eyes as I write this. This incredible woman had created a defining moment for me. A moment that told me, without a doubt, I am absolutely on the right path and I can make my business successful and truly help women.

    This astounding woman is LaNae Stockwell and she has given me permission to share her story through this video. I invite you to watch it, be moved by it, and share it.

    To my entrepreneurial friends out there, NEVER EVER give up. You have a message, you have a purpose, and there are so many people’s lives to touch. Power on. If your moment hasn’t happened yet, have faith, it will.

    Never ever give up.

    To my Emerge Family, thank you for welcoming me into your lives and being part of my journey as I become part of yours. I am humbled and grateful.

    To LaNae, you are a miracle. Your purpose is loud and clear. You have survived an indescribable tragedy and can share your experience to help others make better decisions in their own lives. You are meant to be here and change lives. Thank you for sharing your story.

     

    We all have a purpose.

    Draw from the beauty of the message inside you and make the world a better place.

     

    Have you had a defining moment that changed your life? I’d love to know about it. Comment below and share your experience.

    Be empowered,

    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.

  • Financial Disaster - There is Hope Financial Disaster – There is Hope

     

    When I was a little girl, I was taken shopping and told I could try on a few outfits to then pick out one we would buy. Delighted and excited, I tried them all on and narrowed my preferences down to two that I wanted help with the final decision. I don’t recall what happened, but I remember leaving the store with nothing. I do, however, remember feeling sad and not worth the price of one outfit.

    Years passed and I graduated from college and got my first real job. I had nothing appropriate to wear as my clothes were all college clothes. I was offered again to be taken shopping. With a conservative approach, I selected versatile items like a black sheath dress, a black blazer, a skirt, a sweater (on sale for only $20.00!!) and two tops. Before popping out of the fitting room, I surveyed my selections. Practical, can be mixed and matched…a good start. When I emerged from the fitting room and showed what I had settled on, she took the $20.00 sweater and said, “I’ll get you this one.”

    A hammer smashed my chest. I can afford the $20.00 sweater! Needless to say, my self-worth took yet another of many blows.

    Finally on my own in the world with a job and a credit card, I felt free! If I wanted something…I bought it! I didn’t need anyone’s approval. And I didn’t need anyone to make me feel worthy. I was going to buy whatever I wanted!!!

    And, boy, did I.


    And so the debt grew…and grew…and GREW…for over 25 years. I was drowning. And somehow, no matter how much I spent or what I spent it on, my self-worth didn’t grow. All that had happened, was that I had become a financial disaster.

    Not only was I a financial disaster, I thoroughly and deeply despised my job. Sixteen years in, I dreaded waking up each morning with my heart racing, unattainable deadlines, and hundreds of unanswered emails. The stress and anxiety became overwhelming…almost paralyzing.

    Knowing I was meant for more in this life, something valuable and meaningful…a purpose, the concept of Emerge Empowerment was born. A fire ignited inside me as I imagined this incredible company I would build and how I would help women learn how to empower themselves…something I didn’t even feel in my own life. I wanted to be empowered and teach other women how to find their power, their voice, their value…to let them know they matter. My passion grew by the day.


    But how in the world was I going to create a business with a mountain of debt towering over me and trapping me into the job and life I so loathed?!

     

    Thankfully, my life-path, through connections I made with Emerge, led me to a woman who is now my Financial Coach. Together, we dug into ALL of my finances and she asked me questions for which I had NO answers. She guided me and I found the answers. We reviewed things from my debt to my Living Will to my 401K to my pension to my health benefits to my life insurance and my car insurance…all of it! My financial life splattered out before me. She helped me figure out where I had the right coverages, not enough, and even too much in some cases. I learned what would happen to all things tied to my corporate job when I leave. We dissected my debt…ugh! Embarrassment and shame filled me.

    We looked at my current situation as a whole and figured out how to rearrange things in a way that made sense so we could build a timeline for my transition out of corporate America and into Emerge full-time. We looked at what to do and how to do it, making each step attainable instead of daunting. We outlined the steps and I felt empowered because now I have knowledge and a solid course of action. She sloughed off my embarrassment and doused my shame, putting me in control of my financial future by helping me learn. Uncertainty and fear no long have me in their grasp and there is hope on the horizon. Learning, understanding, and taking the right steps has increased my self-worth and it feels incredible!

    This amazing woman is Fran Robinson. Fran is giving a 4-part series of classes here at Emerge. Whether you’re single, married, or divorced; older or younger; good with money or a disaster like me; in a corporate job or an entrepreneur, Fran can help guide you to making sound decisions with your finances by helping you know and understand them. There will be one class per quarter through 2017. The second class, Financial Literacy, is on 4/20/17. To give you a good foundation, purchase the first class, Financial WellnessAttached is a very helpful worksheet to get you started.

    Take charge of your financial life now! It’s never too late! You matter.

    Whether you’re able to attend this seminar or not, working with a Financial Coach who has your best interests at heart is incredibly valuable.

    Understand your financial life!

     

    I’m curious to know what strategies you use to keep your financial life in order both NOW and secure for your future. Please comment below.

    Be empowered,

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    To connect with incredible, supportive, like-minded new female entrepreneurs transitioning from corporate jobs to online coaching businesses, come join my Facebook group, Emerging Empowered Entrepreneurs.